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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 8:32:25 PM   
synningsub


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Status: offline 		He always falls asleep first and is always holding me somehow when that happens.. i tend to get stiff and move alot so i wait till hes well asleep and find my own position.. he usually ends up pulling me too him a few times in the nite and i always find a way to slip away.. i love to at least touch him with one foot or hand but i move so much in my sleep, that ive woken up on the opposite side more than a few times..

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 8:50:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am hell to sleep with!...I tend to travel and toss from side to side all night long,I simply cannot stay in one position long..I also like a lot of pillows for certain positions,and I need to have the tv on, with a bit of sound .Then of course the covers are on, and then they are thrown off,(rinse and repeat :0)..Any man who sleeps with me is one brave soul, and at the most ,tolerent..because I am basically too old to do the whole floor thing...a creaking submissive who has not slept is not a pretty sight..Tempting

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 9:00:21 PM   
KneelforAnne


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Status: offline 		i am actually headed to bed now, and just had to giggle...

i sleep in a queen size bed, pillow top with a down feather bed.  6 pillows and a down comforter.  Think giant marshmellow bed.  To me, it is heaven on earth.  It's hot  in SC/SW Florida (imagine that!), so i keep the air on 70, no higher than 72. 

When i sleep alone i pull the covers over my head, a la eskimo style and leave only my nose out.  Feet absolutely must be covered and tucked in. 

Even if it is hot in the room i have to cover up with something, blanket, sheet...whatever.  i think just the weight of something over me is what i need, unless i am cold.  Then break out the blankets and comforters!  Oh, and socks too!

i am a sneaky snuggler...in my sleep i gravitate to the heat and just curl around it.  i do try and stay on my side, but it is a lost cause.  i have actually woken up wrapped around the other person...

It's actually hard for me to sleep with someone, because they get (or have in the past) uncomfortable with me all up in their business...*laughs*


*shrug*

What can i say? 

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 9:36:42 PM   
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I don't want anyone cuddling up against me. (Except for that 10# canine that seems to think she needs to crawl under the covers and curl up againt my stomach and put her nose up between my boobs......spoiled little bitch she is..)


I thought my little dog was the only one that did that!  How funny!

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 10:53:27 PM   
StormsSlave


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Status: offline 		My Lord and I make the best bed!

From the first, we have had the most comfortable sleep together. Usually we fall asleep spooning. Throughout the night we shift, move, roll, and always settle in against each other, most often without waking each other. It's fluid and lovely and wonderful to experience.

Always before I have fallen asleep then scooched away. The very first time My Lord and I slept together, in the literal sense, we immediately found the most amazingly comfortable positions wrapped around each other. We even managed to sleep together in a twin bed in the back of a van for two months.


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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 3:19:59 AM   
Rayne58


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Sir is insomniac, so I go to bed first.  Sometimes I hear Him come to bed, sometimes not.  If I do, I will snuggle into His back, or He will spoon with me.  We both have pillows we cuddle with/put against our backs.  Sometimes I'll wake and He will have snuggled me and I've moved away because I get hot, and I'll have about a third to a quarter of our queen size bed and He will have the rest!

When I first moved in, I would sometimes have nightmares (legacy of a long emotionally abusive marriage).  I have woken to find Him holding me and telling me it's all right and that I am safe.  Once He told me that I sounded mad, and once that I was crying in my sleep   Luckily, nearly 5 years later, the nightmares have almost gone.  If I do dream about my ex, I usually am feeling very pissed off in the dream!

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 3:52:41 AM   
WhiplashSmile2


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Status: offline 		I'm totally into having somebody sleep in the same bed with me, regardless if they are Domme,sub,slave,switch. 

The best part is having somebody there for a middle of a night sex fix.

In terms of sleeping close together, away from one another or on top of one another, it all depends.   It's somewhat varied.   Size of bed, the other person, the room temp, probally some other things.

I've had moments when I just wanted to have my space and other times I've been interlocked with somebody.

At times having somebodys head resting on my shoulders.  Do they snore or not? Do they thrash around and move and kick? 

So many things..........

Middle of the night or 4 am sex!  Yes!! Love it!!

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 3:56:36 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I never realised that so many people struggle to get a good night's sleep. I almost feel bad for sleeping like the dead.

