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RE: Infighting and nastiness - 7/16/2008 8:49:10 AM

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RE: Infighting and nastiness - 7/16/2008 9:42:44 AM

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To me respect is something to be earned, not given. If you wish my respect then you earn it. If I find you disrespectful you can expect me to respond with rudeness. That is my opinion and I think thats what it all boils down too. Opinions, we all have them and they vary drastically at times. Often I think people feel their entitlement to their own opinion grants them the right to disrespect others for having different ones. This is espescially true in the online world where people have the comfort of hiding behind general anonymity and stand to suffer little in the way of consequences for their actions. I dont feel we have the right to demand respect from everyone everywhere we go. I do however feel we have the right to be treated reasonably and fairly. It is not, however, a reasonable nor a fair world.

My question would be, who gives a flying fuck if the vanilla world respects us/you/the community? Are you more concerned with acceptance than respect? Honestly, its kind of hard to ask people who view certain activities as morally questionable to respect you when they have no inclination to accept you or what/who you are/do in the first place.

I respect the vanilla world's right to view me and my actions as... well, whatever the hell it wants. Its not going to change me. I dont think I would be worthy of respect if I let it.

In the end in any online community you will have differences of opinions and to a lesser extent griefers who are just out to flame for the sake of... whatever it is. I dont really care. If your shoulders arent big enough to bear the burden of online griefers derailing your threads/posts then maybe online isnt the best place for you to be. If someone has crossed the line in most online communities there are means of dealing with them and hving them removed. However, if its just a matter of someone expressing an opinion that differs from yours, even meanly, its still just an opinion and they still had just as much right to post what they did as you had to post what you did.

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RE: Infighting and nastiness - 7/16/2008 10:17:24 AM

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I was trying to decide if I have ever been rude to anyone here without being poked. I don't think so. However, I do defend to the death another's right to do so.

I am not the PC police. I claim no moral superiority over anyone else. I am not about to tell anyone else how to behave. Except my UM's, but that's my job.

Sure, the world would be full of goodness and light if everyone would be kind to one another and never be rude. If all of the raindrops were lemondrops and gumdrops, oh what a world it would be.

Instead of climbing up on one's morally superior soapbox, moaning about how the world should be, how about embracing the way the world IS, learning to accept people the way they ARE instead of trying to change them? Now, THAT'S tolerance.

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RE: Infighting and nastiness - 7/16/2008 10:30:47 AM

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Lately i have noticed that i do a lot of bitching about others in my professional field and their "behavior" and not addressing the fact that i respond in kind. While i can take some sick pride in "not starting it", im finding that the older i get, the less that statement really means. i espouse the concept of cleaning up your own corner of the world and creating a world worth living in that way...but i dont really live it as of late.
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RE: Infighting and nastiness - 7/16/2008 10:59:44 AM

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