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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/10/2008 9:11:21 PM   
MySweetSubmssive


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Status: offline 		I had limited sympathy for babyjerry before, but once he said he gave money to this person three times, acknowledged that he had likely been had, and admitted that he willingly gambled and played a part,  ... and went back for more, my sympathy went way down.

I understand that some folks have disdain for her behavior.  Is there a similar disdain for his?   I see this less as a nice guy being taken and more as a fool and his money are quickly parted.  He's not a victim.  He's a participant.

To put this all on her is nonsense.

Mss

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/10/2008 9:39:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive
but once he said he gave money to this person three times, acknowledged that he had likely been had, and admitted that he willingly gambled and played a part, my sympathy went way down.

I understand that some folks have disdain for her behavior.  Is there a similar disdain for his?   I see this less as a nice guy being taken and more as a fool and his money are quickly parted.  He's not a victim.  He's a participant.


I see it differently.

He developed a fondness for a woman. She told him she was having difficult times. He sent her money. While the last amount sent was to cover expenses for the trip, it is unclear that the previous amounts were sent for the same reason. I expect they were sent simply to be helpful. From what I gather from the information given, only recently (late May) the trip was to happen.

It is not uncommon for people to want to help others for whom they feel a fondness. It is not uncommon for people to extend some level of trust as they court or pursue a relationship. Sure, the internet requires greater caution but I expect there are more genuine people on the internet than scammers. It is not unreasonable for him to have thought he had found a sincere person.

He thought she was sincere. And he knew that there was a possibility for a scam. He went with his instincts and hoped that this one might be sincere. Perhaps he misread her. Perhaps hope clouded his sensibility. Perhaps he was willing to take the risk. While I see that he must assume some responsibility, which he has done, I do not put his behavior in the same category as someone who deliberately scams, and do not have disdain for his behavior. If one falls for the same story twice, I assign greater responsibility but still do not put the person in the same box as the aggressor.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/10/2008 9:51:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: undergroundsea

quote:

ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive
but once he said he gave money to this person three times, acknowledged that he had likely been had, and admitted that he willingly gambled and played a part, my sympathy went way down.

I understand that some folks have disdain for her behavior.  Is there a similar disdain for his?   I see this less as a nice guy being taken and more as a fool and his money are quickly parted.  He's not a victim.  He's a participant.


I see it differently.

He developed a fondness for a woman. She told him she was having difficult times. He sent her money. While the last amount sent was to cover expenses for the trip, it is unclear that the previous amounts were sent for the same reason. I expect they were sent simply to be helpful. From what I gather from the information given, only recently (late May) the trip was to happen.

It is not uncommon for people to want to help others for whom they feel a fondness. It is not uncommon for people to extend some level of trust as they court or pursue a relationship. Sure, the internet requires greater caution but I expect there are more genuine people on the internet than scammers. It is not unreasonable for him to have thought he had found a sincere person.

He thought she was sincere. And he knew that there was a possibility for a scam. He went with his instincts and hoped that this one might be sincere. Perhaps he misread her. Perhaps hope clouded his sensibility. Perhaps he was willing to take the risk. While I see that he must assume some responsibility, which he has done, I do not put his behavior in the same category as someone who deliberately scams, and do not have disdain for his behavior.

I do not understand the reasoning that gives the victim as much blame as the aggressor. If a conman scams an old lady, do you see her to be at just as guilty?

Cheers,

Sea
   Thank you Sea, you are a nice smart person because you read what has happenned pretty much to a "T", I did not want to be scammed I wanted a Mommy, yes I gambled and was hoping the outcome would be a good one?  When I sent her money the first time it was for gas, the second time was to fix her radiator as she was broke down in chicago, the third time was for additional gas money as she had to go back to ohio, I will not send her anymore money and thanks for reading my mind as to the response you gave to that post!  baby jerry

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/10/2008 10:04:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		Jerry, I just took a look at your profile.  You provided enough information that I found your last name in about 90 seconds.  Are you 100% ok with being outed?  If so, cool.  But it seems to me you are taking a lot of risks for very little reward.

Straight up, I suggest you hire a pro so you can take the edge off your fetish.  If you are less desperate for acceptance as an adult baby, you will be able to use more common sense.


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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/10/2008 10:54:01 PM   
curiousexplorer


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Status: offline 		"I am a gambler, actually I am a blackjack dealer in real life "

If you are a dealer, then you should know about gambling, and know if you gamble you'll most likely loose.

