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Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 3:27:38 PM   
FluffyKitty


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Status: offline 		I've been so disappointed by submissive men. We will talk for hours and hours and hours, I begin to get invested in him. We talk about real time. And he disappears.... This has happened to me over and over and over again. I ask for explanations. But, I never get anything. Can someone please tell me why this happens?
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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 3:29:56 PM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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Status: offline 		the same reason Mistresses/Masters disappear...they are afraid of commitment


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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 3:45:47 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Forget about why. Figure out a different way to handle this. Instead of overinvesting in each other, with the anxiety growing that when you do finally meet, you won't click, try meeting before you've invested so much.

IM a couple of times, exchange a couple of emails, chat on the phone two or three times and then meet for coffee.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 3:47:28 PM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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Status: offline 		can get as far as the phone calls...just none seem to want to cross the line into reality. they disappear before then

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 4:45:00 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		One great thing about meeting people at munches and events is that you meet them face to face, get to know them, socialize with them.  Those you meet that way are much more likely to stick with it than people we meet online.  A friend once told me that 90% of those we meet online are not who they say they are. 

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 4:57:48 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		hmm.. maybe I've just been lucky, but of the many people I've met via internet only one wasn't as he'd seemed (and the bastard wrecked my car!)

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 5:01:28 PM   
beargonewild


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Status: offline 		- some are idiots
- some maybe not be ready to meet
- some aren't honest with themselves about what they actually want
-some just want to play head games
The reasons why are vast and instead of investing too much too soon, use a measure of skepticism until you've met the person once, twice or more.


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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 5:11:12 PM   
persephonee


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Status: offline 		i talk to a whole lot of folks online...the level of involvement is variable...but the partners that i have and the people that i consider to be friends or more...are all from realtime experiences...munches and the like. i have tried to set up meets with online acquaintences, they tend to back down.

Example...if i were to go to Florida, i might tell GT that i am going to be at x event...or find out from her what event she might attend during my visit...and i betcha we meet up...but only because we are both planning to attend that event...and im irresistable (references upon request).

She is in the minority.

i have been talking to several local dominant men for literally months, who pester me non stop about getting together...but as soon as i send the link to the dungeon i go to every blessed weekend....oooh wait...i cant be there...sorry. i use that as a filter to determine whether or not they are sincere.
Online is online...and interpersonal relationships of any nature are not to be played like a computer game...at least for me.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 5:12:24 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		you MIGHT tell me??  *hmph*



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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 5:13:16 PM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		Maybe they are sucked up by the dominant Goddess in the sky?

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 5:23:33 PM   
Blaakmaan


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Status: offline 		Hey, submissive women  are no better.  Trust me.  They do the same thing.
And I wish I knew why.  It makes you not want to invest in relationships that can go "poof" at any moment.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 5:25:04 PM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		Okay, someone teach me how to disappear and reappear.  I think that would be a cool talent to have.


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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 5:25:21 PM   
missAnn77


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Status: offline 		Well from personal experience I just think most of them are Ghosts in sheep's clothing lol or phantoms that disapeer into the mist leaving us completely confused. That's just my opinion. Since it has happened to me several times...its like the online game that doesn't end happily. Best of luck to you FluffyKitty in your search, as someone on collar me once said "Sometimes its better to give up looking and let them come to you instead of trying to seek them out every day," when the moment is right it will hopefully and fingers crossed happen to you.

Miss Ann

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 5:26:03 PM   
lusciouslips19


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Okay, someone teach me how to disappear and reappear.  I think that would be a cool talent to have.


Cali




click your heals together 3 times

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 5:38:23 PM   
GreedyTop


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19


quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Okay, someone teach me how to disappear and reappear.  I think that would be a cool talent to have.


Cali




click your heals together 3 times


Or get lessons from a cat....theyre champs at disappearing.

(edited cause I left a couple of words out..)

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 5:50:32 PM   
persephonee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

you MIGHT tell me??  *hmph*




eyes lowered....

this girl is very sorry for misspeaking...mistyping...this girl swears that when she is in the immediate area, she will notify You and prepare her itinerary around Your schedule and hope beyond hope that You will find it pleasing to meet.

*backs from the computer bowing and bumping into things cuz shes clumsy like that*

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 5:52:30 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		LMAO Pers... god, you're adorable :)

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 6:41:57 PM   
persephonee


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Status: offline 		i know...its a real burden sometimes....and i have references to that effect as well....but youll see soon enough...i corrupt everyone in my path.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 6:47:39 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		how do you corrupt the corrupted?

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/26/2008 6:47:45 PM   
faerytattoodgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: persephonee

i know...its a real burden sometimes....and i have references to that effect as well....but youll see soon enough...i corrupt everyone in my path.


you forgot to say this girl...


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