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Tributes - 10/15/2008 7:04:35 AM

teensub

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Now im sure this has been asked many of times before but i have never asked it. Before you mistresses get all stroppy out there, it is merely a question not a judgement.

Why do most domme's i see on this site expect tributes?
why do female dominants expect it but male doms dont?

Just a question i have wanted to know the answer to for a while now.

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 7:08:53 AM

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greetings teensub ~

first, i would suggest putting this in the "Ask a Mistress" section. second, use the search feature in the upper right hand corner cause HELL YES, this has been asked lots of times.

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 7:10:59 AM

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yeah i just didnt think it would get alot of attention in the mistress section as its usually fairly quiet on that board

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 7:21:08 AM

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 7:30:24 AM

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come to think of it......... dont know why Dommes expect tributes and Doms dont. personally i would not pay for either. a gift for Your Owner yes, but to actually hand over money for a session nope..........

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 7:31:24 AM

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If i was a domme i would be demanding tribute in the form of shoes.
Men arent that bothered about shoes, maybe thats why

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 7:32:19 AM

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Not all of them do -- if you see the word "tribute" it usually indicates some type of pay for play or professional situation... and actually, for the first time this week I did see a male dominant say he would expect tribute...

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ORIGINAL: teensub

Now im sure this has been asked many of times before but i have never asked it. Before you mistresses get all stroppy out there, it is merely a question not a judgement.

Why do most domme's i see on this site expect tributes?
why do female dominants expect it but male doms dont?

Just a question i have wanted to know the answer to for a while now.

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 7:33:21 AM

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Actually, if you search that word in the Ask a Mistress forum I'm sure you'll find a ton of debates on the subject...

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yeah i just didnt think it would get alot of attention in the mistress section as its usually fairly quiet on that board

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 8:01:48 AM

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One question I always have when this topic comes up is "What constitutes 'tribute'?" Is it just the money thing? Money is nothing more than a form of energy. I ask my s-types to sweat for me... to bleed for me... to offer up hours of their lives for me... again... energy. In some ways, what I demand from those who submit to me seems more valuable than a few dollars.

I won't take on an online-only submissive. One reason I won't do so is because there is nothing xhe can do for me online that I can't do for myself. Hir capacity to expend energy on my behalf is -extremely- limited. One thing that an online-only submissive -could- do is give me monetary tribute. If I got my d-type high from that kind of energy, I don't see that it would be any more harmful than those of us who demand a 'pound of flesh'. It doesn't work for me, so I don't do it, but really, I don't see why people get so worked up about it, and yet have few issues with a d-type demanding sexual communion at whim, demanding the right to leave an s-type's flesh striped and raw, demanding the s-type's absolute attention to cleaning the dishes or scrubbing the bathroom.

I think people are -way- too fixated on little green (in the US) strips of paper with numbers and pictures plastered all over them. They've forgotten the basic concept -- that money is just an analogy for an exchange of energy between people--it makes an idea tangible. Getting hung up on one kind of energy exchange being ok, and another kind being, somehow, tainted makes no sense whatsoever.

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 8:06:38 AM

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Yeah, the constant demand for pie is getting old.

"More merinque boy, and beat it good or you're next."

Promises, promises.

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 8:33:29 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW
I think people are -way- too fixated on little green (in the US) strips of paper with numbers and pictures plastered all over them. They've forgotten the basic concept -- that money is just an analogy for an exchange of energy between people--it makes an idea tangible. Getting hung up on one kind of energy exchange being ok, and another kind being, somehow, tainted makes no sense whatsoever.

Very good point Calla. That certainly helped clarify my thinking on the issue.... not that I really saw it as much of an issue to start with.

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ORIGINAL: shewhoserves
come to think of it......... dont know why Dommes expect tributes and Doms dont

So at the moment, I am retired and my wife goes to work bringing home a paycheck. Is that tribute? If not, how do you define them differently?

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 8:49:16 AM

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quote:

Before you mistresses get all stroppy

Hehe, I have a new word!

My view is that Male Doms always want sexytime tribute, as opposed to cash.

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 8:52:22 AM

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It's not true that most Dommes ask for tributes, you'r just asking the greedy ones.
Or are you suggesting that we are all professionals?

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 9:22:46 AM

teensub

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im just saying that the majority of domme women i have seen on this site want something, im just saying why do they need something and most dom guys dont? want makes them special.

I dont want a domme, never would but im just intrigued.

Lynnxz stroppy is a word master uses for me alot lol.

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 9:23:51 AM

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Everyone wants something I mean seriously no one is totally alturistic no matter what they say

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 9:28:49 AM

teensub

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i get the impression though from quite a few domme's on this site that they only do this for the money, and not because they actually enjoy it.

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 9:30:30 AM

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There is such a thing as pro Domme yes, they sell a service, all that I have met do enjoy it, differant folks for differant strokes, if you arent interested find someone else, i can assure you that there are plenty of Dommes out there who dont do pro at all, my guess is you have got your knickers in a twist without really looking

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 9:31:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: teensub

i get the impression though from quite a few domme's on this site that they only do this for the money, and not because they actually enjoy it.

And for some of us, the reverse is our truth. Then there are those that land comfortably in the middle.

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 9:37:30 AM

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people do get very uptight dont they?

In my opinion the majority of domme's i have seen/spoken to just do this for the money, and require and tribute.
That opinion is mine to have.

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RE: Tributes - 10/15/2008 9:40:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: teensub

people do get very uptight dont they?

In my opinion the majority of domme's i have seen/spoken to just do this for the money, and require and tribute.
That opinion is mine to have.

I have a feeling you are trying to start some drama.

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