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LaTigresse -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 2:15:28 PM)

Given some of the emails I receive, no response is the most polite thing I can imagine giving them.



JustDarkness -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 2:15:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness
who is Miss Manners?


Her real name is Judith Martin.  The name "Miss Manners" comes from her etiquette column, "Dear Miss Manners".  Like Emily Post in her day, Miss Manners is the considered the expert on manners and etiquette.

Here are some of her recent columns.  Her responses are often amusing, sometimes a touch sarcastic, but always with dignity and grace. 


Cali



ahh ok. Thank you
will check it out.....
We have such persons too....but they often  have advise..that everyone with common sense could think off...lol
gonna read now ..curious about her dignity and grace....and surely her sarcasm..:P



CalifChick -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 2:16:52 PM)

That will teach me to stop and read some of her more entertaining columns before hitting the "OK" button to post.


Cali



JustDarkness -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 2:17:51 PM)

lol first thing I read about/from her :P
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  The desire to lead the entire world to correctness is an urge with which Miss Manners has the greatest sympathy


nice read...picked some random posts.
But more as entertainment..then advise in my life.
She responds the same way as our local lady adviser. With common sense...and no difficult theories.



HandSolo -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 2:34:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

loved this (from Wiki)__
Etiquette may be wielded as a social weapon. The outward adoption of the superficial mannerisms of an in-group, in the interests of social advancement rather than a concern for others, is a form of snobbism, lacking in virtue.


For example, there could be a small minority in a community, who insist on a standard of behavior not expected or even welcomed by the other members of the same community. I can't think of an exact case like this, but maybe someone else could chime in.



CalifChick -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 2:44:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: HandSolo
For example, there could be a small minority in a community, who insist on a standard of behavior not expected or even welcomed by the other members of the same community. I can't think of an exact case like this, but maybe someone else could chime in.



I think I love you.


Cali



igor2003 -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 2:54:52 PM)

I'd be curious as to how many of the people that say, "No response is a response," have ever taken the time to write out a curtious letter to someone only to never hear from them, and how many of them that this has happened to weren't , honestly, at least a little miffed at being snubbed after taking the time to write a decent letter.

I'm not a religious person, but I would certainly take what the Bible has to say over Miss Manners any day, after all, she is NOT an all knowing god.  How many have ever heard of the Golden Rule, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."?  Or as it says in Luke 6-31 "And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise." In other words, if you want to be treated with courtesy and respect, then you should treat other people the same way, and ignoring them is NOT treating them with courtesy or respect aftet they have taken the time to write you a courtious and respectful letter.

Another thought along those same lines, "What goes around comes around."

And Confuscius, "Never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself."

The Dalai Lama, "If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion"

Hinduism, "That man who regards all creatures as his own self, and behaves towards them as towards his own self, laying aside the rod of chastisement and completely subjugating his wrath, succeeds in attaining to happiness."

Muhammad, "The most righteous of men is the one who is glad that men should have what is pleasing to himself, and who dislikes for them what is for him disagreeable."

Judaism, "That which is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow. That is the whole Torah; the rest is the explanation; go and learn"

I think Miss Manners is outnumbered.




CalifChick -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 3:00:13 PM)

You're bringing religion into it? Seriously?  Quoting the bible, a book written by a bunch of men?  Nope, not a big enough eyeroll for this one.

Cali-ism:  "Man who has never received vitriol-filled hatemail in response to a polite declination of TOS-violating activities knoweth not that of which he speaks."

Cali



stef -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 3:08:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: igor2003

I'd be curious as to how many of the people that say, "No response is a response," have ever taken the time to write out a curtious letter to someone only to never hear from them, and how many of them that this has happened to weren't , honestly, at least a little miffed at being snubbed after taking the time to write a decent letter.

Been there, done that.  Didn't see a need to cry about it and it hasn't changed my opinion on the matter.

You can have my tissues.

~stef



Icarys -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 3:12:12 PM)

Last post on the subject and any who want to disagree can and I'm sure will. Don't really care...No response has become a response to many yet in truth you cannot reply to something by not answering it. If you call my name out and I look at you yet don't say anything I've ignored you and so there is my reply?(try that with your mom or your boss or most people on the street and see what you get back) It's rude and you know it so stop bs'ing yourself lol.

How that gets interpreted as a response and seen then as a good social behavior is beyond me i guess lol..I've come to except peoples ability to cloud the truth for themselves when it comes to things like this..it's called justification..I want to do it so I will make up something that excuses it. Really for me the truth is like the.dark said, I except it's rude but I'm okay with it..at least she understands it. I hope that's what ya meant?



HandSolo -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 3:12:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: igor2003

I'd be curious as to how many of the people that say, "No response is a response," have ever taken the time to write out a curtious letter to someone only to never hear from them, and how many of them that this has happened to weren't , honestly, at least a little miffed at being snubbed after taking the time to write a decent letter.


I've written plenty of them. I was a little put off, until the first online conversation I had with a Domme revealed she got dozens of mails per day, and had a multi-page backlog. Putting up an online profile should not be a prison sentence.

