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She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 8:39:39 AM   
BigBaby


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Status: offline 		  Well I promised I would do a follow-up as to what happenned when/if my new Mommy showed so hear it is.  I am a Big-dumb-Baby!  haven't talked to her for 2 days now and don't think I probly ever will again?  I was dumb enough to send her money on 3 differrent occasions and thought she was very genuine and just going thru hard times as she was supposedly staying with some friends which would also be a good reason for her to be willing to relocate, we e-mailed frequently and talked on the phone often and well now she has dissappeared!  I am not seeking sympathy or to be slammed just promised to follow up on this as it progressed and now sad to say I think it has ended on a bad note! I am more sad and hurt than mad about the money I lost and I knew the possible cosequences of what I was doing but in my own defense when you live the life of an adult baby you are willing to take chances like this in order to meet someone with whom to share in this sort of lifestyle and I do believe it is a lifestyle which is totally misunderstood and I do plan to write a story and post it somewhere here and maybe it will be encouraging/enlightining as to the possibilities and fun to be had within this lifestyle? Well I am not going to let this get me down and am moving on,                                    baby jerry 
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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 9:01:14 AM   
TermsConditions


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry that you had that experience and it's certainly hurtful to be treated that way and having your trust betrayed.

You're an example to all by staying hopeful and keeping on keeping on!

Best of luck!

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 9:13:41 AM   
LaMistressa


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Status: offline 		I don't think you had mentioned sending her money in your posts before -- that is never a good idea (unless you are seeing a pro.) Maybe now you understand why so many of us had somewhat jaded and cynical responses to her "hospitalization."

I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. Hang in there.

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 9:23:30 AM   
Celeres


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I know you're not looking for pity, or even words of encouragement... but man, I feel pissed FOR you... grrr... I hate it when people take advantage of kind hearted people.

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 9:34:06 AM   
RealSub58


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Status: offline 		Jerry,  You wrote this once a bit back when she didnt show up but ended in the ER....
I am also pissed as hell at your "bad luck."  People like this are just without integrity and I truly hope your sense of being a pretty good judge of character has improved greatly.
hugs...and if I was a domme I'd have a big shoulder on which you could cry.  rs

The internet can be a playground for lies, deceit and cyber goo goo, I realize this as I have experienced it too many times!  I am however a pretty good judge of character and sincerity and I believe my new Mommy to be very honest and sincere!  I believe her when she says that she was sick and yes there is the possibility we will never meet?  I remember just recently telling her that life is about taking chances and I am a gambler, actually I am a blackjack dealer in real life so I am rolling the dice and flipping the cards and hoping I win lol, I also relate relationships to a song by 38 special called "hold on loosely" and is exactly what I intend to do in this situation, If she shows up great if not I will move on I guess, If I had to venture a bet tho, I would bet big that she will show up!  baby jerry

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 10:01:17 AM   
BotanicalMiss


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Status: offline 		I'm truly sorry to hear the way this turned out for you. I know most if not all of us have had similar experiences and know how it feels. *hugs*
I freely admit that I'm one who has never understood this aspect of the lifestyle and as such, would love to read a story from someone who is actually involved in it, to try to get a better understanding. If you write, you'll have at least one interested reader.
Best of luck to you in your ongoing search.

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 10:03:20 AM   
SweetNika


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Status: offline 		jerry,
I'm sorry you were deceived, this is why I have taken the philosophy that until we share the same air you are a stranger to me. It is much harder to be scammed or lied to if you are looking the person in the eyes but when we are desperate we often act impuslively and allow ourselves to become victims. Hopefully you will not consider this a mistake but a lesson, or several lessons and rethink how you respond to such a situation in the future.
 
blessed be,
Nika

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 10:07:16 AM   
califsue


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Status: offline 		i am so sorry to hear .... unfortunately there are all kinds in this world
 
may you continue your search and in time find the ONE for you.

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 10:13:51 AM   
MySweetSubmssive


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry that this happened to you.  Sending money to a stranger is always a risk.  You seem to have been aware of that when you did it.  This is a great, great reason for taking things slowly and being intimate (and I would say that entering into someone's financial life is a type of intimacy) in a thoughtful, measured way.

Mss

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 10:15:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am sorry to hear this.  I know from reading your posts how excited you were about the visit.

