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CallaFirestormBW -> RE: What is your 'Reality' (7/20/2008 9:13:20 AM)
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What the hey... none of this makes me any more real. None of this validates any of my opinions, if your experiences don't back up what I say in my posts... but just for fun, and because I love words and this gives me another opportunity to jack around with my word-fetish kink....
I live in Houston, with a fellow Domina. We both work real jobs, live in an apartment that is old, but comfortable for us in its own way. We chose it more because it was a small community (around 2 dozen units) instead of a sterile, thousand+ unit complex. We refuse to buy a house in the city, because the attendant (wasted) costs of homeowners' association fees and taxes nearly doubles the mortgage payment, and we dont' find that to be an efficient use of our money.We share our home with 2 young women that we've raised to adulthood, one of whom is a kinkster herself, and both of whom are artists. They'll probably hang around until they can support themselves with their art, and that's fine with us, because we like them as people, now that they're grown.
We are part of a kink family that has members in Houston, Baton Rouge, Phoenix, and RDU. We get to see our family members every couple of months to every couple of years, depending on everyone's schedule. My companion has trained a dozen servants, 2 of whom are with other family members, and has raised 2 servants to earning their crops, including me. I've trained 2 servants myself, though both relocated for work. I earned my crop 3 years ago, and spent 5 years before that in service. I am pierced and tattooed, have trained as a midwife - a job at which I worked for 15 years, and as a paramedic (a job at which I worked for 4 years).
I've completed my PhD in comparative religion and developmental theology (how a theology develops and grows into a religion and how religious thought develops in individuls), and completed a degree in naturopathy. If I had it to do over, I don't think I'd bother with the degrees, as they're pretty pieces of paper, but the things I learned that are most important to how I live my life came experientially, not through schools, hours of writing dreck, and exams. I am ordained, and have spent the preponderance of my 27 years in alt spirituality (and 22 as an ordained minister) providing pastoral care in alternative-lifestyle communities. I've worked with the transgender, Gay/Lesbian, polyamory, alt-spirituality, TV, BDSM, M/s, D/s, and alternative health communities. After years of providing counseling, I've discovered that the most effective thing tool that I can give to a person is the opportunity to examine hir own life, without me giving advice or looking over hir shoulder.
I am a "Jack of all Trades". My current job applies my old skills in writing, developing, and editing for medical and spiritual publications. I'm good at it, but it isn't where my heart is in terms of writing. I have two published novels (sociological science fiction) and a number of published short stories in SF and horror. I look forward to the day when I can write the things -I- want to write, on a full-time basis, but realize that that probably won't happen until I retire.
I've lived my entire life with a rare congenital immune-system defect that wreaks havoc on my body at times. Because of the underlying illness, I have symptoms similar to multiple sclerosis, arthritis, Epstein-Barr syndrome, and dermatitis. These ebb and flow, but other than some mobility issues that have cropped up after a nasty encounter between me (on my street scooter) and an SUV, I do pretty doggone well. I don't consider myself "disabled". I still work, I still play, and I still teach. What I am, I guess, is "motivationally lazy"... if I am tired or not interested, I won't put out the effort to get off my arse and push myself to do whatever it is that is being waved in my direction. When I'm motivated, nothing stops me.
Right now, we are looking for a servant or two, and maybe some casual play partners -- I haven't decided on that yet. I think it will depend on how much the individual(s) we take on as servants want to be involved in my heavy edge-play fetishes. We sent our last servant on to a new job 3 years ago, and took a break while we developed our own 'voices', worked through some dynamics changes (it's hard going from one side of the collar to another with the same individuals, and my companion and I learned that the scope of the transition deserved our complete attention). We survived.. in fact, thrived... by having to face this, and added another experience to our repertoire of experiences that we've successfully navigated.
Again.. none of this makes us -real-... What it makes us is people with experiences, and if your experiences don't match ours, the things we offer up won't make a bit of difference (if they even make any sense).
Calla Firestorm
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