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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 3:43:20 PM   
NorthernGent


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Status: offline 		Do what comes natural, but listen to what she's enjoying.

Slow and steady usually wins the race.......no diving in like a Stuka having a crack at a Polish city. Don't head straight for the clit.......get her fired up first. Use all the tools you come equipped with......hands, tongue, teeth, lips...

If she doesn't enjoy it.....at least you've enjoyed yourself. One out of two ain't bad.

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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 3:48:52 PM   
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quote:

Cali
(ps to CJ:  The "come here" is best done with the two middle fingers.)


Cali, you know, everybody is different. However, I will make the appropriate note in your file.

OP, see what we mean by communication ?


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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 3:57:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Don't go at the same area for ages, move your tongue around and use your fingers.
Sometimes I don't like to be held so widely open its painful but listen to her, listen to the sounds she makes and pay attention to her body.
Does she pull away at a certain move or push to you?
Some women take awhile to orgasm from oral sex and some don't cum at all from that. If you keep the focus on fun, not performance that will make a difference.
Prop a pillow under her butt.
Say encouraging things about how she looks and tastes.
It is normal to get a pubic hair in your mouth unless she shaves so don't panic.
Keep a lubrication or water nearby because it is possible to get too dry inside even if enjoying things. Some women make more self-lube than others, so if she gets too dry add moisture.
Don't play with food or sugary stuff, that is pretty much begging for a yeast infection later.
Alternate sensations, like don't grind on her clit for half an hour unless you know for sure she loves it. Instead go from clit to side to side or up and down.


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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 4:12:47 PM   
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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 4:13:57 PM   
cjan


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Status: offline 		I'm inspired to add some more detail. Whoever said don't start by diving in on the clit is correct, imo. Start by an appreciative visual and hand exploration. Then, run your toungue and wet mouth up and down each labia majora. Linger and tease. Nibble each one with your lips and very gently, your teeth. Then the inner lips. Be sure to take your time and be thorough. Explore with your lips and tongue. Try a li'l tongue fucking. If you are feeling adventurous, explore that li'l brown eye'd rosebud with your tongue.

When she is humping your face, move to her clit. Some clits are very sensitive. Again, pay attention to her reactions. Start with the hood of her clit Suck as well as lick. Slurp.And, as has been noted, don't foget to use your fingers and hands.

Is it getting warm in here ?


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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 4:16:54 PM   
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Hey everyone, I have a question.  I want to perform oral sex on my girlfriend, yet I have never done it before.  I'm slightly nervous as to how I'm going to perform, and if I will do anything for her.  If anyone has any tips, suggestions, or advice for me, that would be greatly appreciated.  I'm not sure if this is where this is supposed to be, but I thought it would be a good place.  Again, thanks for the help.


Say Brother.....

Do you have wimpy hands or strong hands? Let em' feel the power and lust { you have for them} in/through your hands when workn' their thighs/lower cheeks during the lead-up....

What happens before the act is often times as important as the act itself.


Girls know/understand what the hands mean - make the hands count  ; }




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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 4:16:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		You know ladies, I don't think we should unleash this eager student onto his girl without some in-person lessons. I think he needs encouragement, some gentle direction and redirection if necessary, and even a gold sticker on his forehead at the end.  Camille? Would you like to take one for the team, or should I?

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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 4:18:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		To add.....there is a low risk of catching HIV from oral.......assuming you practice safe sex, you could always cut a condom open and use.....

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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 4:19:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes please cali.
Yes.
Oh yes. Yesssss oh oh oh ohhhhhhhhh YESSSSSSSS!

*clears her throat*
I mean um sure.. I'd be glad to help..


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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 4:28:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Good positioning and lighting are very beneficial for those first oral sex experiences.  I advise having her on the bed, knees bent and lower body proped on a pillow, postioned at the edge of the mattress.  For your comfort, either use a small stool or kneel on some pillows. Also have enough lighting so that you can see what you are doing and where you are going.  You will have a better view if she trims or shaves the public area and showers first.  Is her face irritated by your beard when the two of you kiss?  If so, her private parts will likely be irritated by your beard too, so shaving is in order.  If your beard is silky soft and she likes stroking it then you will probably be OK.

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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 4:40:58 PM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		Oh, and if she turns out to be an ear grabber, you might want to think about your oxygen supply.  You can use one of these, and just throw the free end over your shoulder. I'd trim the tubing to a foot long or so, and take off any valves so the room air is free-flowing.

Cali
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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 4:56:35 PM   
slvemike4u


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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

You know ladies, I don't think we should unleash this eager student onto his girl without some in-person lessons. I think he needs encouragement, some gentle direction and redirection if necessary, and even a gold sticker on his forehead at the end.  Camille? Would you like to take one for the team, or should I?

