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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/30/2008 5:39:20 AM

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Thats a brilliant version of that song :).. Id do my best not to hide.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/30/2008 5:47:13 AM

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Stella your great as usual.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 9/30/2008 7:48:48 PM

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they aren't receiving play or feedback

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/25/2008 10:47:54 AM

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Many men disappear because they are afraid of commitment, afraid of the emotions and feelings when things go from fantasy to reality. In our society that teaches us men should be macho, head alpha, the go-getter, that we are to be the doms and masters.. sometimes some men find it hard to fight against that stereotype.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/25/2008 3:48:13 PM

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/25/2008 3:51:21 PM

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I've been so disappointed by submissive men. We will talk for hours and hours and hours, I begin to get invested in him. We talk about real time. And he disappears.... This has happened to me over and over and over again. I ask for explanations. But, I never get anything. Can someone please tell me why this happens?

Watch Oprah.

They're not that into you.

(Same reason Dommes toss subs...basic stuff).

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/25/2008 3:55:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: FluffyKitty

I've been so disappointed by submissive men. We will talk for hours and hours and hours, I begin to get invested in him. We talk about real time. And he disappears.... This has happened to me over and over and over again. I ask for explanations. But, I never get anything. Can someone please tell me why this happens?

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/25/2008 3:57:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: FluffyKitty

I've been so disappointed by submissive men. We will talk for hours and hours and hours, I begin to get invested in him. We talk about real time. And he disappears.... This has happened to me over and over and over again. I ask for explanations. But, I never get anything. Can someone please tell me why this happens?

I've had quite the opposite problem... they just wont go away

Seriously, they disappear because they either werent really into something commited in the first place, or they have found someone more local or more convenient. You are online, until someone makes you more, everyone is a disposa-contact. They stop talking and poof, youre gone.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/25/2008 3:58:19 PM

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Disappear? Yes. Show back up? Yes to that too. There seems to be a black hole they fall in and out of.

Months later, I'll get a "hey, remember me?" email. I snort and delete. I have better things to do.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/25/2008 4:49:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: SageFemmexx

Disappear? Yes. Show back up? Yes to that too. There seems to be a black hole they fall in and out of.

Months later, I'll get a "hey, remember me?" email. I snort and delete. I have better things to do.

I just want to say, having reviewed your current photos...

You're the only woman I ever truly loved.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/25/2008 5:01:51 PM

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I just had this happen to me with a dom male for the first time ever.

We had been talking online, on the phone, and in text every day for about ten days. We talked about meeting soon and everything was going really well between us. I had his cell number, his name, where he worked, his email addresses, his pics etc. Everything checked out on google too...he was exactly who he said he was. He texted me last on Thursday, asked me how my day was going and said we would talk later that night. Then he never showed up online, or sent or answered any more texts, and he didn't answer or return my phone call the next day. And nothing bad or strange happened between us, we were getting along fabulously. But all of a sudden, he just ceased all communication with no explanation at all. Two days later his profile was gone.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/25/2008 10:49:18 PM

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I think this whole online world is just one big Nigerian scam.

It's amazing how many times I hear the experiences from the OP from others, and how mind blowing it all is. I guess I just don't have the perspective that others do in that I try to value other's time and energy as much as my own, so just disappearing without reason isn't really an acceptable thing.

I've had Domme friends I'd been getting to know just disappear on me when they've found out that i've been getting close to someone, and it's sad to me. It's frustrating thinking that you'll lose friendships with people who you thought were on the same page with you just because you're doing something that would potentially bring happiness into your world.

Each day I live my life, I learn that people are screwier and screwier, that instead of learning more about how and why they do things, I'm in fact learning less.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/25/2008 10:54:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FluffyKitty

I've been so disappointed by submissive men. We will talk for hours and hours and hours, I begin to get invested in him. We talk about real time. And he disappears.... This has happened to me over and over and over again. I ask for explanations. But, I never get anything. Can someone please tell me why this happens?

Some people disappear because they arent interested, i am not going to sugar coat it. For others it might be the fact they were too scared... not of commitment but maybe you were looking for something and they were scared to try it... instead of telling you they just vanish. A cowardly game in a cowardly world.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/26/2008 5:00:35 AM

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There's nothing worse than reading stories like this.

I try to be sincere and always reply to messages, but it bothers me that people don't have the courage to say when they get cold feet. I'm still new, but if I was getting scared I'd at least let the Domme know so we can talk about it and either work something out or part amicably. I'm trying to go out and meet people and do things, I guess seeing what the sub is doing to explore this on thier own would attest to thier genuine-ness.

All this bad press makes it so much harder to make contact in the first place. Which is where I really struggle sometimes.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/26/2008 5:53:51 AM

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His rocks are dry, his load is empty-he has gotten what he needed, reality sets in again.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/26/2008 7:07:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: marie2

I just had this happen to me with a dom male for the first time ever.

We had been talking online, on the phone, and in text every day for about ten days. We talked about meeting soon and everything was going really well between us. I had his cell number, his name, where he worked, his email addresses, his pics etc. Everything checked out on google too...he was exactly who he said he was. He texted me last on Thursday, asked me how my day was going and said we would talk later that night. Then he never showed up online, or sent or answered any more texts, and he didn't answer or return my phone call the next day. And nothing bad or strange happened between us, we were getting along fabulously. But all of a sudden, he just ceased all communication with no explanation at all. Two days later his profile was gone.

Either his wife found him out or his mom caught him on the family computer..Was he using his big boy voice?

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/26/2008 7:33:24 AM

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wow howd i miss this thread ? ive had this with Mistress so many around and never wanting to meet in person and after maybe two or htree chatss there gone. or my likes and dislkies are not what they like . but one thing i have found too be the bigger killer for me in my height at 6' 8 tall many are scared off by it. so i guess it gose both ways for Domes, Doms, and subs

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/26/2008 7:44:02 AM

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I think a lot of people leave convenient details out when chatting online, or they are just searching for no strings internet fun but dont have the balls to admit that.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/26/2008 8:44:04 AM

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I think a lot of people leave convenient details out when chatting online, or they are just searching for no strings internet fun but dont have the balls to admit that.

Unfortunate but true, for the most part. I've spoken to both sub and dom men and have had this problem. I've asked for photos (just vanilla pics) after a couple emails and they've vanished or suggested meeting for coffee and *poof* gone.

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RE: Why do submissive men disappear? - 11/26/2008 9:34:33 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Observer20

I think a lot of people leave convenient details out when chatting online, or they are just searching for no strings internet fun but dont have the balls to admit that.

Unfortunate but true, for the most part. I've spoken to both sub and dom men and have had this problem. I've asked for photos (just vanilla pics) after a couple emails and they've vanished or suggested meeting for coffee and *poof* gone.