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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 12:09:53 PM   
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It's as important as anything else in a relationship. Outright ignoring and blindly accepting a partner's beliefs will only lead to ruin.

Changing beliefs to fit a situation, make folks happy or to please a partner will lead to pretty much the same outcome.

If all concerned parties aren't a good fit together, then it's not going to last - or if it does, a lot of subject matter will be off-limits.



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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 12:43:22 PM   
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They are either God loving...Christ exalting...people...
 
Or we have very little in common...period.
 
 


TC,

Brief and concise; thanks for your input.

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 12:45:43 PM   
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Question: How important is religion when determining a potential match for yourself?



For me, very. My religion partially defines the ebb and flow of my life now so the other person needs to be able to flow with that for us both to be happy.

AS

And thus the point of the thread!

thanks for your thoughts

CP

Doesn't mean it will be important, or should be, for everyone else though.

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 12:47:55 PM   
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spiritual compatiblity is incredibly important. religion not so much. as long as the open mindedness is there, and i am not being spoon fed another's domga. i am fine. my whole mess is so quirky i confuse myself somedays.

lee


le,

now that is candor, thanks!

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 1:08:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW

I would have to disagree with you here, Nihilus. If this were true, then children should never be taught history, biology, physics...

These are methods of understandings empirical realities of our world, not metaphysical conjecture. Some spiritualities are less restrictive than others and more openly praise the child's fundamental choice to figure things out on their own, but not all are like that.

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in fact, we shouldn't teach children ANYTHING, because they might pick up some idea from our tone of voice that would FORCE them to think a certain way...

I think trying to make it seem that teaching a child how to brush her teeth and teaching a child how to be a (choose your brand of ) bigot are the same thing (or even similar) is being disingenuous.

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My kids were taught my path, their stepmom's religion, their dad's and grandparents religions, and my parents' religion. They attended church with their stepmom every Sunday, and Sunday-school twice a week. As adults, one of them chose my path, one chose his stepmom's religion, and one is an atheist. So explain to me again how teaching something forces the kid to either believe it or practice it...

You've just said they practiced it. Why do you need to brand any child with something entirely of your own personal preference? I'm not talking minor things like dressing your child more often in your favorite color...but this is the very sort of thing akin to pushing your child to actively participate in a certain sport because you like it...or shoving them into beauty pageants because it makes you feel good.

It's an unnecessary additive to child-rearing and is counter-productive if the real intent of the parent is to have the child figure things out for herself later in life. Note that teaching the child about religion as an entity and exposiing her to various philosophies and metaphysical belief systems is fine...but we're talking about indoctrination here.

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Scooter and Jewel support my beliefs, Both have went out of their way to procure things i needed/wanted in pursuit of my religious obligations.

Can you support an apotemnophiliac's wishes/desires without actively wanting to be in a relationship with one?

Actually, yes.

Precisely my point.

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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW
Choosing not to choose -is- a choice... and believing NOT to believe is a belief structure.

Semantic circular reasoning does not affect the reality of the situation. Atheism has no structure or system apart from the refusal to accept one metaphysical idea. You don't refer to people who don't believe in leprechauns as people who have anti-leprechaun belief systems...because it is nonsensical.

It's not a belief system because it does not incorporate any belief. You do not say that something colorless has the color of "noncolor".

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 1:50:42 PM   
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It's not a belief system because it does not incorporate any belief. You do not say that something colorless has the color of "noncolor".


I wasn't sure how to respond to this since, to me, the term 'colorless' -implies- the metaphysical and physical state of non-color in much the same way that 'atheist' implies the metaphysical and physical state of non-belief in a diety (atheist=a-theist=without Theos=without god), not a complete lack of belief in -everything-, so I went to my atheist step-daughter and atheist future son-in-law (engaged to my semantic divinist daughter, not my atheist stepdaughter--they both demanded that I edit to clarify this *LOL*)...they threw things at me kind of fast, but I got as much of it down as I could. The quoted section is actually from both of them, since it was coming so quickly that I couldn't exactly separate it without missing something.