Cali
(such a sacrifice, but somebody's got to do it)

now You ladies be gentle

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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 5:07:40 PM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		Know where the clit is, yes, but don't START there!  Get her all aroused and bothered the way you (hopefully) normally do, stroking and kissing her body, etc., whatever you do first.  When you finally go down below, tease her by licking, sucking and kissing all around, getting nearer and nearer to the clit, but not actually touching it.  When she starts trying to shove it at your mouth, she's ready for clit action

Also, start out slowly, but keep pace with her arousal.  As she gets closer to orgasm, you go faster and harder.  If she's almost ready to go over the top, go after the g-spot with your fingers the way others here have mentioned. 

Also, get her input.  Some of like the tongue light, fast and flickery (I personally hate it that way), some like it slower with more pressure, some like circles, some like up and down or back and forth.

Just don't be like my ex-husband and think the clit and g-spot are the magic orgasm buttons, when you push them she cums.  It's not quite that simple.

I hope you'll keep us posted on the results.

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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 5:15:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you all for all the help you've given me.  I hope to try this next time we are together.  I will look at some of the articles, and definitely keep you posted on the results.  I just figured if she does oral for me, why can't I do oral for her too ya know.

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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 5:42:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Cali is correct , somethings just need NO additives , you know if your doing it correctly  by the force felt by the legs clamping around your head ,if your ears feel like they are being pulled off  your also well on your way to expert status .
cami and cali > so nice of you to umm offer your mentor ship services  to the lad  .

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Good lord no, leave the food out of it the first time.  You're just going to make a mess.

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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 5:52:08 PM   
RuheMaus


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Status: offline 		i have found curling your tounge into a 'U' and darting it in to flick about helps.  but then I learned it as part of tantric practice, and sometimes like giving it more that sex itself.  But yes, she WiLL tell you what feels good and what doesn't.  some girls want lip stimulation, some want clit stimulation, and some want inner penetration.  Just experiment and get ready to have your hair pulled and your nose buried deeply if you hit THE spot...

Oh, and inner thigh nibbles are a GOOD thing!  A VERY good thing!


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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 6:17:31 PM   
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Hey everyone, I have a question.  I want to perform oral sex on my girlfriend, yet I have never done it before.  I'm slightly nervous as to how I'm going to perform, and if I will do anything for her.  If anyone has any tips, suggestions, or advice for me, that would be greatly appreciated.  I'm not sure if this is where this is supposed to be, but I thought it would be a good place.  Again, thanks for the help.


Do you remember when you were in high school, running track and you'd just done a 440, and you were absolutely SURE you had nothing left in you....and then the Coach said..."You fucking pansy...gimme another 2 laps!!!!"....and when you'd finished that....you were SURE you had NOTHING left to give...and then the head of the CIA called you on your cell phone and said "Son...we've got a problem...it's serious...and you're the only man that can help"....remember how you bucked up and said to yourself "this is for my COUNTRY!!!! I can do this!!!!"?

You remember that?

Okay...then, after you finished saving the world (which no one but you and I will ever know about), the local marching band came by and said "Ghostrider....we need you...the 2nd flute bailed on us...and we're playing for the Governor in 2 hours...can you learn this piece in that time?"

And of course you did.

Wrecked, naturally...but you were here to give your all, whether it was a simple 440, saving the world....or making sure the Governor didn't lose face...you were there.

Remember how your legs, brain, lips, and everything else felt after all that?

Bud...that's a walk in the park hahahahahaha.

(But it's a HELL of a lot of fun for a guy that's never been there )

Have a blast.

Oh, and by the way...be a sport when you're all done and look up at her when she's grasping for breath and ask this question;

"Wanna do it again?"

You do that...and you're gonna have more girlfriends than you ever even knew existed.



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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 6:21:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Why not just ask her what she likes and what sorts of things work best for her?

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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 6:44:20 PM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		Okay... does she have any experience? And if she does, I'm sure you can throw in a few new moves she hasn't felt before.

I'm partial to the flat-tongue approach in the beginning... once the bases are loaded, all that pointy-tongue business belongs to the cleanup batter.

Cali


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RE: Eating out for the first time - 6/16/2008 9:48:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Okay, the only thing that I'll pass on, which I remember from my first few times, (way back in the jurrassic era of the late 70's...) remember the clit is NOT just the little button on the top... there's a whole shaft of sensative skin immediately below it. You need to work that too. (Again, I thank one of my early girlfriends for taking the time to "train" me properly.)

And above all... have FUN with it. If you go in all serious, you'll just end up killing the mood. Sex = fun. Fun = no pressure. Right?

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