I go to bed and within minutes I am out cold. I usually wake up around 2-4ish to pee and get a drink of water but that's it until my normal 5-5:30 natural wakeup for the day. My bed and getting a good night's sleep are a priority for me. If I don't get it, I am not pleasant to be around.

I am picky about the bed, the sheets, the quilt, pillows, light and noise (none!). Which is really funny because I can fall asleep almost anywhere if I am tired. I've slept in the cab of my truck on many a camping trips because it was easier than setting up a tent. Put a football game on the tv and I am out on the sofa. I can even take a nap in the breakroom at work with presses running overhead and people talking. It's just that when I am here at home, I want things just so.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 4:25:18 AM   
LostLittleSoul2


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Status: offline 		 Good night sleep...what is that

I used to be the queen of sleep. I could sleep whenever and wherever I wanted to sleep. My parents used to say I would oversleep my whole life as I slept a lot and could even sleep when any companies ripped off our street to change any pipes (and was not bothered at all about the noise level). My ex got mad at me when I was quite new in england in 2005 and kept calling me at 9am (over approx. 8 weeks every day, except sundays) to ensure I get out of bed and spend my time a bit more useful then to stay in bed until midday...unfortunately since then I can't sleep long anymore. I would like to sleep until midday but I wake up automatically between 8-10am, does not matter how late I go to bed.

Despite that it seems my fibromyalgia is the reason that since last year I don't get good sleep anymore at all really (except in nights when I have an emotionally break down, then I sleep like a baby...but it's not worth to have that one too often) as I wake up either during the night being in pain and then have to struggle a fair amount until I manage to turn around, or wake up with a very hurting and stiff back which lasts for between 10mins to an hour after getting up (sometimes both, pain at night and wake up in pain). Currently my GP did put me on medication for better sleep, as he figured out that I don't manage to give my body a real rest, this does help a bit, but not as much as I would like it...hope he knows what he is doing and will wait and see how he continues when I come for my review in 3 weeks time.

I miss enjoyful proper sleep how "I want to" a lot...regarding doms and subs in bed...well, my 3 cats share my double bed most nights and they are quite dom about where they want to lie (which is sometimes another struggle when I need to turn around and have to move 1-3 of them at first to be able to move)...but I guess, they don' t really count on here (but my girl is a real domme to her brother and the other boy...well, she has to *lol*)

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 5:00:55 AM   
Mavis


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Status: offline 		Interesting thread!  When The Him and I were dating, He would pull covers over both heads and wrap me up like we were sharing a sarcophagus.  I'd dig myself out from under, and He'd curl and arm around me and pull me back and say "where ya goin inchworm?"   I kind of liked it, but half of me was thinking "This clingy fukr has got to go!"

27 years later (anniversary tomorrow!)  I wear a c-pap like others have mentioned here.  The blankie over the head thing went by the wayside after the first year, but we're always touching from the waist down at least. He insists I have butt in the small of his back, or a leg over, and if I move, he still mutters "inchworm" in his sleep and draws me back over. 

And if I move and he doesn't react?  I wake up, and wonder I did to piss off the "clingy fukr".  Invariably, I find something that is not settling right with Him.  That posessive touching thing is the surest barometer or our D.s health.

Funny how I useed to consider "being posessive" a trait to be avoided when I was dating.  "No man is going to own ME, by gawd!" <giggles> ah, the folly of youth.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 5:22:32 AM   
tammystarm


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Status: offline 		as much as i love to cuddle i need my room. cold dark and quiet. i am a fibromyalgic so moving around is a must during the night to get into any comfortable position. saying that however i wake up constantly through the night looking over at him and wanting every  inch of Him touching me.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 6:59:53 AM   
camille65


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Status: offline 		I used to sleep like the dead before lupus and fibro, it took years of insomnia and pain before finding the chemical cocktail that helps me sleep. Weirdly I hardly move once I fall asleep but then my bed is a serious bed. It was my luxury post-divorce indulgence. A king sized pillow top with 10 down pillows and assorted down throw pillows.

Even with the meds I am a light sleeper, REM is a struggle and actual rest is a bigger struggle.