"Because he uses the word "atheist" he is joining himself to the community of all others who call themselves 'atheist', which joins him to a community of belief... and therefore joins him to the 'religion' of atheism... and religion is, by definition, a belief structure or set of belief structures. If he wanted to say that he didn't believe in anything, or had no belief structure, he could just as easily have said "I have no religion", and avoided the whole issue of atheism as a non-theistic or anti-theistic religious dogma"

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 1:50:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

This will get into a discussion that has nothing to do with the OP before long (atheism is not a set of beliefs...it is implicitly a lack thereof).
Erm, no.

Two types of atheism...

1.  I believe there is no god/higher power.

2.  I do not practice any form of "the-ism" (i.e. I do not worship a god)

Type 1 is most definitly a "set of beliefs".

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 1:53:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Ivy,

And yours would be????

CP
High Church Anglican, would be my religious orientation (very non literalist interpretation of the Bible, btw).  Fairly pagan in terms of spirituality.

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 2:02:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x
Do i still practice my family religion? Absolutely, taught it to my children when they were small, they are teaching theirs, though they will not force it on them.


 
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 ORIGINAL: NihilusZero 
    indoctrinating children, whose minds are open doors to assimilating new knowledge, into a religion is an act of forcing it upon them.



No, it isn't, especially when they were exposed to and allowed to explore any religion they desired. In  the process of which we explored Judaism, Catholicism, Buddhism, Wicca, the religion of the Lakota people too name a few. Out of my children, two follow, however loosely the family faith while one is a Medicine woman (1/2 native American by birth) that also     practices druidism.  The tribe that she belongs to call her Two Spirits Woman, and consider hers ability in both as a gift and a blessing.
 
To say that is like saying only feeding them Mexican food is like indoctrinating them to be Mexicans. Eventually, if not intentionally as was in our case, they will be exposed to and form their own tastes about many subjects.
 
Scooter and Jewel support my beliefs, Both have went out of their way to procure things i needed/wanted in pursuit of my religious obligations.

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  ORIGINAL: NihilusZero 
         Can  you support an apotemnophiliac's wishes/desires without actively wanting to be in a relationship with one?


If i loved the person, and they wanted to be the amputee, yes, i could. Provided they were not forcing/badgering me to want to be an amputee as well.

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 Original twicehappy2x
to force any one true wayism on another human being.


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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero 

will get into a discussion that has nothing to do with the OP before long (atheism is not a set of beliefs...it is implicitly a lack thereof).


Atheism; is the the belief that there is no deity to believe in. It is still a set of beliefs.
 
 a: a disbelief in the existence of deity b: the doctrine that there is no deity


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NihilusZero

Yet, if you espouse the notion of not "forcing" worldviews upon others, then it only reinforces my point to seek likeminded individuals with whom I can feel intellectually fulfilled rather than try and "convert" someone heavily attached to their metaphysical notions.


Ah, i get it. You would be the intolerant one. It appears you hold those with religious notions of any sort to be intellectual inferiors.



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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 2:08:09 PM   
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twice this was so beautifully stated. it is such a wonderful example of incorperating your family traditions, your heritage, your own nature into a harmonious union. i hope ya'll realize what an inspiration you are to the rest of us that seek the harmony ya'll share. ok end of mush.


Grins, and Thank You Lee.
 
The only response other than that i can come up with is equally corny yet none the less true.
 
Where there is love, and tolerance, love will find a way.

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 2:13:59 PM   
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Question: How important is religion when determining a potential match for yourself?

CP


The answer is varied and depends on where you are in your life at a particular moment. At present I would consider myself Christian. I have attended a nondenominational church in the past year but switched to one with more progressive teachings and views. Because my experiences have been diverse I can appreciate and respect different teachings. I do not feel compelled to convert or bemoan the beliefs that others hold. Mutual sharing is fine but I feel change comes from within. It is not my responsibility to bring anyone to God. That would assign far more control and power to me than I was ever intended to have.

However, as luck would have it I have become acquainted with someone that's agnostic. I have no problem with this and at no point have I attempted to sway his views. I believe life offers many opportunities to review the things we hold to be true. If this occurs for him that would be nice, however, I wouldn't think any less of him if it did not. I am attracted to his heart. I look for a subset of values and characteristics that I need in my partner. Whether these are gained through familial teachings, religion, or simply the school of hard knocks is not important. All relationships require some element of compromise.

