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HandSolo -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/12/2008 8:29:02 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Icarys
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ORIGINAL: HandSolo
List the post numbers, as I saw nobody who is saying what you are, to the extent that you are. At best, a general poll would clearly demonstrate my point. I can speak confidently on the matter, because I draw my reading of Internet etiquette from actually observing what is considered acceptable behavior by the overwhelming majority, and by reading primers on expected norms of behavior. I am quite certain you have not, partly because you have stated as much.
No your going to have to read through them yourself. No they aren't saying "exactly" what I'm saying but close enough and the only reason I'm bothering with it is because you've stated otherwise.
This so called internet etiquette you've learned is nothing less than a reflection of how society deals with most things in life and really it's kinda sad. I would enjoy a poll..why don't you start one?
Nonsense. Internet etiquette exists by the same manner and for the same reasons as any other. It is, like any other etiquette, a consensus. Typing in all-caps is considered yelling. Not everybody thinks so, but the overwhelming majority do. I've seen people driven off of fora for refusing to take off the caps lock for various reasons. I'm sure they felt oppressed to no end. They were wrong.
Another, if not the first rule of Internet etiquette, is that each forum has its own standards of behavior. Posting a nude image is fine on one board, instantly bannable on another. You can get thrown off a number of privately maintained fansites for badmouthing the heralded topic. And each of those actions are perfectly justified, because that is the concesus view on proper Internet behavior.
Since you seem to have not so far, you can do some reading on the topic:
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial&hs=04D&q=internet++dating+etiquette&btnG=Search
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ORIGINAL: The First Page of the First Link
One is not obligated to reply to a person requesting a date with which one has not had previous contact. Failure to reply should be taken as a definite negative on the possibility of an Internet date. Some people set up a form letter thanking people for their interest and politely declining a date. This is definitely good Internet dating etiquette, and may be applied. However it is not necessary to do this, as most people now recognize they have received a form letter refusal.
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ORIGINAL: The First Page of the Second Link
Be timely. Answer the responses and initial inquiries within three to four days. It is considered good etiquette to answer all emails since people have taken the time and effort to communicate with you.
Score one for Icky. It was, however, written in 1999.
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ORIGINAL: The First Page of the Third Link
Here's the thing: when someone initially contacts you, and for whatever reason you decide they aren't quite right, ignoring their email is perfectly reasonable online etiquette.
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ORIGINAL: The Next Applicable Link
But does every email response deserve a response if you’re not interested? Use your best judgment and be polite. In the online world, sometimes no response sends the clearest message of all.
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ORIGINAL: The Very Next Link
Q: If someone contacts you and you’re not interested, do you owe the sender a response?
Bev: No, not necessarily. As harsh as that may sound, you really don’t. Realistically, it would be wonderful; however, there may be many reasons why people don’t respond. They may be inundated and not have time; it’s not that they weren’t interested. There may be other reasons.
Other than a nine year old link, total unaniminity.
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