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Jasmyn -> RE: Does tribute equal being a hooker? (2/11/2006 3:41:48 PM)
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ORIGINAL: openmindedslave
I read earlier that a sub had to clean a doms home before play. I knew of one Mistress who demanded before play that they help her on her farm to do some work before play also. She had a disablity and needed some help. In return , she gave them ( while enjoying it herself ) what they wanted. When she tried to give what they were seeking first, some would end up complaining about no energy left , too tired , no time to do it... Now you tell me , who got used there ??? And she never asked for money of any type...just respect her wishes
Yeah, a common occurrence unfortunately. :(
For me, a guy who really has no interest in subservience and/or ongoing servitude, I'd hope would be upfront about that instead of promising the earth and just be honest that all they really want to do is get their rocks off. We're both on the same page then, I can design or deny a scene based on whether I can really be bothered 'servicing' someone who wouldn't care who was doing it, just that someone was. Luckily offline, most pro dom clients are most respectful and looking for domination, not sex, or even kinky...they need it, they crave it...and they very much respect my ability to grant it. Most want to leave my place knowing were I to click my fingers right then, they'd turn back and do whatever I wanted... extended control, some guys have called it...that wanting to feel your presence, your power, your control long after the session has ended... People tend to forget, you're not just providing a service, to have a real and authentic session requires a great deal more than picking up a whip and telling a boy to get on his knees. There's a connection and as much as it can leave you feeling empowered and uplifted, a session can be leave the dom emotionally drained on the come down. People forget this or are ignorant of it. I bet the woman you mentioned above felt very used and not particularly happy about it, each and everytime one of those guys bolted after the fact.
I emphathise with men who find nearly every women they've come across has some kind of tribute requirement...but I also wonder how much of it is brought upon themselves. Age range, reputation, real time/life experience, attitude, are they actually specific about offering something in return, or are they simply playing princess; do they themselves get out and meet people real time, or are they relying on the internet to drop the woman of their dreams into their lap? I guess what I am saying is anyone can call themselves a Dominatrix. So be wary out there guys... but don't tar every woman with the same brush.
One day I might be bothered to explain the tribute system but don't have time right now.
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