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ORIGINAL: igor2003

then, if you are not interested, a simply reply of "No thank you" would be the appropriate and civilized thing to do.  Chances are (though just guessing from my own experience) that a good submissive will accept that as "good enough" and move on.  If someone does whine and persist after that, then the "ignore" button is just as easy and quick to hit now as it would have been the first time.

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a simply reply of "No thank you" would be the appropriate and civilized thing to do.

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ORIGINAL: bottomboy81

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I don't so you will have to find someone who does and ask her?

That’s because you’re a woman, everything comes easy to you.

REALLY? How did you come up with that brillant life lesson?

(in reply to bottomboy81)

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ORIGINAL: bottomboy81

...Time for a reality check, is it because their expectations are dysfunctional for the majority? No matter who you are man/woman, if your expectations are dysfunctional for the majority, ITS YOU WITH THE PROBLEM, not a lot of the offers you get.

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ORIGINAL: bottomboy81

For a average male sub to get a reply, his email and profile has to stand out from most male subs to qualify the interest of most dommes. A male sub has to be extra interesting or extra intelligent than most average men next door to be worthy enough. But how many dommes have the capability or status of standing them selves out from most dommes and being extra interesting and intelligent than most average women next door? It also seems that bi sexual women will more easily give an average woman a chance who doesn't stand her self out from the rest.

Yes, it is rude to place your self above the other gender, unfortunately, 99 percent of the dommes do on this site."

To me, it would be weird if a Dom/me didn't place themsleves above you - what exactly do you think the Dominant partner does/is? To me, it sounds like you have a huge amount of anger, and disrespect for exactly what you say you are seeking to find. I would not expect a respectful or interested response from Doms on this site if all I did was bitch about men and Doms having it 'easy' and being 'rude.'

(in reply to bottomboy81)

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

For me, it depends on the message -- there are several that I won't answer, the top one being if you've clearly not read my profile.  Also, if the message is from someone overseas, someone way too young, without a photo, or just one line.  All of those would also indicate you haven't read my profile.

For the most part, I try to say 'no thanks' but sometimes, its very clear its just going to cause a barrage of rude emails so I don't bother.

It would be nice to always get a response, but the fact is, no one owes anyone a response to an unsolicited email.

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: youngstownsubm

I've noticed that most Dommes that I send messages to on CollarMe completely ignore me. Am I crazy in thinking this is an incredibly rude way to treat someone who just sent you an honest, heartfelt message expressing an interest in you?

Given that your recent posts include the statements that (1) any prodomme is not really a dominant woman, and (2) a dominant woman who does not want a drug-using sub in her life is someone unworthy of service, I have no trouble believing your email contact with dominant women could be seen as arrogant and snarky.  Why write back to some jerk who messages you out of the blue?

I have gotten a lot of responses to emails I have sent.  Frankly, I attribute my success to the fact that women are glad to read something from a man who does not have an attitude like yours.

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ORIGINAL: youngstownsubm

I've noticed that most Dommes that I send messages to on CollarMe completely ignore me. Am I crazy in thinking this is an incredibly rude way to treat someone who just sent you an honest, heartfelt message expressing an interest in you?

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ORIGINAL: rulemylife

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

For me, it depends on the message -- there are several that I won't answer, the top one being if you've clearly not read my profile.  Also, if the message is from someone overseas, someone way too young, without a photo, or just one line.  All of those would also indicate you haven't read my profile.

For the most part, I try to say 'no thanks' but sometimes, its very clear its just going to cause a barrage of rude emails so I don't bother.

It would be nice to always get a response, but the fact is, no one owes anyone a response to an unsolicited email.

Unsolicited is receiving a phone call from a telemarketer trying to sell you auto insurance.  If you post a public ad seeking offers on auto insurance it is not unsolicited.

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ORIGINAL: rulemylife

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: youngstownsubm

I've noticed that most Dommes that I send messages to on CollarMe completely ignore me. Am I crazy in thinking this is an incredibly rude way to treat someone who just sent you an honest, heartfelt message expressing an interest in you?

Given that your recent posts include the statements that (1) any prodomme is not really a dominant woman, and (2) a dominant woman who does not want a drug-using sub in her life is someone unworthy of service, I have no trouble believing your email contact with dominant women could be seen as arrogant and snarky.  Why write back to some jerk who messages you out of the blue?

I have gotten a lot of responses to emails I have sent.  Frankly, I attribute my success to the fact that women are glad to read something from a man who does not have an attitude like yours.

Ah yes, Sir Galahan thunders into yet another thread to teach us poor peasants his charms with women.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Red has a good point here.  I'll follow it with a second one.

