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Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/9/2008 8:45:28 PM   
openmindedslave


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Status: offline 		I see so many who say they seek a 24/7 relationship on Collarme? So what does it mean to you  and what do you hink most people mistake  about a full time relationship in this lifestyle ?
Recently I had a conversation with three woman  of which two considered them selves Mistresses and the other more of switch in their interest. All three saw this lifestyle slightly differnt and yet all three were seeking a permant realtionship.
 
One saw this lifestyle as a part of her life  for the last 2 decades. She saw permant realtionship with a slave as being  great but not  to the point of managing their everyday  lives..To stressfull to micro manage ,but enjoyed the idea of a constant person in her life with no sexual contact.
 
The second woman would love to play occassionally but her version of 24/7 was to play behind closed doors  only occassionally and seem like a vanilla couple in public with the hint of her control  when their behind closed doors.
 
The last was a switch that her version of 24/7 would involve playing with other couples  and having some vanilla in their lives. She would expect  sexual play and control in the bedroom  but not to the extend of alot of humilation ..
 
So what do you see 24/7  in your life?
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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/9/2008 9:01:28 PM   
Loxosceles


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quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedslave
So what do you see 24/7 in your life?


True slavery - A 24/7 servant who is at the Master's beck and call doing as he instructs.  Her reward is knowing she served well, and continued protection of the Master's house and good name.

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/9/2008 9:08:06 PM   
NihilusZero


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Status: offline 		"24/7" as an descriptor all on its own only describes the time-commitment of the relationship. Heck...it doesn't even need to imply a live-in arrangement.

Your question, while isolating all the full-time relationship seekers from the part-time/roleplay ones, is still addressing so large a group of people that you're just going to get the myriad of individual responses of the outline of what the individuals seek (which, in all likelihood, you could probably glean from their profiles).

To be fair, though...
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So what does it mean to you

To me, it means sharing the D/s dynamic in all aspects of the relationship (sexually, socially, mentally, emotionally, physically) at all times in a committed live-in scenario.

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/9/2008 9:35:15 PM   
Slavelary


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Status: offline 		That would be close to impossible at this time, obviously since I work for a living and I play in a band.  I'd like to imagine being a live-in slave though...

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/9/2008 9:39:17 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		24/7 is what I ultimately desire.

It simply means for me that we are together as a couple in a committed relationship and he leads while I follow...always.

There is no time when I am not submissive to him. When he says "jump", I say "how high?"

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/9/2008 9:39:49 PM   
VampiresLair


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Status: offline 		24/7 does not mean live in necessarily. It doesnt mean that the salve gives up their careers, their school, anything like that. After all, what good isa slave who simply becomes a burden on the Master or Mistress?
For us, 24/7 means that Fox is mine every moment of every day. He can be at school, at work, here in our home and he is still mine. He thinks about me and how to please me all the time, even if he only acts it out when it is appropriate. He does well in school and excells at work to better our life together.
I do not want to micromanage. I cose a slave who can take care of himself so I don hae to worry about that. I do want one who knows that on the drop of a hat he is at my side, and doing as I please. We have set priorities but when his time isnt being spent at school or at work, it is mine to do with as I please. That is what being 24/7 means to me.

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/9/2008 9:41:12 PM   
OneMoreWaste


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Status: offline 		No, 23.5/6, actually. Lunchtime must be kept holy, and I need a day off to run errands. 

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/9/2008 9:49:06 PM   
aravain


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Status: offline 		In reply to the topic's question:

No. Hell no.

In reply to the post's question:

A 24/7 BDSM lifestyle, to me, implies a constant dynamic of subservience, dominance, and general inequality.

That's not what I'm looking for.

I'm looking for a *partner* and not someone who's better than me (that would be silly) or who's willing to 'date down' to something/one not on the same level as himself. I'm looking for someone who is, effectively, completely an equal.

I'm not property, I'm not a slave, and no, I won't clean your kitchen because you didn't say please, or give me any incentive.

My BDSM is my kink, and is related directly, *for me*, to sexual activity.

There is a distinct lack of this when it comes to pain, or sensation, but that's a seperate issue. I mean, I don't want to be whipped/flogged/spanked/whatever every second of every day either, despite being a masochist however I do enjoy non-sexual masochism, receiving pain for the purpose of receiving pain/pleasure.

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/9/2008 10:04:31 PM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		I honestly believe 24/7 is a mindset and not just the sharing of air. 
I think it is possible to keep one's individualism and self sufficiency while combining a relationship that includes
honoring an accepted and acknowledged power exchange that extends beyond kink.  (note kink included)  grin........ 

of course putting that into practice would take a lot of communication, dedication and work!


edited for spelling... sigh


< Message edited by Quivver -- 10/9/2008 10:08:19 PM >

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/9/2008 10:05:43 PM   
faithbunny


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Status: offline 		D/s is part of The Royal Us at all times. We have a deep commitment to one another as friends, lovers, and lifemates. He can ask me nicely to go get him something, or do it himself, but we both know that when he tells me to do something, I will do it. I can joke around and make fun of him all day long, specifically because he knows that I adore and respect him. I can go drinking with my guy friends because he knows that I am his forever.