"Let me ask people, if he had sent her some money to "help" her then in the course of talking on the phone he began to show traits she found worrisome or odd, and she lost interest, is she a scammer?  When a vanilla guy takes a lady out on a few dates or buys her a gift and then she loses interest, is she now a "scammer" unless she returns the various things he bought her?  Or is a scammer a woman that says "Pay me $100 and I will show up to your door naked" and then vanishes? "

Going on a few dates requires a lot more effort than typing a few (or a few hundred) internet messages. No one should be taking money until they are interested, or unless they are a prostitute selling a service.

"While her behavior may have been QUESTIONABLE she maintained an ongoing flirtatious and/or romantic exchange with him, over a period of time when he paid her some money.  He WAS getting something out of it."

He was getting scammed, and the scam doesn't work unless the scammer keeps up the act. Simply saying "give me money" is unlikely to work.

"however, if she was just accepting the gifts and he was willingly giving them as part of the courting process AND he was happy with what he was getting *in return* then there's no harm, no foul if she did just lose interest. Her method lacks tact, but that's not a trait specific to scammers."

If she turns up, then he is happy with what he gets in return, if she doesn't show up, she is a scammer. Not just tactless, but an outright scammer. And from your post, I would recommend no one send you money.

"I have given money, toys and gifts to subs I was courting, full well knowing probably 1/2 of them would take the gifts and run - it's a calculated, willing risk I am happy to make. "

Did they ask for the gifts? Did they tell you little stories outlining a need for the gifts? Or did you just send them? The OP situation seems to be she fished for the money, not that it was just sent on a whim as a gift.

"Yes I have had fun in just talking with her and that could be seen as a type of payment I guess? "

Don't get sucked in by the justifications from scammer groupies and wannabes. If you didn't have fun to some degree, you would never have sent any money. Scammers can't just say send me money, they need to play you.

"I'm impressed by women who can scam money from men. "

Then you are very easily impressed, and a scumbag. Go to any nightclub and you will see women scamming men out of their money. As for being a scumbag, well just about anyone can be a scammer, the hard part is not the scam, but living with yourself after. Only scumbags can do it, or be impressed by it.

"I'm more unimpressed by the level (lack) of intelligence of people who happily agree to be scammed."

You must really be impressed by rapists and pedophiles, as they prey on the weak too. There are varying intelligence levels in society, just like variations in strength. Scammers prey on the weak the same way rapists, pedophiles and other criminals do. You are impressed by typical predator behaviour, and unimpressed by the existence of prey. There is also nothing in your posts to suggest you are intelligent enough to be beyond the role of prey.

"And if you say that those who are getting scammed are unintelligent, what exactly do you see to be the accomplishment of the scammer that draws your admiration? "

Nicely done Sea.

"I understand that some folks have disdain for her behavior.  Is there a similar disdain for his?   I see this less as a nice guy being taken and more as a fool and his money are quickly parted.  He's not a victim.  He's a participant.
To put this all on her is nonsense. "

Let's shift the focus to wife beaters, will you call the wives participants instead of victims?
If he is a fool, then he is still a victim and was selected from the herd because of his weakness of being a fool. He is just as much a participant as a zebra is a guest at the lions dinner. He should have known better, but there is no way possible to make his actions as disdainful as hers.

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/10/2008 10:54:59 PM   
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And frankly, it's a chump con, that's why it's mostly the third world and the occasional bitter hobbyist doing it now. The real money is in "investment" scams- stocks, real estate, commodities... Why beg and scrape for a few bills to "fly to see you" or "take care of my sick momma" when there are fake oil deposits that can reap tens of millions in profits "if we just had forty grand to keep us afloat for one more week"?

Hate to disagree, petdave, but this type of scam nets millions of dollars per year from trusting people who not only send money, but also cash (fake) cheques for their lover or become unwitting mules for both stolen funds and merchandise paid for with stolen credit card info.

The classic oil/ investment/ next of kin/ moving a dictator's stolen money scams are certainly out there, but scammers work thousands of vics before finding even one who will cough up that kind of money. Fake lottos and cheque scams do a bit better.

Love scammers are on a different road, one where they latch on like a tick and bleed every last dollar they can from a hooked victim, all the while keeping in contact and pretending to be the person their victim desires most. These people will spend literally months "building a relationship" with their victim before they ever ask for a penny. Once the vic sends money; things become more intense, and the scammer dangles the much hoped for meet like bait. There is always a last minute problem, of course. Keep in mind that scammers like this have dozens of victims on the line at any given time, all sending money for their latest imaginary crisis.