How much unsolicited mail do you get at home?  Do you receive advertisements from cell phone companies when you are already quite satisfied with your phone service?  Do you get letters about home owners insurance when you rent an apartment?  How about things from your local Republican candidate for the Senate when you are clearly a Democrat?

Guess what?  That unsolicited mail that you receive at home is just like folks who haven't bothered to read a profile, and contact people who are obviously a bad match.  Personally, I have a few key things in My profile that make it very obvious for certain people to know that we are not compatible.  They mail Me anyway.  Now, please remember that the information is already available to them.  Why would it be necessary for Me to write it again in an email?  By the way, My general solution for this is to copy/paste those portions of My profile and say that they should read the profiles of the people they contact.

Back to the point.  Do you respond to all of the unsolicited mail you get at home for offers that you aren't interested in?  I'm willing to bet you haven't written back to any of the folks who have sent various forms of junk mail, newspaper circulars, credit card offers, or anything else that didn't interest you.

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

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ORIGINAL: bottomboy81

What’s the explanation for ignoring the subs who have compatible kinks and who looked at the domme’s profile and asked questions about it? Why do they still get ignored? The majority of dommes on here would get approached all the time. To say that the majority of male subs don’t read profiles or they email dommes with incompatible kinks is a silly excuse. The dommes on this site remain here for months or years while getting all these offers and not one of them offers are good enough?

Why is it socially acceptable to blame the majority of male subs for why things go wrong in this scene? As for, we are just vanilla trolls looking for sex, we don’t read profiles etc etc etc. But if a man blames the majority of dommes FOR ANYTHING why things go wrong, he is wrong regardless what explanation he has?

The way I see it, the dommes on this site are unappreciative, they have opportunities coming out of their ass and yet NOT ONE out of the 100s or 1000s of opportunities they get is still not good enough.

Time for a reality check, is it because their expectations are dysfunctional for the majority? No matter who you are man/woman, if your expectations are dysfunctional for the majority, ITS YOU WITH THE PROBLEM, not a lot of the offers you get.

Life is not fair.

The sooner you realize this, the sooner you will be ready for this whole real world thing.

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

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ORIGINAL: rulemylife

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: youngstownsubm

I've noticed that most Dommes that I send messages to on CollarMe completely ignore me. Am I crazy in thinking this is an incredibly rude way to treat someone who just sent you an honest, heartfelt message expressing an interest in you?

Given that your recent posts include the statements that (1) any prodomme is not really a dominant woman, and (2) a dominant woman who does not want a drug-using sub in her life is someone unworthy of service, I have no trouble believing your email contact with dominant women could be seen as arrogant and snarky.  Why write back to some jerk who messages you out of the blue?

I have gotten a lot of responses to emails I have sent.  Frankly, I attribute my success to the fact that women are glad to read something from a man who does not have an attitude like yours.

Ah yes, Sir Galahan thunders into yet another thread to teach us poor peasants his charms with women.

jealous?

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ORIGINAL: rulemylife

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Red has a good point here.  I'll follow it with a second one.

How much unsolicited mail do you get at home?  Do you receive advertisements from cell phone companies when you are already quite satisfied with your phone service?  Do you get letters about home owners insurance when you rent an apartment?  How about things from your local Republican candidate for the Senate when you are clearly a Democrat?

Guess what?  That unsolicited mail that you receive at home is just like folks who haven't bothered to read a profile, and contact people who are obviously a bad match.  Personally, I have a few key things in My profile that make it very obvious for certain people to know that we are not compatible.  They mail Me anyway.  Now, please remember that the information is already available to them.  Why would it be necessary for Me to write it again in an email?  By the way, My general solution for this is to copy/paste those portions of My profile and say that they should read the profiles of the people they contact.

Back to the point.  Do you respond to all of the unsolicited mail you get at home for offers that you aren't interested in?  I'm willing to bet you haven't written back to any of the folks who have sent various forms of junk mail, newspaper circulars, credit card offers, or anything else that didn't interest you.

I just posted something before I read this, but I think it applicable.  If you have a public ad you are soliciting responses.  So you cannot claim the responses you get are comparable to junk mail, newspaper circulars, or credit card offers. 

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ORIGINAL: rulemylife

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

For me, it depends on the message -- there are several that I won't answer, the top one being if you've clearly not read my profile.  Also, if the message is from someone overseas, someone way too young, without a photo, or just one line.  All of those would also indicate you haven't read my profile.

For the most part, I try to say 'no thanks' but sometimes, its very clear its just going to cause a barrage of rude emails so I don't bother.

It would be nice to always get a response, but the fact is, no one owes anyone a response to an unsolicited email.

Unsolicited is receiving a phone call from a telemarketer trying to sell you auto insurance.  If you post a public ad seeking offers on auto insurance it is not unsolicited.