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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Ah yes, that word that has launched a thounsand relationships!

But what does one do when thr feeling of fading interest begins to control the thoughts of the day?
many will say to discuss it, but in reality does that ever get done for fear of making it worse. How do you, whether "D" or "s" handle the issue.

CP

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ORIGINAL: IronBear

quote:

ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Ah yes, that word that has launched a thounsand relationships!

But what does one do when thr feeling of fading interest begins to control the thoughts of the day?
many will say to discuss it, but in reality does that ever get done for fear of making it worse. How do you, whether "D" or "s" handle the issue.

CP

My initial thought was to say, when Chemistry fails find a Physicist. However CP deserves a more sensible response so I'll try ~ 


As we grow, we change, Aye I know this is said all the time, it happens that even two people who were madly in love, grow apart and drift in  differing directions. How we handle such monumental events, it is monumental for those involved so let’s not marginalize it, depends entirely on our level of maturity, interest in trying to salvage things and our realization on where the relationship stands together with any mundane ties like joint finances, property and children.  If both people want to make the relationship work again and grow stronger, they can do so but, there is always a but isn’t there? They may have to make changes in their lifestyle, refrain from doing some things,  reduce the time spent doing them or see of they can do them together. I should point out that in salvaging the relationship some sacrifices usually need be made which may include not allowing friends or family to interfere, especially if this is one of those reasons for things jolly well coming adrift in the first place. It will mean both parties talking, really talking and both listening too. Really listening not just saying nothing but thinking about something else. I can almost guarantee it will take work. Hard bloody yakka but it is usually worth it. Ohh and it will take time! Lots of time.


  If some one has already covered this I make no apologies. I just don’t have the time between cooking five Christmas Cakes, decorating them and five Christmas puddings with enough Irish Whisky in them to knock out a Belfast Pub full of Englishmen