As an aside, I will note 2 things. First off, money sent via Western Union can be picked up anywhere in the world no matter where it was supposedly sent. Secondly, most professional love scammers are male, no matter what they tell you (girlfriends and relatives are used for phone etc).

BTW, I've worked with an anti-scam group for over three years now and have damned near seen it all, so I'm not talking out my backside here.

To the OP- please be more careful. Did you happen to run an IP trace on "her" emails to see if they originated in the US?

To KatyLied- Wow, way to blame the victim. These "women" are filling a need some men have... no? Oh well then the victim deserves to get scammed.









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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/10/2008 11:13:00 PM   
undergroundsea


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you read what has happenned pretty much to a "T",


Actually, I assumed incorrectly that the first two instances of sending her money were unrelated to travel.

While it is imaginable that someone who is having financial difficulties would have an unreliable car, I would have seen a bigger flag if issues kept coming up and she expected you to resolve them by sending her money.

I am wondering what I would have done in your situation. For starters, I avoid relationships that are based on financial matters. And I would be hesitant to pursue someone in the situation you describe because it raises questions about stability. I understand that when the pool is limited, one might be willing to compromise on desired criteria.

How should one respond if one is in a budding internet relationship and the other asks for financial help? One idea is to avoid the situation by clarifying upfront (through your profile or otherwise) that you avoid financial issues because they raise a flag for you. If the matter still somehow comes up and one is suspicious, one can test the story. For instance, with the car breaking down in Chicago, one could have offered to come to Chicago, or said that one would try to find a friend in Chicago who can help at least with a recommendation for a good mechanic. What if you had instead offered to go to Ohio for the first meeting? If you keep coming up with an idea, and she always comes up with a reason why it would not work in favor of sending her money, I would become suspicious. I would see if things add up.

If it is in your nature to give, great. Perhaps you can do it in a way that accounts for the potential for scams. The idea to buy the ticket direcly is a good idea. If she wants her car there, why? What if you offer to reimburse her when she reaches there? She doesn't have the cash to put gas in her car? Can she put it on her credit card since there is a grace period for paying that bill?. And if her credit card is at its limit, suggest to her to start a relationship with some guy on the internet and tell him she would go to see him if he sends her some money, and then to scam him and use that money for gas.

Just kidding.

Good luck to you.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/10/2008 11:53:15 PM   
BigBaby


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

quote:

ORIGINAL: petdave
And frankly, it's a chump con, that's why it's mostly the third world and the occasional bitter hobbyist doing it now. The real money is in "investment" scams- stocks, real estate, commodities... Why beg and scrape for a few bills to "fly to see you" or "take care of my sick momma" when there are fake oil deposits that can reap tens of millions in profits "if we just had forty grand to keep us afloat for one more week"?

Hate to disagree, petdave, but this type of scam nets millions of dollars per year from trusting people who not only send money, but also cash (fake) cheques for their lover or become unwitting mules for both stolen funds and merchandise paid for with stolen credit card info.

The classic oil/ investment/ next of kin/ moving a dictator's stolen money scams are certainly out there, but scammers work thousands of vics before finding even one who will cough up that kind of money. Fake lottos and cheque scams do a bit better.

Love scammers are on a different road, one where they latch on like a tick and bleed every last dollar they can from a hooked victim, all the while keeping in contact and pretending to be the person their victim desires most. These people will spend literally months "building a relationship" with their victim before they ever ask for a penny. Once the vic sends money; things become more intense, and the scammer dangles the much hoped for meet like bait. There is always a last minute problem, of course. Keep in mind that scammers like this have dozens of victims on the line at any given time, all sending money for their latest imaginary crisis.

As an aside, I will note 2 things. First off, money sent via Western Union can be picked up anywhere in the world no matter where it was supposedly sent. Secondly, most professional love scammers are male, no matter what they tell you (girlfriends and relatives are used for phone etc).

BTW, I've worked with an anti-scam group for over three years now and have damned near seen it all, so I'm not talking out my backside here.

To the OP- please be more careful. Did you happen to run an IP trace on "her" emails to see if they originated in the US?

To KatyLied- Wow, way to blame the victim. These "women" are filling a need some men have... no? Oh well then the victim deserves to get scammed.









