Lockit
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I don't follow the way of thinking that says we attract certain things although there is often much that would suggest this and I would agree with. The suggestion of something isn't always what it might seem as far as my own experience goes. I know my way of thinking isn't what most agree with though. But... I have seen it from religion to how soceity interacts. Look at people in general. How people in group settings interact and relationships and how we view them differently. A hundred years ago, people were having sex outside marriage... but that wasn't the way it went for most. They got married to have sex. Then people just started living together and having sex without marriage and fewer got married. Now days, people are more likely to jump into sex without marriage and are very free. If one can have sex without any commitment or accountability, they do and will and fewer accept commitment and accountability. It is okay in society to go and have a one night stand and even if it results in a um, they don't feel they must get married or do much more than maybe support the um. Years ago this would have been frowned upon much more than it is today.
We live in a me-me society... attracting a good spouse isn't always as easy as it might have been when society expected certain things from us. Our work ethics and such have changed drastically as well as employer's treating the employee as something valued. Everything has changed and people I feel are less likely to be as solid and responsible. We have made allowances for less in a lot of area's of life. Therefore I feel that people are often less responsible as a whole when it comes to personal relationships. I am not saying it never happened before, only that it happened less.
A person can see a bad type of relationship and go for a totally different type of person. Different signals, different in all ways and still wind up with the same type of person, just in different packaging. Does that mean they attracted that type? Does it mean they were faulty when they strove to stay away from the bad type and still found it? Are they faulty if in their own experience base, they didn't know the signs of a different package?
People are not always nice and to find honor and such is much harder to do because society doesn't expect as much honor in my opinion. Therefore some can get hit by the curse of this without actually drawing it unto themselves.
Who can look into the mind and heart of another person and with even a 60% positive outcome, be assured that they are correct in their assumption of them? We can be fooled, tricked, ignorant and simply wrong in knowing what another person is emotionally and in honor. I have seen some real good packaging and still what was in that package was pure me-me, spoiled content, but to look at it, it didn't look bad. People learn to manipulate and show a false front and some get caught in it. The only way not to get caught in it is to stop being involved, which is an answer many use.
I do not think because of this we can excuse some from looking out for things and such, but just getting caught in a situation doesn't mean we were at fault. It is how we manage things and keep our own emotions going in a positive direction that matters sometimes. We cannot control others for the most part but we can control ourselves. If we have any flaw we can be subject to those who do not have good mental health or good motives, and we have to find our way through it and can, but some will get defeated or will not have the self ego to help themselves instantly and need a bit of time to digest it and deal with it.
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