But I love nothing more than when I have the opportunities to be wrapped up in his arms. That could be because it is not a nightly thing, I am primarily a solitary sleeper (aside from the banshee howling cat Barney). I'm only with R about a week every few months so there isn't a lot of adjustment. If it was every night I'm not sure it would work. While married I had to sleep in a separate bed because every snore or twitch would wake me up. I really really hope that it has changed, that sleeping with R easily will continue.


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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 7:04:29 AM   
CreativeDominant


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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
(Except for that 10# canine that seems to think she needs to crawl under the covers and curl up againt my stomach and put her nose up between my boobs......spoiled little bitch she is..)


LaT, I bet that line is going to have a whole bunch of people wishing they were a dog.


I was thinking the same thing, mist...

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 7:17:37 AM   
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So i was wondering how do you sleep?

Very well, thank you for asking!    I usually sleep on my left side though occasionally I go to sleep on my back.  When I have been sleeping with a submissive, it is usually with her curled up to my chest OR with me snuggled in behind her OR with her snuggled into my back.
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Does your D type have a way of getting you back to him if you move away during the night?
Is he asleep or awake when doing this?
Does your s type move away from you during the night and do you pull her back to you? If so how?
I've found that it varies.  My first submissive did not like to be up against someone while sleeping.  So she would move away and I would usually go "looking" for her.  She finally quit fighting it and realized she was going to be up against me during her sleeping time.  She got used to it rather quickly.  My second submissive loved me laying on my back and pulling her into my chest.  My hand would be on her ass with my fingers casually exploring and my other hand in her hair.  She'd sleep this way all through the night because it made her feel "safe and secure".
I do like the idea of having my hand on the submissive's ass as she lays cuddled up on my stomach, my cock in her mouth...mistoferin mentioned doing that and I've had it mentioned to me by someone else.  Can't wait to try that position!!!
quote:

Are you usually awake or asleep?
Also any clues as to the whys some d types do this in their sleep?


Edited to seperate some of the garble lol


I vary...sometimes I will wake up when I feel the absence of a body next to me but, depending on how long I have been sleeping with this particular person, I get to the point where I note their absence even in my sleep.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 7:21:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant
I do like the idea of having my hand on the submissive's ass as she lays cuddled up on my stomach, my cock in her mouth...mistoferin mentioned doing that and I've had it mentioned to me by someone else.  Can't wait to try that position!!!


I find it is an extremely comforting and soothing way to fall asleep for both of us.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 7:51:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

quote:

ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant
I do like the idea of having my hand on the submissive's ass as she lays cuddled up on my stomach, my cock in her mouth...mistoferin mentioned doing that and I've had it mentioned to me by someone else.  Can't wait to try that position!!!


I find it is an extremely comforting and soothing way to fall asleep for both of us.


Of that, I have absolutely no doubt. 

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 7:59:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was just thinking that it might be dangerous for the guy. Especially if the partner was one of those teeth grinding type people.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 10:08:20 AM   
leadership527


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Status: offline 		So i was wondering how do you sleep?
she sleeps in bed next to me.  She starts laying next to me with one leg tossed over me and her head on my shoulder.  I like to have her leashed and "hold" her against me (*laughs* as if she was struggling to escape).

Does your D type have a way of getting you back to him if you move away during the night?
Nope.  If I might wake up and if waking her up won't be a problem (work nights and her with a dodgy sleep cycle), then I roll over and lay all over her *laughs*.

Is he asleep or awake when doing this?
Awake.  If I was asleep, we'd be sprawled on opposite sides of our calif king.  We like to heap up like puppies until we actually fall asleep, then sprawl by ourselves.

Does your s type move away from you during the night and do you pull her back to you? If so how?
See above (by the way, same answer in reverse)

Are you usually awake or asleep?
same same

Also any clues as to the whys some d types do this in their sleep?
Not a clue.  When I'm asleep I'm... well... not awake.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 10:41:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		hehe.. i so wanted to try that one time, but yeah the teeth grinding so just shoot that right in the behind. i guess something about the gnashing isnt all that comforting to males and thier pieces.

lee

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/27/2008 11:28:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I was just thinking that it might be dangerous for the guy. Especially if the partner was one of those teeth grinding type people.


Damnit!!!  Thanks for the cold shudder, LaT...evil woman.

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