   How do you run an IP trace?  The only mail I have from her is at this site?  All I really wanted was a Mommy and that is why I sent her the money and she even mentioned paying it back to me once she got a job here, once I had sent the initial gas money the second and third times I sent money it was like ok I am into it already do I give up or take another chance, I guess I just got sucked in and kept going but I absolutely will not send her anymore money!  I am starting to feel worse about this whole thing again and all I really wanted was a mommy and to play baby games and well I guess I wish this all never happened and I think I am gonna go to bed now. jerry

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/11/2008 12:14:03 AM   
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Get some sleep, Jerry; sounds like you need the downtime to rest and think about things.


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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/11/2008 3:12:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am upset about this topic but probably for entirely different reasons.

If she does indeed turn out to be a scammer, I am upset that she is being considered a FinDomme.

Like a previous poster remarked, a true FinDomme tells you what you will be getting for your money right up front. Her happiness. That's it. Not other guarantees other than she is going to want MORE.

And, yes, it is a fetish. And not at all as easy as some may think.

And the reputation of the fetish is always being corrupted as being compared to crap scams like this.

It is not at all the same thing.

A scammer will try to beat you out of your money by any means necessary, regardless of Findomme or Real Estate Investing.

So, in essence, I agree. If Findomme is not your fetish, then when they ask for money, just say no as politely as possible.

In any fetish, there are going to be a few bad apples but it just steams me when these types of losers are grouped as findommes.

Prostitutes are not ProDommes and Scammers are not FinDommes.





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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/11/2008 4:22:54 AM   
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Well I promised I would do a follow-up as to what happenned when/if my new Mommy showed so hear it is.  I am a Big-dumb-Baby!  haven't talked to her for 2 days now and don't think I probly ever will again?  I was dumb enough to send her money on 3 differrent occasions and thought she was very genuine and just going thru hard times as she was supposedly staying with some friends which would also be a good reason for her to be willing to relocate, we e-mailed frequently and talked on the phone often and well now she has dissappeared!  I am not seeking sympathy or to be slammed just promised to follow up on this as it progressed and now sad to say I think it has ended on a bad note! I am more sad and hurt than mad about the money I lost and I knew the possible cosequences of what I was doing but in my own defense when you live the life of an adult baby you are willing to take chances like this in order to meet someone with whom to share in this sort of lifestyle and I do believe it is a lifestyle which is totally misunderstood and I do plan to write a story and post it somewhere here and maybe it will be encouraging/enlightining as to the possibilities and fun to be had within this lifestyle? Well I am not going to let this get me down and am moving on,                                    baby jerry 

baby jerry,

There is a saying above every email you sent on collarme.
It's there for a reason.
Don't send out money to anyone for any reason.
Once they start to talk about that issue?
It's time to run. No matter how sad the story.
I'm sorry you had to learn this the hard way jerry.
Bdsm isn't about money, it's about true people,
but online it's too easy to scam/lie/cheat.

Take your time to learn those lessons.
and warm hug from Me.

I wish you enough.

GoddezzT`


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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/11/2008 5:28:42 AM   
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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/11/2008 6:05:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have no admiration at all for those that use someone in any form that isn't of their knowledge.  The pup I have been talking to for awhile now wanted to send me something for a special day I have coming up.  I never asked him for it, or for anything.  He is offering it to me of his own free will.  I am not, thankfully, someone that would scam anyone.  I love that pup has such a kind and thoughtful heart, as do many other sub/slaves. 

I think that is one reason that I get so frustrated and pissed of at women like this.  It takes advantage of a good or even desperate person.  We all want to be wanted and accepted for who we are.  Sometimes in that process we end up hurt, those on both sides of the whip.  It's about forming trust between two people that doesn't come overnight.

My pup could just as easily vanish tomorrow as I could.  I know I would still take a lot from the experience and I hope he would also.  We will be meeting very soon, but I have found it's best over the years to never put too much stock into someone until you have met in the flesh.  Until then they are just words on a screen or a voice on the phone, no matter how much we try to make them not be.

I wish you luck and best wishes in the future.  I am sorry this happened to you, but take the lessons you have learned and don't get bitten again. 

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/11/2008 6:45:46 AM   
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Hate to disagree, petdave, but this type of scam nets millions of dollars per year from trusting people who not only send money, but also cash (fake) cheques for their lover or become unwitting mules for both stolen funds and merchandise paid for with stolen credit card info.


It's just so damned tawdry. It's like stealing a kid's bicycle, or hitting elderly people up for fake home repairs. Yeah, there's money to be made, but there's nothing admirable about it... it's just a matter of being more dishonest than the average person expects anyone to be. i guess i just like to think big.