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How many have ever heard of the Golden Rule, [etc]



Not only have I heard of it, I even understand it properly. I, personally, would like to be bound, flogged and penetrated. I'd probably get into trouble if I started doing unto very often. 

The Internet is different than meatspace. It is faster and brasher. A message of "no thanks" invites a "but A, B, C," response, which is unwelcome and pointless, and natural. No response means "not interested," and saves both parties time and suffering, once it is understood as such. If you smile at a woman at a bar, you don't expect her to get up, walk over, sit down next to you, and say, "sorry, but you're not my type, but have a nice night," and then leave. I suspect you wouldn't appreciate it if one did.

That is how a pretty good number of people view a "no thanks" reply. I don't. The point is, there is a different standard of expected and accepted behavior, by hundreds of millions of people, not Miss Manners.



stef -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 3:15:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

Last post on the subject...

See Meatcleaver, there is a $diety.

~stef



Mercnbeth -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 3:20:08 PM)

~ Fast Reply ~
 
How about a consideration to the other side of the coin?

Not one email we've ever received has ever gone unanswered. Some get a simple - "no thanks"; some, especially those who may have generated an interest but are too far away, or aren't compatible get more details.

Sure some get a bit more. For instance; some get; "sure I'll send you my banking information - please provide me with yours because I need $500 to be transfered into mine to 'set it up'. Others get; "Well, if you really want to live under the stairs subsisting on our trash and beth's bath waste water we're good with that; let us know what time you're flight will be arriving at LAX." We did exchange a few emails with a gentlemen desiring beth to castrate him with a rusty razor, but just when it rusted enough - he stopped writing. And then, of course, there are just the silly ones.

However, rarely do any of those replies, 'nice' or not, been responded to with any kind of appreciation for the time it took us to respond. Should we feel insulted that the correspondence died and there wasn't any "polite" appreciation of our response?



leadership527 -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 3:24:21 PM)

So great then! The stairs are still available? Before we proceed though, I have a few questions.... How big are these stairs exactly. I mean, is it going to be roomy under them or cramped and dark? Are we talking a marble staircase here? If so, are you near any fault lines and are you willing to have the staircase reinforced before I move in?

I'm kind of intrigued. From what I've seen of you two, living under your staircase might be a load of fun.

Oh yeah... wait... is there room for two under there?

Edited to add: Oh yes! How could I forget! Are these true stairs? I'm tired of all the wannabe fake ones. Like in our house, it's a single floor home and all we have is that little sill by the front door. It keeps insisting it's a stair though. What's up with that?



thishereboi -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 3:38:53 PM)

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile2

LOL... you people are way too polite.  

I just threaten to shove my dick up their ass and piss, if they don't write me back... hahahahahahaha......




And that would work, because I would most likely respond to a message like that. And yes it would be very rude.



Venatrix -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 3:44:56 PM)

This has probably already been addressed, but I don't have time to slog through 23 pages of comments to verify it. 

I have over 400 unread emails in my inbox.  I only have a very limited amount of time to read email, never mind returning it.  Life is a gamble.  Submissive men are gambling that they might have a connection with me by dropping me a line.  I'm sorry if someone is offended that I haven't had the time to reply, but that's really too damned bad.  I'm not going to give up my job, shopping for groceries, seeing my friends or feeding the cat because someone will get ticked off if he doesn't get a response.

In addition, the vast majority of emails are from people who clearly haven't read my profile.  Why oh why would I owe them a response?



MasterVirago -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 3:45:48 PM)

Not  all th ebooks of the Bible were written by men.



MasterVirago -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 3:47:42 PM)

I can imagine! I've only been on a few days and don't even have a pic up yet and have had quite a few emails. I rcvd 5 before I even typed anything into my description.  



Mercnbeth -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 3:47:47 PM)

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How big are these stairs exactly. I mean, is it going to be roomy under them or cramped and dark? Are we talking a marble staircase here? If so, are you near any fault lines and are you willing to have the staircase reinforced before I move in?
Bigger than a bread box. There are a couple of sets to choose from - first cum - first serving. No marble - Mexican tiles. All beams are fully anchored and pass earthquake inspection.

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Oh yes! How could I forget! Are these true stairs? I'm tired of all the wannabe fake ones. Like in our house, it's a single floor home and all we have is that little sill by the front door. It keeps insisting it's a stair though. What's up with that?

REAL & 'TRUE' stairs Leadership, except not set up for two - however we do have a larger crawl space accessible through our dungeon play room. Dirt floor, but that makes clean up easier.

You know you have an open invite - I was planning on you being in the guest room, view of the ocean and all that. However if you think you'll be more comfortable in any of these other places just let me know and I'll make sure the exterminator evicts the spiders, at least the poisonous ones. I'm a sadist but prefer live 'victims'. 



CalifChick -> RE: WHY NO POLITE RESPONSES??? (10/14/2008 3:57:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MasterVirago

Not  all th ebooks of the Bible were written by men.


I don't recall any that were written directly by the hand of a diety.  Just people who say they were inspired by a diety. 


Cali



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