Tolerance goes a long way. Often those most fervent about changing others are the very ones in need of an overhaul.

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 2:17:05 PM   
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It really depends.  I won't become involved with holy roller christian types.  Been there, got the scars.  Won't go there again. 
I also won't become involved with anyone who is into a religion that has any history where some of its members were so consumed with trying to convert people that they disregarded life, or turned to any sort of violence in the name of their god.   So I guess, in that context, it is very important to me.

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 2:22:00 PM   
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my master,our sub,and i are all atheists; i wouldn't have a problem playing with people of other faiths as long as they didn't get preachy.

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 2:26:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x
No, it isn't, especially when they were exposed to and allowed to explore any religion they desired. In  the process of which we explored Judaism, Catholicism, Buddhism, Wicca, the religion of the Lakota people too name a few.

You realize we are specifically talking about the term "indoctrination", yes? Intellectual exploration is an entirely different issue.
 
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ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x
To say that is like saying only feeding them Mexican food is like indoctrinating them to be Mexicans. Eventually, if not intentionally as was in our case, they will be exposed to and form their own tastes about many subjects.

Again...exposure and indoctrination are very dissimilar words.

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If i loved the person, and they wanted to be the amputee, yes, i could. Provided they were not forcing/badgering me to want to be an amputee as well.

This is making my point for me: precisely that you can be supportive without having to necessarily want it directly in that portion of your life.

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 Original twicehappy2x

Ah, i get it. You would be the intolerant one.

This is rubbish. Do you date hermaphrodites that are into bestiality? No? Well, obviously it must be because you are "intolerant".

You realize the crux of your argument here is that people fundamentally do not have the place to decide their relationship ideals for themselves?

Relationships are not bound by concepts of 'romantic affirmative action'. I am not required to give equal chance to to every individual as some sort of token of equality. It doesn't matter if my limits revolve around religiosity or having a sexually transmitted disease.

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 Original twicehappy2x
It appears you hold those with religious notions of any sort to be intellectual inferiors.

I hold those with (heavy) religious notions to be outside of the realm of people I feel I would be happily compatible with in a relationship.

Draw whatever other presumptuous conclusions from that you wish.

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 3:46:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: kallisto

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Question: How important is religion when determining a potential match for yourself?

CP


To me religion and politics are two of the more personal sets of beliefs one has.  I've seen knock-down-dragout arguments with both subjects between spouses, partners, parents, siblings, friends, enemies, etc.    I do think it can be important if it is that important to you or to your partner.  If one is unable to accept the other's beliefs then it will become an issue.   Or if your beliefs are so strong that you can't accept another's then it will become an issue. 

For me personally, it's never been an issue.  


Kallisto,

As always on point, thanks for your mthoughts.

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 3:54:13 PM   
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It is through  being a worshipper of Goddess that brought me into D/s. It was my Goddess who told me to explore submissiveness within me and to give it to Sir. Thank Goddess, Sir understood my resquest to serve. i belong to no religion, but Sir knows i am a witch and follow my tradition strictly. i am not owned by Sir, i am own by my Goddess. i surrender to them both though.

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/22/2008 4:00:15 PM   
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"Because he uses the word "atheist" he is joining himself to the community of all others who call themselves 'atheist', which joins him to a community of belief... and therefore joins him to the 'religion' of atheism...

This is fundamentally incorrect and not in congruence with the thoughts of the predominant amount of atheists I have encountered (on skepticism, religion, freethinking message boards and chat rooms for the last 10 years).

No logical atheist uses that as his/her title without having an active philosophical system to describe themselves as well (humanist, secularist, materialist, pantheist...).

There is nothing you know about anything that I espouse philosophically when I say I am an atheist aside from the fact that you know I don't consider the concept of a theistic deity feasible.

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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW
and religion is, by definition, a belief structure or set of belief structures. If he wanted to say that he didn't believe in anything, or had no belief structure, he could just as easily have said "I have no religion", and avoided the whole issue of atheism as a non-theistic or anti-theistic religious dogma"

Atheism has nothing to do with religion. It has to do with espousing a god-concept.

There are anti-theists who happen upon their views because of emotional anger directed towards their former god(s), but this is certainly not the sort of atheist who has thought things through.

