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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 7:48:45 PM   
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Yet the fact remains that nobody but you thinks the way you do on the topic. You believe people are being rude, who, fully acknowledging the circumstances of their behavior, do not believe themselves rude. Somebody is definitely misreading. I don't think it is everybody but you.


If you'll read there are a number of people who believe the same thing..just not as vocal as I am.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 7:54:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		List the post numbers, as I saw nobody who is saying what you are, to the extent that you are. At best, a general poll would clearly demonstrate my point. I can speak confidently on the matter, because I draw my reading of Internet etiquette from actually observing what is considered acceptable behavior by the overwhelming majority, and by reading primers on expected norms of behavior. I am quite certain you have not, partly because you have stated as much.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 7:56:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		A simple test then. Put this smiley in your posts if you believe we should say "No, thank you." to the Nigerian scammers...

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 7:58:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		By way of clarification, we're talking about the CM Nigerian Spammers

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 7:59:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HandSolo

List the post numbers, as I saw nobody who is saying what you are, to the extent that you are. At best, a general poll would clearly demonstrate my point. I can speak confidently on the matter, because I draw my reading of Internet etiquette from actually observing what is considered acceptable behavior by the overwhelming majority, and by reading primers on expected norms of behavior. I am quite certain you have not, partly because you have stated as much.

No your going to have to read through them yourself. No they aren't saying "exactly" what I'm saying but close enough and the only reason I'm bothering with it is because you've stated otherwise.

This so called internet etiquette you've learned is nothing less than a reflection of how society deals with most things in life and really it's kinda sad. I would enjoy a poll..why don't you start one?

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:00:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HandSolo

By way of clarification, we're talking about the CM Nigerian Spammers

I'm not.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:01:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: HandSolo

By way of clarification, we're talking about the CM Nigerian Spammers

I'm not.



What??? Do you reply to every message in your email telling you to view porn and buy viagra???


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:02:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Icarys

I don't need to forgive you for anything..people are who they are and those comments were just a reflection of who you are.



It was a joke, silly.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:04:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: zakkan

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: HandSolo

By way of clarification, we're talking about the CM Nigerian Spammers

I'm not.



What??? Do you reply to every message in your email telling you to view porn and buy viagra???


Here comes another silly example. Shall I go another page and state again what I mean by what I say or would you mind reading the last 10 pages to catch up?


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:05:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: Icarys

I don't need to forgive you for anything..people are who they are and those comments were just a reflection of who you are.




It was a joke, silly.



I know, willy.

Okay I'm off to bed. I'll be back. Night all

Adding this and then I'm gone: Hand has put up a poll if anyone wants to vote. it would be interesting to see what people think.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2200609/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2200609


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:11:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ah Chip, ole buddy, ole pal and internet person type. Allow me to politely say that sometimes we poor wittle subbie type persons are so busy with real life that we forget to reply to every single cmail we receive. May I politely suggest that in many cases, if a master/Dom, politely writes a polite message to us, we'd be more then happy to politely reply back to you.
   This where my politeness ends...sorry ole chap as I call BULLSHIT to having a stranger telling me what my "duty" is or isn't. I'm thinking that your duty is to be a little more polite when posting and not come across as some ultra macho he-man, cause that ain;t gonna work. Now maybe if you have something which is worthwhile to pass on instead of blathering about the scams on this site (as if we didn't know), then maybe you will find people are more polite.
   You have yourself a most fabulous time and may you get what you richly deserve.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:18:26 PM   
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I just fail to understand what value an email that says "Thanks but no thanks" from a complete and total stranger adds when you know by the fact that they didn't respond that they're not interested.  I send out quite a few unsolicited emails, but fortunately I have a very healthy ego, so when someone I sent an email to doesn't respond my first thought isn't "Gee, that was rude", it's "their loss not mine!".