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 10:31:16 AM   
BigBaby


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Status: offline 		Well now I am wondering why I even posted this here? Maybe I am deep down seeking a little sympathy, I knew it was likely to happen and thanks for the kind words from all of you! I guess I am hoping that it will be a reminder to anyone else who might read this to be cautious when they encounter this type of situation? I knew the risks and possible rewards and I did read the warnings about scammers on this site. I am wandering if I should report it and how to go about doing that so she can't get away with it again? She was very convincing and I am a very trusting and somewhat gullable person, I am also a gambler, I flipped the cards rolled the dice and lost...oh well won't be the first or last time I do that lol, on the up side I have a date tonight maybe I will just have a slip of the tongue and call her Mommy lol, baby jerry

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 10:44:08 AM   
undergroundsea


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Status: offline 		I am sorry to hear about your experience and extend to you my best wishes for your search.

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ORIGINAL: BigBaby
I am wandering if I should report it and how to go about doing that so she can't get away with it again?


In hindsight, do you see things that next time you would treat as flags, or that you would do differently? I think sharing such insights might help others avoid scams not only by her but by others like her.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 11:01:37 AM   
ThundersCry


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Status: offline 		Why not just enjoy your....date tonight.
 
Leave your kink at home...
 
I understand its a huge part of you, however...
 
Don`t let it rule...you.
 
 
Keep your chin...up.

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 12:31:16 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry things worked out this way for you...  I hope that you don't let it get you down too much!  You have a tough fetish to match up, you deserve someone who understands and cares.

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 12:32:30 PM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		Jerry there are many sites that deal with just the ABDL  side perhaps try those . This lesson upon your path was put in front of you for a reason , i do not know what that reason is but i hope you discover it and learn and grow from this experience .Try and find the positive , at least you found out her shallow ,deceitful intent and ways now early before you really got taken financially and emotionally . Sorry this had to happen and i also agree if you have a date  enjoy it and one day Mommy shall appear .
Best wishes upon your journey .

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 1:00:56 PM   
Misstoyou


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BigBaby

... I am also a gambler, I flipped the cards rolled the dice and lost...oh well won't be the first or last time I do that lol...



As long as you're not gambling more than you can lose, and are careful about *virtual* emotional investment, a fair philosophy.

I might suggest that you limit betting on the roll of the dice to once per person (as opposed to sending money *three* times without meeting.)

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 1:06:12 PM   
Puppy4goodHome


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Status: offline 		Im truly sorry to hear that it turned otu the way it did for you
you somtiems run into ppl like that and that is the problem with the gamers who ruin it for us who are real

see this is why i refuse to give money to anyone i dont know that i met online
this is why things don't work out at times

we as submissive when are asked for money we say no becouse this happens to us alot

In the same way as thinking Some Dommes wont talk or consider a submisive without a tribute upfront to make them think they are real well i say its a two way street and the gamers ruin it for all of us

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 1:22:56 PM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		Next time send Monoply Money , toss in a free hotel too . 

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 1:25:37 PM   
allcatsaregrey


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Status: offline 		Jerry,
I wasn't familiar with your other posts, but this one caught my eye as I was browsing. First, I am quite sorry to hear about your misfortune. Even when you know you are taking a risk which may will not end in your favor, it still hurts when the risk you took becomes a reality.

Second, I wish you the best of luck in the future; yours is a hard match, but there are definitely others out there for you. With persistance, good judgment and a necessary dose of reality and skepticism you will find a woman worthy enough to call Mommy. In the meantime, you may want to sit down and review any of the red flags which may have occurred (either obvious at the time or in hindsight) and file them away as things to look out for in the future. I know that this has helped me.

I, too, have been the victim of supposedly good judgment gone wrong. I think we all have, to some extent. We want to believe we can make a connection with someone we can trust who will reward our faith with their companionship. In this scene, its twice as hard as in the 'vanilla' world. However, I think that this experience will help you to appreciate your better match in the future. I know that my past negative experiences have really allowed me to fully appreciate my positive ones. It sounds trite, but you will undoubtedly experience this as well.

Good luck in your search - and on your date (who knows, maybe she is open to new ideas)!


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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/8/2008 2:11:13 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		That sucks, baby jerry. I'm sorry. I'm glad you seem to be taking it so well, but please do learn from this experience. Don't give anyone money until after you've been with them realtime, for a while. I don't mean to lecture you but I've been following your thread, and I don't want you to be hurt like this again.
    I have a special place in my heart, for big babies like you. AB's just fascinate me. I would love it if you'd post a long, detailed story giving us all an idea of what you wish it would be like to be with you. A day or a week in the life of baby jerry, with his Mommy. I'm not sure there's a place to post stories like that on the boards, but if not then you could just post it in your journal and refer us all there.

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