Every minute of every day, I'm his and he's mine, whether we're at the grocery store or hanging from the chandelier. That's what 24/7means to me.

~faith


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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/9/2008 10:12:35 PM   
moonvine


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ORIGINAL: faithbunny

D/s is part of The Royal Us at all times. We have a deep commitment to one another as friends, lovers, and lifemates. He can ask me nicely to go get him something, or do it himself, but we both know that when he tells me to do something, I will do it. I can joke around and make fun of him all day long, specifically because he knows that I adore and respect him. I can go drinking with my guy friends because he knows that I am his forever.

Every minute of every day, I'm his and he's mine, whether we're at the grocery store or hanging from the chandelier. That's what 24/7means to me.

~faith




I've actually been rethinking what "24/7" means to me, and while I used to scream about how I did *not* want 24/7....what ~faith describes, this is what I want.:)


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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/9/2008 10:21:19 PM   
leadership527


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Status: offline 		To me, it means sharing the D/s dynamic in all aspects of the relationship (sexually, socially, mentally, emotionally, physically) at all times in a committed live-in scenario. ~ NihilusZero

It simply means for me that we are together as a couple in a committed relationship and he leads while I follow...always. There is no time when I am not submissive to him. When he says "jump", I say "how high?" ~ littlewonder

D/s is part of The Royal Us at all times. We have a deep commitment to one another as friends, lovers, and lifemates. He can ask me nicely to go get him something, or do it himself, but we both know that when he tells me to do something, I will do it. I can joke around and make fun of him all day long, specifically because he knows that I adore and respect him. I can go drinking with my guy friends because he knows that I am his forever. Every minute of every day, I'm his and he's mine, whether we're at the grocery store or hanging from the chandelier. That's what 24/7means to me. ~ faithbunny

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/9/2008 10:38:41 PM   
dangerousangel


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Status: offline 		For me, 24/7 means that I am always his. Period. That in all ways and all things, I am his girl. I'm as much his girl at work as I am at his feet, and belong to him the same amount when I'm making dinner as when out with my friends.

It doesn't mean I always call him 'Sir,' doesn't mean I spend all my time kneeling. For me, it's just a summation of the simple fact that I am -his-. And yes, it's what I most firmly desire.


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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/10/2008 2:38:04 AM   
silkncarol


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Status: offline 		I'd like to be in a 24/7 D/s relationship.....to me it would always be the undercurrent in the relationship each of us understanding our roles, no matter what activity....either vanilla or lifestyle.  

quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedslave
 
So what do you see 24/7  in your life?


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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/10/2008 2:47:17 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		A 24/7 relationship is what you make it.
Living '24/7' means we are not dead.
 
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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/10/2008 4:25:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		24/7, absolutely.  I am D/s when I sleep, BDSM when  awake and a sadist when aroused. 

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/10/2008 4:32:16 AM   
gypsygrl


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quote:

No, 23.5/6, actually.


Right.  We're 22/7.  I need 2 hours to myself in the morning when I first wake up. I wake up in a lot of pain, and until the body gets working, I'm not worth shit and can't really do anyone's bidding.  I can barely have a civil conversation on bad days.  Some days, I only take 1 1/2 hours, in which case, we're 22.5/7.

But, to address the OP, it means that, in principle, Sir can call on me anytime to do his bidding and that when he's not actively ordering me around, he's still the first thing on my mind.  We do live together, but I don't think thats necessary.  He's in my head 24/7 whether or not we're co-present.

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/10/2008 4:41:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

A 24/7 relationship is what you make it.
Living '24/7' means we are not dead.
 
the.dark.
What she said....
 
 i am His whether we are in the same place or not.  Thankfully, the nature of service can extend beyond set boundaries if two people are willing to be creative, and put in the work.  For me, 24/7 is a frame of mind.  If you reside together, and yet have a flawed D/s dynamic, can it be counted as more authentic than a functional D/s non live-in relationship?  If a tree falls......
 
 

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/10/2008 5:02:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with just about everyone.  We live D/s 24/7 because we belong to each other in every way.  Whether we are at work, the grocery store, at home, doesnt matter because our hearts and souls belong to each other.  We both think about each other all the time.  Its wonderful to be sitting here at home while he is at work and just get a txt out of the blue asking me how i am doing or telling me he loves me.  This happens all throughout the day on both of our parts.  We are in each others blood.

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RE: Do you really seek to live this lifestyle 24/7? - 10/10/2008 5:33:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		I make a substantial distinction between a 24/7 scene (fantasy) and 24/7 power exchange dynamic (reality).  I much prefer the latter.
 
And I'm curious as to why you would be surprised that different people would see leather a bit differently.  After all, we all have different relationships. 
 
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