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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Here I go pondering again. Being constantly interested in the mix of our path walkers I, when time permits, review the stats on newcomers. both the "D"s and the "s"s for a general profile of who and why they have come to the path. Many time I come across an eyeopener of a supposed newcomer to the path and its concepts and bingo after 3 days on CM they are "owned"

So what do the titles mean to you and clearly it is a question for both sides of the slash.

CP

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

It's just another way of 'saying' you are in a relationship.
 
the.dark.

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

I was owned. To me it meant, quite literally, that he owned me. That he had the ultimate authority on all decisions having to do with me - what I learned, what I did, where I went, who I hung out with, what I ate, where I spent my money - I could go on. Everything. If he didn't like my thoughts, he would work with me (manipulate?) to change them. He could use me or store me away. In short, he managed my life.

It's too soon to say but I am doubtful I will give so much of myself over again. And if I do, it would be to someone who gave me more autonomy and authority over my life. My thoughts and feelings are not up for manipulation anymore, and I won't give them away like that. I tend to be really literal in my translations and I also tend to go to extremes with my experiences. I'm learning to find some better balance for myself.

But that's what owned meant to me. I don't know what it means to me anymore; I don't really think about it. Collared was a symbolic measure of degree of ownership. I don't know what I think about that anymore, either, nor do I spend any energy on it. Taken? Eh. It's an emotional expression of being totally enthralled with someone.

Being in a state of transition, I'm currently moving away from labels and their definitions, as I find they were pretty limiting for me. In time they may have meaning to me again. But right now, not so much.

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ORIGINAL: greyjay

Very good discussion topic.  I have owned one before, but it is not something I jumped into lightly.  A true connection and love are required before I can even think about it.  I think alot of people have the wrong idea in here.  It takes more than a few days.  It takes really getting to know each other.  If it's an online or long distance realtionship, I would think it would take at least months to really get to that point.  (Personally I can't imagine falling in love without first meeting the other person--its easy to not be yourself when you are typing)

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

It's just another way of 'saying' you are in a relationship.
 
the.dark.

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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

I lived with my Sir for 8 months before he collared me. I was in a relationship with him before the collaring, the collaring formalised with us the degree of our relationship, and the depth of said relationship.  For us, the collaring was akin to getting married in its symbolism and seriousness.

At the time i really wanted the symbol - it made me more secure in how i felt about my Sir, and how he felt about me. Two years later, my Sir could take my collar off and it wouldn't bother me. I don't need the physical symbol any more.  I have internalised the symbol.

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ORIGINAL: celticlord2112

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So what do the titles mean to you and clearly it is a question for both sides of the slash.

When I "take" a slave, it means I accept her into my household--she becomes part of my life and part of my world.  She agrees to be ruled, and I agree to rule.

When I "collar" a slave, it means I will keep her in my household permanently--that whatever issues and challenges arise we will work through, and that I won't just put her out the door because she's pissed me off.

Both are a part of "owning" a slave--which to me is the process of building and nurturing a relationship predicated on a power exchange dynamic.

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

I must love a girl or she must be a very very very good friend....before I even want her.
With out that ..I don't want to own

Darkness,

Well that takes care of owned, what about collared and taken?

Grins,

CP

lol

you made me think :P  unfair

owned... collared..taken.... lovely words...and the same meaning to me..( I collar what I own...then I see her as taken)
now I was thinking..when I use what word...
I do use them differently..just don't know the reason yet..

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ORIGINAL: kallisto

Taken - I see as a term loosely meaning a Dom has grabbed a sub's attention.   A genuine showing of interest. 

Owned - A committment has been made between a Dom and sub.  They are in a committed relationship to each other (whatever that relationship may be to them). 

Collared - Most times meaning an outward symbol of that committment, that others can see.   However, there doesn't have to be any outward symbol of  "being owned".    It can simply rest in the hearts of those in the relationship.    

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ORIGINAL: tweedydaddy

What women I choose to collar belong to me,  where play is concerned, what they do with their husbands and lovers outside of my company is of course completely up to them. A girl in a collar belongs to me when she is in my company and I will do what I like with her, which usually involves either dress up and spanking or undress and a few hours on a leash.
LadyLove is a tad more possessive, but her slaves are pretty damn loyal and I respect that.

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

I must love a girl or she must be a very very very good friend....before I even want her.
With out that ..I don't want to own

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ORIGINAL: masterofdrkness2

collar, own  and taken all have the same meaning to me ...I am not one who just randomly collars anyone.. took me 3 years to collar wenchy ,to me it is the same as being married . some thing I wont be rushed into , it is a  lasting commitment from me . as LadyPact  said ... they have become family ..... to the op I have seen  some get collared in under 3 hours  lol 

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ORIGINAL: Padriag

What do they mean... to many these days, apparently not very much.  I must confess, they don't mean nearly as much nor the same as they once did to me.  I tend to view owner ship today... of anything... as that which I can keep, hold onto, claim, etc. through my own means.  If it can be taken away from me, it was never really mine.

For example... do I own my home... no, the bank does and if I missed some mortgage payments they'd probably remind me of that.  When I pay the mortgage off then I can really say I own it.
Do I own my own businesses... for now, but only so long as I'm clever enough and hard working enough to maintain that... it isn't permanent.
Do other's own "slaves"... I dunno... if they can be taken away from you, seduced by someone else, etc... then I would say that ownership was very much an illusion.  If on the otherhand they remain with you regardless of circumstance or enticements... you might make a good argument that you own them.

For me ownership comes down to what you can actively possess and hold on to.  Anyone can claim to own something.  Many can take things.  But far fewer can claim or take something and hold on to it... those are the ones who "own."