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/23/2008 4:26:54 AM   
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doesn't matter much to me at all, unless my dom wants me to participate in their religion and it differs frm my view, but i am not very religious at all. my master and i are the same religion but he isn't religious either, so it is more just convenient, we rarely ever go to church.

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/23/2008 4:35:57 AM   
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I wouldn't have a problem with my Mistress having other beliefs, as long as she didn't try to control mine.

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RE: D/s and Religion - 9/23/2008 5:46:49 AM   
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No, it isn't, especially when they were exposed to and allowed to explore any religion they desired. In  the process of which we explored Judaism, Catholicism, Buddhism, Wicca, the religion of the Lakota people too name a few.


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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero 
You realize we are specifically talking about the term "indoctrination", yes? Intellectual exploration is an entirely different issue.


Under your definition then, everything we teach our children could be considered indoctrination. Do you intend to teach yours that any and all religion is not provable and therefore does not exist? If so then you would also be guilty of indoctrination. It is not possible to raise the small folk without teaching them.

Or given my comments below do you believe indoctrination to only cover subjects we as the human race have yet to prove?
 
In that case there will be a multitude of subjects that are taboo. Questions like why and how the dinosaurs died, what exactly did humans evolve from, what are black holes, is there alien life on other planets, etc, but you get the idea.
 
Scientists have lots of theories on lots of subjects, some even have bits of evidence that lead them to these conclusions. But if they possessed incontrovertible proof, they would not be theories but facts.

There is also all types and kinds of bits of evidence that the metaphysical exists. Much like some scientific  theories, not enough for proof, but enough for belief for some.

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ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x

If i loved the person, and they wanted to be the amputee, yes, i could. Provided they were not forcing/badgering me to want to be an amputee as well.


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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero 
This is making my point for me: precisely that you can be supportive without having to necessarily want it directly in that portion of your life.


You are wrong, i said yes, i could be in a relationship with them, if they did not force their desires on me. Not that, no, i could not be in a relationship with them.
 
According to your post, you have already stated that you, personally cannot do this. As per your posted comment below.
 
"and would likely not blend well with anyone who is heavily attached to their religious/spiritual dogma".
 
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 Original twicehappy2x

Ah, i get it. You would be the intolerant one.

 
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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

This is rubbish. Do you date hermaphrodites that are into bestiality? No? Well, obviously it must be because you are "intolerant".


No, i am not intolerant of hermaphrodites. Or anybody for that matter as long as it does not involve the innocent or unable to consent.
 
I notice you rather deliberately left out the statement i copied that was the reason i called you intolerant of those who believed in any type of the metaphysical. I believe i said it appeared you considered them your intellectual inferiors. I never said you had to date them. It is just that in the process of asking why you would not i caught on rather quickly to an apparent thought process( or at least apparent to me).
 
So i perved your profile and found this;

"...if you cannot handle logical, rational debate (or are unable to willingly yield in the face of a sound argument and well-supported point of view) things probably won't go over well. I'm not a Dom that enjoys the whole "because I said so" technique...but I also loathe the notion of "opinion" (and the idea that everyone's can magically be equally "right"). Opinion, to me, is a term used when one cannot adequately back up the sensibility of the position they are arguing. Surprise me by countering a demand of mine with a logical deconstruction"
 
It appears that not only do you consider those with belief to be your intellectual inferiors, but you cannot tolerate some one who would refuse to see your "logical" argument on this or any other subject.
 
While you do state you would be willing to listen to an argument and accept another's view if, at least this is how it sounds, they can prove it to you. Given that portion of your statement, i have to wonder if anybodys proof, other than your own would mean anything anyway.  
 
I get your statement "i only believe in what can be proved to me" . But what you may not realize is that with and how you make these statements it seems you are also stating "if you are not smart enough to only believe in what can be proved, you are not smart enough for me to want to associate/have a relationship with".
 
Yet you cannot see this as being intolerant?  

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero 

You realize the crux of your argument here is that people fundamentally do not have the place to decide their relationship ideals for themselves? It doesn't matter if my limits revolve around religiosity or having a sexually transmitted disease.


I reread my posts and i cannot find one word i said that states you cannot pick and choose for yourself what you wanted. But if you can, feel free to copy and paste them for me.



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