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yes or no - 7/6/2008 6:30:18 PM   
ConcisenessM


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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 6:32:32 PM   
CallaFirestormBW


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Status: offline 		I'm guessing you mean "would you let your submissive win the occasional fight?". To that, I'd have to say "If hir arguments were strong enough."

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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 6:32:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've never been in a relationship where one person bogards the perfection bucket. Some people may disagree- some don't like their girls to show any opinion that's different from the dominants. I just know it would get frustrating.

Edited to say I suck at yes/no answers


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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 6:34:23 PM   
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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 6:34:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		I try to think of it as, "What makes us win?"  Otherwise, instead of a team effort, it's a battle of wills, which is kinda boring.

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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 6:35:53 PM   
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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 6:35:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

I've never been in a relationship where one person bogards the perfection bucket. Some people may disagree- some don't like their girls to show any opinion that's different from the dominants. I just know it would get frustrating.

Edited to say I suck at yes/no answers




lol!  Very funny Lynnxz...

I was in a relationship where I was wrong most of the time, even though he would espouse the opposite - how he would listen to me if I had expertise in something.  When push came to shove (not literally!), however he would always get the last word and I'd back down.  He would go on and on about things and even though I disagreed, I'd be told why I was wrong for disageeing, for example.  Ugh .. that got old *really* fast. 

Submissive doesn't equal stupid.  Nor does being submissive (to me) mean always propping up the ego of the Dominant. 

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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 6:40:18 PM   
kanokano


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Status: offline 		could any submissive live happily never winning an argument?  i find the best way to maintain any sort or relationship is to give a little when is necessary.

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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 6:42:05 PM   
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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 6:47:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		We both win when we're not battling against each other, but rather for each other.  It's really not about winning a fight with us, it's about getting things right between us.

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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 6:55:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

We both win when we're not battling against each other, but rather for each other.  It's really not about winning a fight with us, it's about getting things right between us.


Short and sweet and totally right on the mark!

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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 6:58:45 PM   
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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 6:59:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		On the plus side, if you honor agreements and don't play games-there is seldom a reason for strife. I would have to wonder about a person who played double standards with thier word-since that would make it useless.

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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 7:07:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		Arguments here are to be settled and avoided, not come to fights. With that said, if I disagreed with him and gave him new information which made him change his mind, that isn't 'winning a fight'. That's me doing my job of helping him. I'm supposed to not let him make a mistake if I know something he doesn't.

Physical stuff? If we're playing and he allows me to pin him down and climb on top, sure. But that's just fun.

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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 7:07:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

We both win when we're not battling against each other, but rather for each other.  It's really not about winning a fight with us, it's about getting things right between us.


No fair owned!  You stole my answer!  

  

He and I do not fight.  The rare times when there is tension, we work through it...... and it is always respectful.  Everything that we do is for the benefit of our relationship and each other.


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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 7:14:00 PM   
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i would say there's no clear cut winner or loser in any argument - only hurt feelings.

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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 7:15:30 PM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel


No fair owned!  You stole my answer!  

  


Hahaha...keep in mind it took me a long time to reach that point.  I used to try to fight him all the time.  It would just leave us both pissed off.  Gee, what a fun relationship!  But those fights were usually fear-based on my part.  When the fear went away our relationship became the priority, not my need to prove myself right (even when I wasn't!).

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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 7:16:26 PM   
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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 7:22:22 PM   
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RE: yes or no - 7/6/2008 7:23:56 PM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: katie978

If my Master and I were boxing, yes, I would let him win an occasional fight.


OMG that's hot!


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