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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/26/2008 9:39:09 AM

CarrieO

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ORIGINAL: Musicmystery

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO

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I think a lot of people leave convenient details out when chatting online, or they are just searching for no strings internet fun but dont have the balls to admit that.

Unfortunate but true, for the most part. I've spoken to both sub and dom men and have had this problem. I've asked for photos (just vanilla pics) after a couple emails and they've vanished or suggested meeting for coffee and *poof* gone.

Ask them to take you to a Ren Faire and a tour of their state....

;-)

Not true of all....of course ;-)

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 1/2/2010 3:55:39 AM

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I've been so disappointed by submissive men. We will talk for hours and hours and hours, I begin to get invested in him. We talk about real time. And he disappears.... This has happened to me over and over and over again. I ask for explanations. But, I never get anything. Can someone please tell me why this happens?

its normal.
The internet afford everyone with a safety valve that real life does not.. you can meet, chat and run . in the saem way you can flash your genitals freely etc.
There will be some who are just playing with the idea of being sub and so they will run at the first sign of real conttact, but there are also those who are lookign but have second thoughts - and among those are those in existing relationships etc who having got as far as making contact, then feel guilt etc and drop out.
The web enables such behaviour.
i suggest you work out a few strategies to determine if people are serious before you get to suggesting meeting. For a dominant to set tests for a sub should be possible.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 1/3/2010 11:33:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: FluffyKitty

I've been so disappointed by submissive men. We will talk for hours and hours and hours, I begin to get invested in him. We talk about real time. And he disappears.... This has happened to me over and over and over again. I ask for explanations. But, I never get anything. Can someone please tell me why this happens?

Married comes to mind

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 1/4/2010 4:56:13 PM

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As a submissive man, perhaps I'll add my two cents (adjusted for inflation). I honor my commitments, but it is sometimes evident that the budding relationship won't work out. Sometimes, the Domme will start making bizarre orders, or shows her true colors when she asks for money and is vague as to when I might meet her. On the other hand, it might be difficult to break off an existing relationship, so men and women just drop out. The last relationship I had the woman was a taker and wouldn't even touch me. I stopped going over to her house and cooking her meals and cleaning her terribly messy house. Yes, she did let me work naked, which was swell, but after a while I felt like an unpaid worker. I'm not interested in money, obviously, but I do need to get something out of a relationship that she claimed she wanted as well.

And then there was the Domme who kept saying she wanted to met but would never set a time or place, or take me up on offers to meet her on neutral territory.

I guess the bottom line is there has to be compatibility, and a meeting of the minds. I agree that it is rude just to disappear, but I don't want to waste time on someone who is just using me.

(I remember the couple who was looking for a male slave to work in their factory, no sex, no touching, no nothing. This was for free, I guess for the priviledge of knowing I was making them happy not having to pay a factory worker. Obviously, I declined.)

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 1/4/2010 5:02:58 PM

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I just had this happen to me with a dom male for the first time ever.

We had been talking online, on the phone, and in text every day for about ten days. We talked about meeting soon and everything was going really well between us. I had his cell number, his name, where he worked, his email addresses, his pics etc. Everything checked out on google too...he was exactly who he said he was. He texted me last on Thursday, asked me how my day was going and said we would talk later that night. Then he never showed up online, or sent or answered any more texts, and he didn't answer or return my phone call the next day. And nothing bad or strange happened between us, we were getting along fabulously. But all of a sudden, he just ceased all communication with no explanation at all. Two days later his profile was gone.

His mommy found out.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 1/4/2010 6:20:10 PM

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The OP's gone; this was a necrothread...

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 1/4/2010 11:30:27 PM

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The OP's gone;

oh the irony

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 1/5/2010 7:12:10 AM

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...simply (IMHO), they get scared to act on that which goes against their idea of being what society calls "a man". So, they run...

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