And I personally can't ignore the collective experience of MANY of the women here on Collarme that the "Thanks but no thanks" response quite often generates lots of negativity and hate from the person receiving such an email.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:29:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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ORIGINAL: HandSolo

List the post numbers, as I saw nobody who is saying what you are, to the extent that you are. At best, a general poll would clearly demonstrate my point. I can speak confidently on the matter, because I draw my reading of Internet etiquette from actually observing what is considered acceptable behavior by the overwhelming majority, and by reading primers on expected norms of behavior. I am quite certain you have not, partly because you have stated as much.

No your going to have to read through them yourself. No they aren't saying "exactly" what I'm saying but close enough and the only reason I'm bothering with it is because you've stated otherwise.

This so called internet etiquette you've learned is nothing less than a reflection of how society deals with most things in life and really it's kinda sad. I would enjoy a poll..why don't you start one?


Nonsense. Internet etiquette exists by the same manner and for the same reasons as any other. It is, like any other etiquette, a consensus. Typing in all-caps is considered yelling. Not everybody thinks so, but the overwhelming majority do. I've seen people driven off of fora for refusing to take off the caps lock for various reasons. I'm sure they felt oppressed to no end. They were wrong.

Another, if not the first rule of Internet etiquette, is that each forum has its own standards of behavior. Posting a nude image is fine on one board, instantly bannable on another. You can get thrown off a number of privately maintained fansites for badmouthing the heralded topic. And each of those actions are perfectly justified, because that is the concesus view on proper Internet behavior.

Since you seem to have not so far, you can do some reading on the topic:
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial&hs=04D&q=internet++dating+etiquette&btnG=Search

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ORIGINAL: The First Page of the First Link

One is not obligated to reply to a person requesting a date with which one has not had previous contact. Failure to reply should be taken as a definite negative on the possibility of an Internet date. Some people set up a form letter thanking people for their interest and politely declining a date. This is definitely good Internet dating etiquette, and may be applied. However it is not necessary to do this, as most people now recognize they have received a form letter refusal.



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ORIGINAL: The First Page of the Second Link

Be timely. Answer the responses and initial inquiries within three to four days. It is considered good etiquette to answer all emails since people have taken the time and effort to communicate with you.



Score one for Icky. It was, however, written in 1999.

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ORIGINAL: The First Page of the Third Link

Here's the thing: when someone initially contacts you, and for whatever reason you decide they aren't quite right, ignoring their email is perfectly reasonable online etiquette.



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ORIGINAL: The Next Applicable Link

But does every email response deserve a response if you’re not interested? Use your best judgment and be polite. In the online world, sometimes no response sends the clearest message of all.




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ORIGINAL: The Very Next Link

Q: If someone contacts you and you’re not interested, do you owe the sender a response?
Bev: No, not necessarily. As harsh as that may sound, you really don’t. Realistically, it would be wonderful; however, there may be many reasons why people don’t respond. They may be inundated and not have time; it’s not that they weren’t interested. There may be other reasons.



Other than a nine year old link, total unaniminity.


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:54:27 PM   
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I will get back to you if i deem you correct for my needs and desires.


The above was taken from your own profile....it seems you hold a double standard  ...one for you and another subs/slaves

your expecting subs/slaves to respond to every email but do not feel that the same should apply to you????   Guess what??? subs and slaves feel the same way !!!
I work full time ,  I have my own home to run   and 4 dogs to care for ... it does not leave me much time to be responding to all the emails I get when my profile is online whether in a relationship or not ..depending on how the sender wrote to me, and whether they even come close to what I am searching for... they may get a response from me ..but it may not be right away ..there are times it may take 2 weeks before I have time to respond to the ones I feel are deserving of a response,  like others said here many will get  200 emails within a couple of days... one dominant of mine decided to take control of my emails here  despite my profile clearly stating I was owned right at the beginning of my profile so it would show up on the home page above my photo  ..he was totally frustrated after a while of dealing with all the emails I was still receiving from other dominants


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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 8:59:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Has anyone noticed that the OP, who started this thread complaining about people who don't respond.........has not responded even once in this now 18 page thread!!!

