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Heyyyyy penalty for calling the age card. That won't work even if I agree or disagree with the person's views.

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What I do see in this lifestyle and many others is emotional boundries being placed as untouchable limits. Emotional growth isnt always pleasent but in the end it is very rewarding.

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you still dont get what we are trying to get across...read some of the other posts.....do you view service as sex? If I send bella to another Masters house that needs help well cleaning the home or doing something outside then this is service...it isnt always sexual but if they have gained my trust and I see that they have integrity then yes they can use her.......I can understand that you need monogamy and im sure there are Doms out there that want the same thing.....im not trying to cheapen anyones life experieice...what im trying to do is to see if it is emotional baggage that makes people say they want monogamy....im not new thot his lifestlye and I have seen this feable attempt to control play because of something that happened in a previous marriage.....I find playing with others and having them play with bella gratifying personally.......she had baggage when I took her on and I have relieived her from it...this is my story and hers and we are both here telling it............she is emotionally secure and ready to leap off to new heights in tis lifestyle without the fear of wondering if I will play with others without her knowledge....to play with another without the others knowledge is cheating but if all parties involved are informed about a SSC act then it is animalistic sex then...and very hot, erotic and lots of fun..........I used to be possesive of her and others I had before her and I learned from it

Master Six

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maybe they don't hear you any more than you hear them......

or anyone that encompasses certain thoughts hears anyone else sometimes...so people agree to disagree...no biggie.

thats what the forums are for,hearing all others opinions and learning.

one takes what they need and leaves the rest.

so their kink is not your kink................again,agree to disagree

there is a big difference between service and pleasure.(sort of like the difference between discipline and punishment).

one can service during pleasure(sexual connentations) or one can just serve(monogamy and faithfulness do not have to be in this equation b/c service doesn't ALWAYS MEAN SEX)...or one can just pleasure(which can be as simple as just doing what master says).....imo.

fyreredsub

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maybe they don't hear you any more than you hear them......

or anyone that encompasses certain thoughts hears anyone else sometimes...so people agree to disagree...no biggie.

thats what the forums are for,hearing all others opinions and learning.

one takes what they need and leaves the rest.

so their kink is not your kink................again,agree to disagree

there is a big difference between service and pleasure.(sort of like the difference between discipline and punishment).

one can service during pleasure(sexual connentations) or one can just serve(monogamy and faithfulness do not have to be in this equation b/c service doesn't ALWAYS MEAN SEX)...or one can just pleasure(which can be as simple as just doing what master says).....imo.

fyreredsub

Honestly, fyreredsub, i feel i DO hear MasterSix and bella..it is rather hard not to. i do not hold them in a greater or lesser degree of respect because their choices are different from mine. To me, it's a bit irrelevant what someone is "into" insofar as making friends is concerned. It's just one side of a person, and people who are poly; Dommes; sadists, etc., are all on my friends' list.

However, what i reject is that there is "one true way" and MasterSix and bella have found it. i, personally, could not live as they do...but i do not haggle with them over their choice.

candystripper

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Heyyyyy penalty for calling the age card. That won't work even if I agree or disagree with the person's views.

I agree. I've met twelve year olds that are more open-minded and elocute better than many college professors.

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Heyyyyy penalty for calling the age card. That won't work even if I agree or disagree with the person's views.

I agree. I've met twelve year olds that are more open-minded and elocute better than many college professors.

*sigh*

You're both missing the point.

~stef

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i know from my personal perspective i think differently at 43 than i did at 23

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i know from my personal perspective i think differently at 43 than i did at 23

fyreredsub

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i dont agree or disagree ,its a case of whatever floats your boat.end of story.

the POINT of my post was the difference 'tween service and pleasure as is the difference 'tween punishment and discipline....

fyreredsub

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i dont agree or disagree ,its a case of whatever floats your boat.end of story.

the POINT of my post was the difference 'tween service and pleasure as is the difference 'tween punishment and discipline....

fyreredsub

O, i am sorry; that did escape me. i know i have much to learn about BDSM sex/play/service...but in my case, it would be on offer to only one Man...my One.

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Greetings,

I have read many threads and experienced many things in my life and this is one I would like to see where veryone is coming from on this. Im not trying to rob a thread either I might add with the essay i intend to write.
I have seen many submissive that have limits that are supposedly "hard limits" such as dont touch my butt in public or slaves that dont play with more than one partner. While I can appericiate the personal dynamic of different relationships. I cant understand how this can become a limit that isnt supposed to be prodded. Such as playing with others. I know where most people are coming from at one time I used to be stingy with my sub/slave. I felt that I couldnt play with others or have my property entertain others. I quickly learnd that I grew emotionally when I allowed certain things to happen and that the foundation of trust and loyality that my relationship was built upon has survived through a great many things.
I feel that if you build your relationship on this simple foundation that the ability to overcome limits that were nce inconciviable are now able to be over come. I see a great many couples that have or are living a TPE lifestyle still have certain "limits" that they arent capable of over coming.There are some that I understand will always be there for myself and others such as scat or other indestible things.
What I do see in this lifestyle and many others is emotional boundries being placed as untouchable limits. Emotional growth isnt always pleasent but in the end it is very rewarding. To understand where each person is coming from and whom has integrity is quite liberating. If I send bella to service someone after the fact she is right back where she belongs at my feet. With her loyality in tact. I would like to hear about others experieces and how they have overcome an emotional boundry.

Master Six

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Greetings,

I think that maybe what myself and bella are saying has been misconstrued a bit. The point I was trying to get across with the monogamy thing is that I have personally seen and read people complaining that their specific others have cheated on them in the past whether it was a previous marraige or just a D's/M's relationship. There are alot of wounded psyche's out there. If it works for someone to be monogamous then im happy for them. The ponit of the thread is that there are alot of emotional issues out there that are "soft" limits.

candystripper,

There is a difference as fyreredsub pointed out in punishment/disclipine or service/sex......I can see others wanting monogamy but what if you went to your Owners associates home and were asked to serve dinner with the other sub/slave....this is service without a sexual context......I would hope you wouldnt scream that you arent my Dom and not participate........another topic what if you were required to perform in a scene that didnt include sexual contact in a public dungeon what would you do?

Master Six

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Greetings,

I think that maybe what myself and bella are saying has been misconstrued a bit. The point I was trying to get across with the monogamy thing is that I have personally seen and read people complaining that their specific others have cheated on them in the past whether it was a previous marraige or just a D's/M's relationship. There are alot of wounded psyche's out there. If it works for someone to be monogamous then im happy for them. The ponit of the thread is that there are alot of emotional issues out there that are "soft" limits.

candystripper,

There is a difference as fyreredsub pointed out in punishment/disclipine or service/sex......I can see others wanting monogamy but what if you went to your Owners associates home and were asked to serve dinner with the other sub/slave....this is service without a sexual context......I would hope you wouldnt scream that you arent my Dom and not participate........another topic what if you were required to perform in a scene that didnt include sexual contact in a public dungeon what would you do?

Master Six

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i prefer to skip the flames and learn (not saying you were flaming me, as that is not the case at all.) but the age thing can be taken out of the context that it was perhaps intended.

i try not to think it was an insult then again there are those posts that are.....

fyreredsub