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RE: Fears - 12/11/2005 6:48:28 PM

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I fear my temper, and what I will do the next time I freak out and lose control.

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RE: Fears - 12/11/2005 6:51:00 PM

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ever try anger management?

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RE: Fears - 12/11/2005 7:11:45 PM

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I can't believe that this never actually entered my mind when I first replied to this post .........

I don't necessarily fear death and dying...but I DO fear being buried and left in the ground to rot. I can process in my mind that there is no pain, no feeling of this happening; but when I think of what a body looks like after 10 or 20 years in the ground.....it terrifies me.

/shudders violently

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RE: Fears - 12/11/2005 7:57:54 PM

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I fear a former submissive partner on mine will commit suicide. (Not all of them -- just one in particular.)

I fear my parents will be disabled by long, lingering, horrific illnesses.

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RE: Fears - 12/11/2005 8:42:04 PM

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My mom is almost 90 years old, and she gets around ok now but I fear that one of these days she'll start falling apart.

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RE: Fears - 12/11/2005 9:08:08 PM

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For the first 5 years of me driving I was afraid that I might accidently run over a kid who steped in the way or ran across the street. By no means did I or would I still like to have that on my conscience even if it was just an accident.

Anyways, I am somewhat interested that no one has yet to say that there biggest fear is "Falling in love." Even if some of us have done it more that just a few times in past relationships, it's still a scary and invigorating feeling all in one. It's even more so when you are the first to say "I love you" and anxiously wait for a reply.

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RE: Fears - 12/11/2005 10:46:22 PM

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Rejection without reason.

Not being respected for who I am.

Politics.

Women who walk slow, talk fast, lie without cause and don't know the truth about themselves or care about others.

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RE: Fears - 12/11/2005 11:42:30 PM

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I'm afraid of nuclear weapons, dirty bombs, chemical warfare.

A big fear I guess would be dying a violent death
especially at the hands of another.

My son dying before I do.

Massive natural disasters.

Yikes, don't want to think about this kind of stuff
anymore.

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RE: Fears - 12/11/2005 11:47:10 PM

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All very interesting responses, we are after all at the end of the day human---

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RE: Fears - 12/12/2005 6:56:23 AM

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At least for me the dissertation was a piece of cake. After all, if I needed to I could try and try for nine years.

With the comprehensive, one failure and I was out of the program with three years of class work down the drain. At UTenn, the doctoral comprehensive is a week long with eight to ten hour days, and they can ask you any question concerning the field regardless of whether or not you had taken course work in it. Also any professor can submit questions whether or not you'd taken classes from him or her.

*shudders* My university called this the "qualifier" a make or break exam for PhD students. I always felt so sorry for those taking it and was thankful I had decided to stick with a masters.

kyra

mmmmmmmmmmmmm thinking of a course on Slavehood and a slave PhD Qualifier... mmmmmm isn't Fear Play fun *G*

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RE: Fears - 12/12/2005 6:59:40 AM

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For the first 5 years of me driving I was afraid that I might accidently run over a kid who steped in the way or ran across the street. By no means did I or would I still like to have that on my conscience even if it was just an accident.

Anyways, I am somewhat interested that no one has yet to say that there biggest fear is "Falling in love." Even if some of us have done it more that just a few times in past relationships, it's still a scary and invigorating feeling all in one. It's even more so when you are the first to say "I love you" and anxiously wait for a reply.

I can understand what your saying... but it is not a fear for me..... despite the worries and aniexties that come with it... falling in love is still the best feeling in the world.... that and eating chocolate!

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RE: Fears - 12/12/2005 7:49:48 AM

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mmmmmmmmmmmmm thinking of a course on Slavehood and a slave PhD Qualifier... mmmmmm isn't Fear Play fun *G*

ALL PhD candidates are slaves. And there aren't any safewords.

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RE: Fears - 12/12/2005 7:55:15 AM

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mmmmmmmmmmmmm thinking of a course on Slavehood and a slave PhD Qualifier... mmmmmm isn't Fear Play fun *G*

ALL PhD candidates are slaves. And there aren't any safewords.

mmmmmmmm this is looking better and better for a scene.... "The Slave Qualifier Scene" mmmmmmmmmm *G*

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RE: Fears - 12/12/2005 8:48:11 AM

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I fear my temper, and what I will do the next time I freak out and lose control.

