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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 10:13:15 AM   
CookieSlave


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Status: offline 		I met a guy on another site.. an interesting dynamic began to form. I was confused by this and .. well.. by me.  He explained D/s to me, but  it's a very broad topic, isn't it? :-)  He suggested I come here, mainly to read the forums, for some sort of.. enlightenment? Understanding? To get information and to maybe get a little perspective.

Some of my questions have been answered, and some new questions have come up.   I take in everything, and I'm learning how to sort through the information to find what is valuable and meaningful to me.  I've chatted with some people and made some new friends, I suppose, which is unexpected but nice. 

Honestly.. I mostly lurk, but I feel I "know" all of you! I don't confuse myself quite as much anymore, so something must be going right.     Currently talking to the Guy about plans to meet up(*finally*) so we'll see where that goes..   It strikes me that "all of this" isn't so new to me, but the labelling of it and the uhhh "volume" of it is.  Before, to me, it was just "some kinky crap I liked" and on a much smaller scale..  ;-)  Looking forward to further exploration....

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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 10:40:50 AM   
Padriag


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ORIGINAL: SlaveIndigochild
So why are you on collarme?

Mostly comedic relief these days.

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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 10:46:09 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Above any other reason:  entertainment

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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 10:56:30 AM   
sillyslaveboy


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Status: offline 		Mm.... really, why am i here? To waste my time? Not really, i am not *that* good at that, but it is noticeable that most, if not of all, people who participate here are far away from me and whatever i do or say here won't cause anything of my primary interest. Maybe i hope a very cruel Lady in need of a totally dependent pet will call for me and then put me in a cage like a piece of meat for my lifetime. :P Just kidding.

i guess i'm here to let off some steam, to share some thoughts and to have some fun in the end. :)



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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 11:03:28 AM   
AquaticSub


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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 11:13:23 AM   
badlilthang


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Status: offline 		i came to find likeminded souls - i happened to be found by One - and got released by the same One - so now i am here for the boards and exchange mails. Met so many nice people - and a few not so nice - but the great thing about mails and online "threats" - i can log off and block/delete...*L*...

i peek for mails every day - and smile when i find a new one from friends - and i peek on a few boards and even comment now and then...s...


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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 11:29:32 AM   
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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 11:30:03 AM   
Mercnbeth


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What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for?
 
An evolved process; originally it was to give beth the opportunity to get a perspective different than mine. As she was entering her first 'lifestyle' relationship I felt it incumbent on me to make sure she made a choice outside the vacuum of my 'one true way' dogma. I gave her access to many other versions of dogma and required her to be involved and have her decisions tested. In real time it was clubs, munches, presentations, private parties, and even charity events; we enjoyed ourselves immensely. CM was the internet version of the experiences she was living real time; providing a forum for discourse where honesty was facilitated by anonymity.

Now on any given day, on any given subject; the reason and 'use' can be: 
  • Amusement
  • Meeting people
  • Exposing hypocrisy
  • Learning
  • Contrasting reality
  • Satisfy sadistic urges
  • Benchmarking
  • Teasing
  • Mentoring
  • Distraction
  • Perspective

And a good mix of the thoughts conveyed by these icons...








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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 11:34:41 AM   
zakkan


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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 11:35:20 AM   
subtee


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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 11:42:41 AM   
AMaster


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Status: offline 		I originally came here to find a R/L partner.  However, since it does not look like there are any sincere subs in my area, I now just read the forums, browse photos, and sometimes go to the chat rooms.

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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 11:49:44 AM   
akisha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

I originally came here years ago to find a master.  Now I stay for the boards.


Same for me *S*

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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 12:04:51 PM   
cbaby


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Status: offline 		To get away from the general hi/bye mentality of some chatrooms and read what other's say about anything and everything within and without the BDSM community and occasionally contribute - whod a thunk cooking *g*.........to read, learn, absorb, grow 

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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 12:18:17 PM   
justgemmie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SlaveIndigochild

What do you use this community for/ i mean: why are you on collarme? to pst? To find a mate? To debate? Chat in chat room? Exchange emails/ Get advice/
i've been interested in this question for some time as i have often looked at the 'hit' rate to posts and it is approximately ten times the response rate.: so for every 10 responses on a thread there are about 100 others reading that thread. That's quite a hit rate and yet i wonder why those 90 don't respond by posting themselves.
 
