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pixelslave -> RE: The most subtle misconception about female dominants (10/2/2008 10:58:41 AM)
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ORIGINAL: treatmecruelly
Dear PsyVamp,
With respect, I must question your inferences that we submissives are not as shape as the other social beings in the pack. I for one can hold my own against most and long for someone who might be able to put me in my desired place but I find in conversation and correspondence many are weak and think of dogma as debate. I hold a Phd and unlike most i've met when wondering the so-called hallowed halls find most academics lacking in interlect but high in intelligence. Intelligence without interlectual prowess is a bit like puttting a robot incharge, they responde and react but are lacking in abstrqct creativitiy thus reducing their own potential.
No offense intended, but many Dommes on this site are known to be very particular about spelling and typo's. For one who's presumably sharp, and has a Phd, I'm guessing you probably had your dissertation typed and proofed by someone else. [;)] Some, might find the many underlined & bolded typo's above distracting, while others would not. To me, the message is still conveyed.
As such, I do get your point and agree with it. I'd like to add though, that I don't see contacting and getting to know a Domme as a process that's typically full of discussions on dogma. Instead, it's often been one for me that's more often been sharing each other's personal philosophies on this lifestyle to determine compatibility. Once beyond that, with intellectual capacity established, where many men often seem to be lacking is in emotional depth. My observation is that those with high intellects, often use that as a shield which prevents them from connecting with others on a more basic emotional level (I've been this way at different times in my life).
So while women may desire their submissive men to have have intellectual abilities, I strongly suspect that men who also can be personable, allowing themselves to trust Dommes enough to be somewhat vulnerable to them emotionally from the start while possessing the balance to not go overboard and unload everything all at once about themselves on them, are even more difficult to find. In my experience, they seek whole individuals, not just individuals with one characteristic. That doesn't mean we don't all have our shortcomings, faults and baggage that come along with us, as do they, but I believe most Dommes would say they expect a male submissive to have some balance between intellectual capabilities and emotional ones as well.
Perhaps the description above is more accurately the problem, but not as easily recognized? [&:]
- pixel
Lady Pact's bleaux
... still under consideration with each other [;)]
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