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:09:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes ... it has improved much since this morning. It was good of him not to reply.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:16:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		When I start a thread I often just like to sit back and watch what others have to say. I don't respond to many of them. He may have already determined what he should be expecting or maybe he has engaged someone off the boards or has received what he needed from the responses. Who knows? Of course if asked a direct question I would be rude if I failed to respond in some manner.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:17:26 PM   
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I might see the first of those responses as rude but it still doesn't kill anyone to say no thanks.

You keep saying "it only takes a second, it wouldn't kill you, blah blah blah" Well, if we were talking about 1-2 emails a day you would be right. When I log in, I get 5 in about the first 10 minutes on most days, and they keep coming after that. Sending a "no thanks" reply will get me another email from the person about 80% of the time, and 2 or 3 emails about 50% of the time (even if I don't reply again). At that point, replying to every bloody email that hits my mailbox becomes like playing whack-a-mole.

It's quite polite to give the time when someone asks you, but wouldn't you get a bit annoyed if 20-50 people per day were asking? For myself, I will pretty much always answer an email that comes from someone on the boards, esp if I like their posts. I will also usually answer a polite email that mentions something specific in my profile, if I have the time to do so. All others are hit and miss, and I WILL ignore form letters, esp when I have received the same one from the same person more than 3 times, lol.



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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 9:37:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Has anyone noticed that the OP, who started this thread complaining about people who don't respond.........has not responded even once in this now 18 page thread!!!


He responded by creating a separate thread, thanking everyone for the insight. Or something like that. But the thread was pulled shortly after he posted it.

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RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? - 10/12/2008 10:02:39 PM   
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Me a dom and me a seek a sub
A sub to make me rub and scrub
Bamdedomdiddleydomdiddleydiddleydom
Domdiddleydiddleydiddleydiddleydiddleydiddleydom

I say
Pass de c-mail up on de left hand side
Pass de c-mail 'pon de left hand side
Me is a dom
Give me a c-mail make me jump and dom
Me is a dom
Give me a c-mail now get writing cos you're sub

It was a cool and gloomy October afternoon
(How does it feel when you got no sub?)
And I was searching cos the munch was coming soon
(How does it feel when you got no sub?)
So I logged into Collarme and checked my Inbox
(How does it feel when you got no sub?)
All the subs I wrote to had not written back
(How does it feel when you got no subs?)

Pass de c-mail up on de left hand side
Pass de c-mail up on de left hand side
Me is a dom
You is submissive and you must write to me
It got to be done
You is a submissive and it is your duty
Domdomdiddley...etc

So I posted to find out what was going on
(How does it feel when you got no sub?)
Becuase you know these slaves, sometimes they have you on
(How does it feel when you got no sub?)
I started a thread and there was furious posting
(How does it feel when you got no sub?)
And me surprised with so much posting
(How does it feel when you got no subs?)

Pass de c-mail up on de left hand side
Pass de c-mail up on de left hand side
Me is a dom
You submissives must reply cos me is a dom
I am a dom
You submissives have a duty to reply

Me say listen to de switches me say listen to de slaves
Give me little response let me find a good slave
Me say listen to de switches me say listen to de slaves
Give me little response let me find a good slave

Pass de c-mail up on de left hand side
Pass de c-mail up on de left hand side
Me is a dom
You submissive must reply cos me is a dom
I am a dom
You submissives must reply it is your duty

But doms post me is a silly dom
And so de slaves say me is a silly dom
And submissives dem a say me is a silly dom
And eighteen pages later

Pass de c-mail up on de left hand side
Pass de c-mail up on de left hand side
Me is a dom
Submissives you get writing for me is a dom
I am a dom
On de other side
On de other side
On de other side
On de other side


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