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RE: The Ultimate Form of Submission - 6/29/2008 4:48:15 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I think the problem is that you are universalizing your own personal experiences. 

That's what you do....that's what we all do. Unless, as usual yoou are trying to convince me your opinions are universal.
No doubt you will quip back.



An interesting point of view though one I disagree with.

I personally see there as being a world of difference between "It isn't really submission if you enjoy it" and "I find that the moments I enjoy the most are when they do what they don't want to".

But... that's just me.

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RE: The Ultimate Form of Submission - 6/29/2008 7:16:43 PM   
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Well if you look at it that way.... just the act of pleasing my Master IS pleasurable, so does that make me not submissive?

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RE: The Ultimate Form of Submission - 6/29/2008 7:23:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: blackbeard519

I think some people are mixing up "ultimate submission" with submission. 

You don't have to suffer to submit, but when you start adding things like "ultimate" there should be something to qualify it, yes?



Ok, I'll bite...

The "ultimate form of submission"...

Matthew 26:39 'My Father, if it is possible, do not let this happen. However, I want to do the things that you desire. I choose not to do the things that I desire.'

- Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemene

Regardless of religious conviction or belief, when upholding the "ultimate of submission"... might this not qualify?

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RE: The Ultimate Form of Submission - 6/29/2008 7:36:47 PM   
Aswad


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ORIGINAL: DMFParadox

Can't agree with that one.  Surrender is a process, not an event.


Okay, I'm a bit pedantic too, so I deserved that. If I tell you that I was, for once, not being pedantically accurate with my post, I think you can tell what I meant, however, and now I'm telling you. Of course it is a process, although it is one in which there are also some discrete steps on certain levels (such as the conscious decision to hand over the reins, so to speak).

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We think with emotions; I'd go so far as to say that no thought, no matter how abstract (and I'm talking higher math/logic here) is NOT an emotional thought.


Don't agree with you there, but the brain imaging technology hasn't come far enough to say for sure. I would guess, however, that emotional involvement is dependent on how the concepts involved were coded as they were recorded, and whether there was any significant beta-adrenergic activity at the time, as well as how long ago it happened and how many times it has been rewritten in abstract contexts since that.

Which is entirely off-topic, so let's muse on it another time or elsewhere.

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Pleasure may be a motivator, an obstruction, a catalyst, or a deterrent.  But it is never irrelevant.


Let me have another go at that part, then. The pleasure a submissive may or may not experience as a direct, first-order consequence of an action undertaken to fulfill a demand from a dominant is not relevant to whether her compliance constitutes submission or not. Surely, that is close enough to fill in the blanks?

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RE: The Ultimate Form of Submission - 6/29/2008 7:50:48 PM   
Aswad


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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

I personally see there as being a world of difference between "It isn't really submission if you enjoy it" and "I find that the moments I enjoy the most are when they do what they don't want to".


Being of the latter persuasion (although I certainly also enjoy shared joys), I would have to agree. And I would think that there are more than a few submissives who would feel that there was something missing if they weren't occasionally asked to do something they didn't want to do, but that doesn't make the submission itself contingent on actually being asked to do so.

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