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RE: Submissive mind readers and unrealistic femdoms - 6/8/2008 10:55:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: stella41bHim: Ma'am... I don't think they do asshole flavor soda.

It seems they have broken the barriers of technology!

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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

"Coast, this juice tastes like ASS! Where the hell did you get this?"

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RE: Submissive mind readers and unrealistic femdoms - 6/15/2008 4:39:29 AM

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Hello All, Im new here, Im switch by nature but having always been in a dom role, i am now looking to take on the role of sub, I dont think it matters if you are on a roadtrip with your mistress, or a vanilla partner, or perhaps a buddy or work colleague, If your going into the store to pay for the petrol, isnt it curtesy to ask your roadtrip companion, "want anything from the store?" surely a colleague or a buddy wouldn't care, but a domme or partner, would surely appreciate the thoughtfulness? I take pride in the way i treat others, just like i would take pride in my service to a mistress were i to meet one, I think a sub cannot be expected to mindread requests, but its not that hard to be thoughtful.

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RE: Submissive mind readers and unrealistic femdoms - 6/15/2008 7:04:06 AM

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This looks like a sin of omission and a sin of comission wrapped up into one. Did he forget to ask and make sure of or did he forget to look and do? I suspect that in times of regular activity of life, mistakes can be made by either the sub or the Domme. When effective communication goes awry, the D/s aspect will kick in. Isn't this the part that's enjoyed? Depending on the length and depth of the relationship the communication is either limited or enhanced and so is the D/s involved. I guess it's all about how much is omitted or comitted. Enjoy your time together, you'll last longer.

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RE: Submissive mind readers and unrealistic femdoms - 6/15/2008 7:27:32 AM

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Drinks and more offered drinks...somehow I think he may have to anticipate the need for a BATHROOM! It's a long trip you know.

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RE: Submissive mind readers and unrealistic femdoms - 6/15/2008 7:54:53 AM

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Hypothetically, speaking and this is hypothetically, one presumes this is being viewed from a bdsm
perspective, not real life, as in long journey and all pressures of real life.

Surely sugary drinks are bad for ye...????
Did he do it on purpose, will she punish him, what shoulda de punishment be.

He may have simply forgot, real couples, wether in de scene or not are not always attuned to each
others needs - it happens.
Might add, during a session or play, would folks actually take sugary drinks or food to refresh
themselves, bearing in mind sugary drinks, give the body a false high followed by a nasty low.

They are not slow release foods and could in some circumstances be damgerous.
Ehhhh just saying.. but as yez say..hypothetically speaking..soo....

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RE: Submissive mind readers and unrealistic femdoms - 6/15/2008 9:13:14 AM

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I can be a B guy too much. There are times when I do take initiative, but there are so many times that I simply refuse. If a woman wants to wear the thigh highs boots, she has to pay the price of asking for what she wants. I subscribe to this too much, I will admit. Many times I think that milady would like this or that or the other, but until she tells me, I won't do it.

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RE: Submissive mind readers and unrealistic femdoms - 6/15/2008 9:32:34 AM

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manthing is so busy with schedules, work, and other responsabilities that I'm always touched and amazed that he spoils Me the way he does. He makes it a point to anticipate my every wish, all the time.

Ergo, in the event of a temporary oversight whether pertaining to a beverage or any other want or need, he's allowed.

I hope that I would never insult him by rewarding his magnanamous and generous efforts on my behalf with a plaintive whine or complaint because he'd overlooked one little thing. Egads!

If there's anything I truly want or need, at any time, I tell him so. He graciously and happily complies. I've learned that I have to be careful, because if I ask for a 45 ft yacht I'll probably find one parked in my driveway tomorrow.

Road trips in point: on a recent trip out of state to pick up some cattle, 4 good tires in a row blew out. 4. On one trip. Good tires. New tires with less than 6 months wear. Sadly, they had been old in the tire store, and the tread just peeled off in traffic like peeling an apple in the sink. You'd think that by tire number 3, certainly by tire number 4, he'd have gotten exasperated and vented in a most unbecoming temper. But no, he remained cheerful, albeit frustrated, reassuring ME because I was so upset over it. At every stop and every new tire, he always asked if there was anything I needed, drink, snack, anything at all. As if he wasn't doing enough already.

I'll jump for a road trip with manthing any day. If I want a beverage somewhere enroute, I'll just ask for it!

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RE: Submissive mind readers and unrealistic femdoms - 6/15/2008 9:45:30 AM

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It's unwise to expect anything that hasn't been specifically trained.

If you want them to anticipate some things, then train them on those things.

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RE: Submissive mind readers and unrealistic femdoms - 6/15/2008 11:58:36 AM

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It never hurts to ask, but if I really want something, I tell him.

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RE: Submissive mind readers and unrealistic femdoms - 6/15/2008 9:06:00 PM

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Interesting scenario. However, I've done a lot of road trips, as driver, as passenger, as navigator, supernumary. Short version? It's a pit stop, for everyone. Driver and all. Sub or dom, basic road manners cause me to ask whether anyone in the car needs or wants anything that can be handled here. Toilet, stretch break, liquid, etc.

All that said, in the specified scenario, assuming that my sub has been my sub for more than a week, he'll know that I want to have fluid available at all times, and (if the little drinks cooler isn't full of Pepsi, water, and maybe a V8 or two) he'll at least ask. 'Cause if he doesn't, I'll go get it (if I haven't already). But I ain't about to get on the road without.

And I really like WalterRego's post on the topic, but we've already agreed that we both regret the 3,000 miles distance. (Waving!)

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RE: Submissive mind readers and unrealistic femdoms - 6/15/2008 10:46:04 PM

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Have fun.

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RE: Submissive mind readers and unrealistic femdoms - 6/16/2008 5:48:40 AM

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I'm not adding anything original here. If I'm out on the road, if someone is with me, and I go in the store at a gas station, I always ask if they need anything. On a longer trip, I'll ask if a bathroom break is needed. Sometimes people don't think about these things until you pull out. How many times have people made those suggestions, and someone in the car says, "that's not a bad idea."?

Just make it part of your routine anytime you are out. I don't necessarily see it as a submissive duty, just a way of showing that whoever you are with, be it your domme or some pals, you are considerate enough to think of others. People generally appreciate kindness and thoughtfulness.

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RE: Submissive mind readers and unrealistic femdoms - 6/16/2008 7:17:44 AM

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A submissive person is a beautiful thing. One thing that can be inherent in this type of personality is: waiting for orders or direction from the Dominant.

This just takes training. Once that sub knows that it is part of her needs for them to be aware of next time: She wants to be asked if she would like something from the store inside; they can make a note.
I have my house slave keep a small notebook with him at all times. He makes notes in it. One side of the little flip pad has regular routines and small lists for those protocols. The other side has day to day notes and reminders.

The '* ask re:drink or? at each rest stop' would be on the protocol side of the pad.

I have another sub who never needs notes but he was with a FemDomme for 4 years so he is already trained to have his eyes open at all times for what might make his Lady happy.

I look for the heart that lives to serve. Then I make that heart mine.

As long as the sub is a relatively quick learner: The rest is about patience and appropriate training.

ME

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