And while i'm not exactly a fan of FinDommes, i agree that it doesn't have anything to do with that.

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/11/2008 7:36:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive
but once he said he gave money to this person three times, acknowledged that he had likely been had, and admitted that he willingly gambled and played a part, my sympathy went way down.

I understand that some folks have disdain for her behavior.  Is there a similar disdain for his?   I see this less as a nice guy being taken and more as a fool and his money are quickly parted.  He's not a victim.  He's a participant.


I see it differently.

He developed a fondness for a woman. She told him she was having difficult times. He sent her money. While the last amount sent was to cover expenses for the trip, it is unclear that the previous amounts were sent for the same reason. I expect they were sent simply to be helpful. From what I gather from the information given, only recently (late May) the trip was to happen.

It is not uncommon for people to want to help others for whom they feel a fondness. It is not uncommon for people to extend some level of trust as they court or pursue a relationship. Sure, the internet requires greater caution but I expect there are more genuine people on the internet than scammers. It is not unreasonable for him to have thought he had found a sincere person.

He thought she was sincere. And he knew that there was a possibility for a scam. He went with his instincts and hoped that this one might be sincere. Perhaps he misread her. Perhaps hope clouded his sensibility. Perhaps he was willing to take the risk. While I see that he must assume some responsibility, which he has done, I do not put his behavior in the same category as someone who deliberately scams, and do not have disdain for his behavior. If one falls for the same story twice, I assign greater responsibility but still do not put the person in the same box as the aggressor.

Cheers,

Sea


What Sea said. Heh, that sounds funny! lol

ME

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/11/2008 7:51:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: goddessAwakening

I am upset about this topic but probably for entirely different reasons.

If she does indeed turn out to be a scammer, I am upset that she is being considered a FinDomme.

Like a previous poster remarked, a true FinDomme tells you what you will be getting for your money right up front. Her happiness. That's it. Not other guarantees other than she is going to want MORE.

And, yes, it is a fetish. And not at all as easy as some may think.

And the reputation of the fetish is always being corrupted as being compared to crap scams like this.

It is not at all the same thing.

A scammer will try to beat you out of your money by any means necessary, regardless of Findomme or Real Estate Investing.

So, in essence, I agree. If Findomme is not your fetish, then when they ask for money, just say no as politely as possible.

In any fetish, there are going to be a few bad apples but it just steams me when these types of losers are grouped as findommes.

Prostitutes are not ProDommes and Scammers are not FinDommes.







This was an excellent post GA, probably because I agree with you 100%?

smile.

ME

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/11/2008 7:53:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Baby jerry,

Everything feels better after a good nights sleep.

Rocking you to sleep,

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/11/2008 10:39:48 AM   
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Baby Jerry, I truly do hope things work out for you.

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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/11/2008 2:10:57 PM   
babydriver


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Status: offline 		I really feel for what you've gone through here.
But I really don't understand why you are continuing corresponding with this woman when based on what you've written its clear she is stringing you along.  I certainly understand the strong desire to meet someone who will accept you for who you are but you should never send money to anyone that you haven't even met in person.
Its tough enough to meet a Domme let alone a Mommy. Darn near impossible outside of a pro setting.  And you can't really do ageplay on a per hour basis anyway unless you happen to have a lot of disposable income.
I do wish you well and hope all works out for you.


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RE: She arrives tonight......scammed! - 6/11/2008 3:19:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well Jerry it stands to reason that no one WANTS to be scammed, but probably everyone here has been scammed at least once. All you can do is learn from it and protect yourself in the future. You say all you wanted was a Mommy to play baby games with...well most people only want something nice when they get scammed. That's how scammers work.

While I understand your desire to be and act like a baby, the truth is, you ARE NOT a baby. You are a grown man and you need to protect yourself and take responsibility for your emotional and financial security. No one else will do it for you. You are no more vulnerable because you are an adult baby. You are not more sensitive or emotional than the rest of us. Everyone is vulnerable and has emotional needs just as you do and probably every single person here has been scammed, played or betrayed at one point in their lives. That's why they have learned to put a bit of armor around their hearts and to use caution when getting to know someone.

Unless you realize that you played a part in this scam by refusing to see the signs of danger, then you are likely to be scammed again. That's the only part that concerns me. Learn from this and you will have gotten your money's worth.

(in reply to babydriver)
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