This is way we are all in family therapy now with a cool therapist who knows and understands the kink dynamic involved with Fox and I.

And the problems aren't with Fox and I -- but Tom and I because (in my opinion) he won't take equal responsibility but he also resists giving me more authority.

Anyway.... therapy can work and if you are afraid of losing control of yourself I highly recommend it. It may not be all you, it might be the dynamics in the situations you are in.

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RE: Fears - 12/12/2005 9:09:42 AM

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Hello new here ! :)

My greatest fears are

burning alive, drowning and getting to the TPE relationship with a psychopath.

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RE: Fears - 12/12/2005 9:23:52 AM

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Failure to protect and care for those who have given me their trust. After watching The English Patient, I didn't sleep for almost 48 hours and had nightmares for weeks. It was one of the most terrifying horror movies I've ever seen.

JohnWarren

i believe i remember the plot of that movie; to me it was a very tender love story. How interesting that You felt horrorified at his inability to protect her, when he was so badly burned and damaged. If i recall correctly, she used her "feminine wiles" to protect him.

i must say, i have never been protected by a Man with whom i had an intimate relationship; that feeling of being cared for and protected would bring me great joy. i guess all aspects of trust would be joyful; but i think this one in particular would lift me up.

In response to the Op; i have mundane fears, like big, aggressive dogs off the leash; but in D/s i think my greatest fear is that i would fail Him to such a degree He would leave me. i suppose the companion fear is, i had chosen a Man badly; He was not what i thought; and i must leave Him.

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RE: Fears - 12/12/2005 9:34:29 AM

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When I use to work in Trauma units and the ambulance, my biggest worry at work was seeing a loved one roll in on a stretcher or having to repsond to an accident only to be supprised by the sight of someone I know being in the wreck. I'm glad that I'm now in pharmacuticals and medical supplies. Atleast I now don't have that thought going in the back of my mind any more.

FangsNfeet

i think FNF makes an interesting point: some types of work change your headspace and make you hyper-vigilant to the issue which you struggle with at work. i think the years i spent, representing battered women, was a great blessing to them but possibly not in my best interest. Maybe i would have been better off to quit this type of pro bono work after a year or two. i think for a while i had a very jaundiced view of men i did not know; especially of men who pursued me.

i'd go further and say litigation also changed my headspace. i used every trick in the book, and a few i invented, and worked like a dog preparing for major trials. This made me think my personal life had little or no value; that it was all up to me to uncover fraud and protect the elderly and poor; etc. It seems to me litigation tended to separate my mind from my body; relaxing, e.g., was an alien concept.

Since finding D/s and feeling protected and tutored by my Mentor and friends, i have been trying to prepare for my One in case i should find Him. Most of that work is changing my headspace; to be more sensual; to relax; to trust my instincts and judgment; etc. i think i even dream differently since finding D/s (i do not mean sex dreams, LOL.)

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RE: Fears - 12/12/2005 9:48:37 AM

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Failure to protect and care for those who have given me their trust. After watching The English Patient, I didn't sleep for almost 48 hours and had nightmares for weeks. It was one of the most terrifying horror movies I've ever seen.

JohnWarren

i believe i remember the plot of that movie; to me it was a very tender love story. How interesting that You felt horrorified at his inability to protect her, when he was so badly burned and damaged. If i recall correctly, she used her "feminine wiles" to protect him.

He was not burned until much later. Incidently, that too touched one of my hot buttons. You see, I was medically discharged from the Corps after being badly burned by a white phosphorus grenade.

What happened was she broke her leg making a bad landing in the desert and he left her saying he was going for help, but because of his arrogance and stupidity he was interned, leaving her to die slowly and in agony from thirst.

Some love story!

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RE: Fears - 12/12/2005 2:27:27 PM

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dear amayos
greetings,
i could'nt help but, notice your worst fear; short and simple but, not to worry ,that's just like dying in bed....
is that embarrassing to you ,or embarrassing,to a blonde bombshell or dont she expect the gallant older gent to ,maybe die in bed ,under her too?

WHAT did you just ask me?

English, please...

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RE: Fears - 12/12/2005 2:35:53 PM

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I'm afraid of nuclear weapons, dirty bombs, chemical warfare.

A big fear I guess would be dying a violent death
especially at the hands of another.

My son dying before I do.

Massive natural disasters.

Yikes, don't want to think about this kind of stuff
anymore.

*Brightspot