So why are you on collarme?


greetings A/all
greetings Indigo  :)

originally i came here to find a Master.  time went by and i stayed to either find a Master or find a Couple.  so now, 3 years (and 2 names) later, i've recently become the girl of a Dominant that i met at work party and who had nothing to do with CM  LOL  and now, i stay for the boards.  i learn A LOT here  :)

as to "i wonder why those 90 dont' respond by posting themselves."  well, i can't answer for others but for myself?  there are 2 main reasons.

first, most of my learning and protocols and whatknots that i know i learned from the Gorean Board and from Gorean folks, both on line and off line.  i was taught that if i didn't have something useful to contribute, don't.  so, many times i will write a post but delete it because it was redundant, un-needed, snarky, whatever.

the second reason is, when it comes to the bdsm board, so many of y'all seem to know each other well, flirt/laff/tease/debate back and forth, etc., and i often feel like an outsider.  so i don't post because i'm often uncomfortable here.  but i'm working on getting over that.  in addition, often times what i will do is write someone on the other side if i like what they have written or wish to share something with a poster.

well wishes,
gemmie

< Message edited by justgemmie -- 9/22/2008 12:19:45 PM >

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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 12:27:28 PM   
ResidentSadist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: justgemmie
...the second reason is, when it comes to the bdsm board, so many of y'all seem to know each other well, flirt/laff/tease/debate back and forth, etc., and i often feel like an outsider.  so i don't post because i'm often uncomfortable here.  but i'm working on getting over that.  in addition, often times what i will do is write someone on the other side if i like what they have written or wish to share something with a poster.

gemmie,
You have one of the most awesome phoenix tats I have ever seen.  This profile of yours is 30 days old.  Not much time to "flirt/laff/tease/debate" with you yet.  Glad you like the forums and I hope to see you around more often.

-Kalon Eric


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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 12:34:48 PM   
akisha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SlaveIndigochild

<snip> so for every 10 responses on a thread there are about 100 others reading that thread. That's quite a hit rate and yet i wonder why those 90 don't respond by posting themselves.
<snip>


The hits on a thread will always be higher then the postings because people come back multiple times to read what others have to say.

It's not that 538 different people have come and read the thread, it;s that 215 have come and re-read what others have said and 128 have actually posted their views *S*
(please note all numbers are figurative not actual, numbers were used to make a point not show a true count of people, viewing, stalking and or posting)

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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 1:26:26 PM   
justgemmie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

gemmie,
You have one of the most awesome phoenix tats I have ever seen.  This profile of yours is 30 days old.  Not much time to "flirt/laff/tease/debate" with you yet.  Glad you like the forums and I hope to see you around more often.

-Kalon Eric


greetings Master Eric :)

thanks lots for Your compliment on my back piece.  it's about 20 years old and i'm preparing myself for getting it recolored (9 hours under the needle takes my masochism a bit far!!)   my original name on collarme was gemmy, but i ran into problems so left, then redid myself as sassysexygirl, and now i'm just using the name most folks call me anyway!  i look forward to the flirting ,,,, oh yeah, and the laffing, teasing and debating :D

well wishes to You and Yours
gemmie

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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 1:35:50 PM   
IvyMorgan


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Joined: 7/5/2007
From: Midlands, UK
Status: offline 		I originally joined to semi-stalk a guy who I'd been talking to, met up with, "played" with (loosest/vanillaest definition of term possible) and who had then disappeared, completely.  Being fairly/very innocent, I was seeing if he was still alive, and given his ex had started stalking me whilst I was in hospital, I got the lead from her.

Then I loved the drip feed of comedy to my inbox.  And read the forums and posted occasionally.  And also felt like a bit of an outsider, tbh.

Then, hum, I guess end of June ish, I met Soft, and started posting a bit more, cos, well, I was curious what she was writing, and now, it's a good distraction when late at night and not sleeping.  And, learning, and entertainment, and, well, very isolated am I, with work and everything else (plus geography), it's nice to have people who don't think I'm a freak on tap.

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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 1:55:33 PM   
VivaciousSub


Posts: 446
Joined: 9/7/2008
From: Tampa, FL
Status: offline 		I'm here to meet other people with similar interests and tastes as mine and to learn as much as I can from the many wonderful people on this site.

And if it was meant solely as a dating service, why on earth would they have the "Friends Only" option?


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RE: What do you use THIS COMMUNITY for? - 9/22/2008 2:02:55 PM   
barryjon


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Joined: 9/16/2008
From: Durham UK
Status: offline 		came to find other submissives for guidance and help as i am new to the scene and introduced by my new Mistress

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