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RE: Masters Receiving Oral - question - 9/17/2008 3:30:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: badlilthang

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ORIGINAL: silkenfire

One of the major dilemmas that I see is:
Would you rather your sub asked you if they may go down on you, because it shows their desire in pleasing you

or

Would you rather being able to order your sub around to do it whenever you wished to receive?

Do you think there is a downside to either (and I do say "sub" not "slave" as I realize that a slave may hve different connotations)

Looks like I'm a little different to most here....

The way I rationalise things, keeping my dick "happy" is one of my girl's main responsibilities so I first teach her the five instances or circumstances when she's NOT permitted to touch with her hands. Once she knows them, she alone may go where I won't allow *anyone* else....

Focus.

**ok - i'll bite ( no pun intende..well..almost none....)...what are those 5 five instances or circumstances?**

I'll tell you three and leave the two most basic for you to figger.

1.

2.

3. No touching in public.

4. No touching in a disrespectful manner.

5. No touching if she has reason to believe I'm displeased with her.

Since I'm not in the habit of getting intimate with strangers, it's not really difficult for my *relationship* partners to learn the intricacies through personal familiarity. And if she's not sure, she can never get in trouble for asking.

The missing two are so obvious (once the "light bulb" flickers on) that they seem almost silly - except that they're also fact, so they count.

Your turn - bite away... lol

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RE: Masters Receiving Oral - question - 9/17/2008 4:53:35 PM

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I don't see the problem with either. It's a day to day thing. Somedays I want to give orders, othertimes I'd like some begging. In any case if someone if following me around the room going OM NOM NOM NOM, begging to service me, I'm certainly not going to take offense.

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RE: Masters Receiving Oral - question - 9/17/2008 6:08:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: silkenfire

One of the major dilemmas that I see is:
Would you rather your sub asked you if they may go down on you, because it shows their desire in pleasing you

or

Would you rather being able to order your sub around to do it whenever you wished to receive?

Do you think there is a downside to either (and I do say "sub" not "slave" as I realize that a slave may hve different connotations)

-silk

As has been said many times already ... I don't see why there cant be both... if she ask and for some reason ( this is not gonna happen very often) I am not in the mood ,I can always say no , if i just want it.. then she needs to be ready at all times.

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RE: Masters Receiving Oral - question - 9/17/2008 6:27:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: BrokenSaint

I don't see the problem with either. It's a day to day thing. Somedays I want to give orders, othertimes I'd like some begging. In any case if someone if following me around the room going OM NOM NOM NOM, begging to service me, I'm certainly not going to take offense.

Apparently there's a surprising number of subbies who do this.

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RE: Masters Receiving Oral - question - 9/17/2008 7:32:45 PM

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It is usually a reward for subbie, maybe she did a scene particularly well, or her session was well done, or she showed unusual growth in her role as subbie. She always has to ask though. Her technique must be right on though. It doesnt necessarily allow her to swallow though, that is yet another step.

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RE: Masters Receiving Oral - question - 9/18/2008 5:02:16 AM

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ORIGINAL: BrokenSaint

I don't see the problem with either. It's a day to day thing. Somedays I want to give orders, othertimes I'd like some begging. In any case if someone if following me around the room going OM NOM NOM NOM, begging to service me, I'm certainly not going to take offense.

Apparently there's a surprising number of subbies who do this.

*sings*
Whaaat a wonderfullll woooooorrrrllllddddd

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RE: Masters Receiving Oral - question - 9/18/2008 5:59:13 PM

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I have an oral fixation, and Master enjoys it. I do not need permission to touch and suck Him, to worship Him and His cock. I'd have to do an awful lot of begging if it was required.

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RE: Masters Receiving Oral - question - 9/20/2008 8:17:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

The way around the dilemna, silkenfire is to tell him this about your fear of rejection upfront. Not face to face, because that's too hard for you right now. But through email. ...

...If he's a good guy, he will be gentle in saying "not now pet, after I see if A-Rod gets a homer" or some such response. And he'll try to take you up on it as often as possible to encourage you to offer more....

I like both options. I enjoy being asked, and I enjoy simply initiating myself.

I also agree with the advice to let him know your concerns about rejection.

Personally, I don't want it *all* the time.
And, sometimes the timing just isn't right (as in the humorous example in the quote above, but it could be for other reasons as well).
But I do want to make sure that my sub feels encouraged to ask again, so; thanks for posting this query.
It is a reminder for me to mention that I love it when she asks (...even if that timing thing isn't always right for me.)

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RE: Masters Receiving Oral - question - 9/20/2008 8:50:11 PM

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personally.. i am of the type that only thinks to ask the Dom what he wants.. or expecting Him to decide, obeying the desire and whim of the Dom, and so, anytime it has ever been "suggested" that i learn to beg to be able to do something, (like in this case, performing oral)
i have always been shocked.

Not shocked in a bad way really, but instead shocked a bit at myself for not thinking of it earlier on my own.. shocked at wondering why such things don't normally occur to me. and shocked in a good way, that yet another way of being pleasing has been granted.

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RE: Masters Receiving Oral - question - 9/20/2008 10:02:57 PM

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OMG, I don't know about the rest of you folks. I've only read the OP. Here's the deal for me. I'll simply pull it out, take them by the back of their head and tell them to suck my cock now. In terms of a sub/slave or partner asking, I don't have a problem with it. In fact, I'll tease and make them beg or talk dirty for it! Only Good little slutty girls get to suck my cock.

I really don't try to think about this crap too much, else I would drive myself nuts.

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RE: Masters Receiving Oral - question - 9/22/2008 3:21:06 PM

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It's a;ways nice to be asked, especially on a train

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