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kittinSol -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 6:39:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: beargonewild

I had hoped that hunamity would have become more tolerant towards people like us but sometimes I still actually feel that my own life isn't worth a piece of crap because I happen to be attracted to men as opposed to a woman.



Bear, your life is worth as much as anybody else's - please don't let bigotted views affect you. It's an indictment on those that hold those views, not on you.




bipolarber -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 6:44:39 AM)

Of course, what simpleslave seems to have forgotten is, that it is exactly that sort of "melting pot" that remains part of the American ideal. Yes, we're a nation of mongrels. We're also a nation made up of all the people the rest of the world didn't want. (Including us GLBT folk) and you know what? We kicked ass all though the 20th century, and are getting ready to do it again this one.

But that's just an opinion of a xenophile. [:)]




beargonewild -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 6:52:02 AM)

[:)] Thanks kittensol, by no means I plan to give up my drive to enjoy life to the fullest and to do my part to try to make this world slightly better for all of us. It does get tiring sometimes and I do step back on occasion and wonder if it's all worth it. Though when I do see the support for areas that are unexpected then I realize that YES it is worth the aggravation and turmoil because the rewards are worth it! I don't try to force people to think the way I do, I just want to see some inderstanding from the ones who seem to be intolerant just like I force myself to face my own bigotry and prejudices and then remove said bigotry. I see that as evolution.




tsatske -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 6:54:06 AM)

KitSol - i'm sorry, it took me another read to relize you were talking to ME. Where did you get that I think that marriage should be denied to ANYONE?
I said I do honestly feel that the word 'Marriage' should be removed from the legeal vencular - that EVERYONE should have civil unions, and should marry seperatly if they so choose. But, I said, also, that I sincerely doubt that will ever fly - the populace in general is not going to go for 'civil unions' for straits who are used to 'marrying', and I very strongly feel that gays should be allowed to marry, and actively promote for it.
What people do in their private lives, personaly relatihships and bedrooms is as much the buisness of the goverment as you can make a rational arguement for it having an effect on other people or society - generally none.
I am against 'civil unions' for gays only, if we do not change the wording to 'civil unions' for everyone, because seperate but equal does not work. I am very much in favor of gay marriage, i do not even see why it is an issue for me to be in favor of or not in favor of, since i can't see how it is any of my damn buisness rather OTHER people chose to marry or not. I am at a loss to understand it.
Could you tell me how i unwittingly gave the impression that i am against gay marriage?




beargonewild -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 6:56:53 AM)

If I'm not mistaken, a couple married by a JP is also considered a civil union and I believe that applies to common law couples.




kittinSol -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 6:58:01 AM)

Hi Tsatske - I obviously misunderstood what you wrote at the beginning of this thread. Forgive me for the confusion, and thanks for clarifying your thoughts :-) . 




Venatrix -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 7:01:58 AM)

FR - One of the attorneys at work married her wife a few weeks ago, and I know it's changed my life completely.  The supermarkets have no food, we no longer have running water, the birds have stopped singing, the sun doesn't rise anymore . . . .




kittinSol -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 7:04:35 AM)

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beargonewild -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 7:04:38 AM)

Oh no Venatrix,  let me guess.........and all the hardware stores closed down because they have nothing left on the shelves?!!!!!!!!  Thank god we Canucks still have Homo Depot !




Aynne88 -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 7:07:27 AM)

[;)]What kittin said, with a fat hug thrown in for good measure. [:)] Fuck those intolerant hate mongers, seriously, they make me sick.  Your life, YOU, are a person of value, loved, with family and friends. Do not let some ignorant fear filled homophobes affect that. Got it? Good.


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ORIGINAL: kittinSol

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ORIGINAL: beargonewild

I had hoped that hunamity would have become more tolerant towards people like us but sometimes I still actually feel that my own life isn't worth a piece of crap because I happen to be attracted to men as opposed to a woman.



Bear, your life is worth as much as anybody else's - please don't let bigotted views affect you. It's an indictment on those that hold those views, not on you.





Kirata -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 7:27:09 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly
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ORIGINAL: Kirata

Is anybody going to answer the question, because I already know the song.

To the vast majority of people, and more than a majority of heterosexuals, "marriage" refers to a legally sanctioned union between a man and a woman (the reference for the definition, by the way, was dictionary.com).

the answer to you question is a bellowing "DUH!"

If the definition was not a union between man and woman then there would be no debate related to gay marriage, now would there?


Wow, active thread, and I just don't have time to catch up right now. But I think you've made my point. The debate, unfortunately, is precisely about gay "marriage". But is a word really the point of it all?
 
The heels-dug-in resistance they are meeting up with is mainly over using the word "marriage" for their unions. If the debate was simply about legal recognition, sanction, and rights, it would be largly over by now.
 
It just seems to me counter-productive, and calculated to engender resistance, to define the debate in terms of "marriage". I thought the issue was about their right to have their unions legally recognized and sanctioned.
 
Obviously a silly idea I picked up somewhere by mistake. Mea culpa.

K.
 
 
 




beargonewild -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 7:32:20 AM)

yet part and parcel to this debate also includes having equal rights under the term of marriage. In other words, it's just one area towards the fight to gain full and equal rights as a valid human being though we are part of the GLBT community.




kittinSol -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 7:32:28 AM)

Hmmmm... the title of the thread is precisely
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Gay marriage




Kirata -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 7:34:04 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kittinSol

Hmmmm... the title of the thread is precisely
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Gay marriage


omg stop flirting
 
K.
 




kittinSol -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 7:36:02 AM)

I can't help it, it's that hat of yours. It's so manly :-) . 




LadyEllen -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 7:50:37 AM)

I wonder, if Obama were gay, whether the reasons that some refuse to countenance his presidency would be more easily confessed?

For it seems to me that in this debate, its the same bunch who object to a non-white running for president who object to the notion of equal treatment for LGBT people - and their approach to both issues is seen to be the same - never to call a spade an instrument for digging and never to refer to what they see as an objectionable sexuality directly.

Instead they dance around the point, conjuring nonsensical arguments that any rational consideration of the legal and constitutional position can easily dismiss.

If only they felt as able to express themselves fully without reservation, we might see at a glance the nature of their bigoted view of life and dismiss them without any further consideration of their confabulated arguments.

And to top it all off, these seem to be the same bunch of people who react so vociferously against a state such as Iran - one in which it would appear the perfect society of which they dream is a reality.

The same sort of perfect society in which one might legally erect signs that said "Deutsche - wehrt Euch, kauf nicht bei Juden!"

I seem to recall a time when it was said that we objected to such viewpoints and the policies that followed on from them to the extent that we sent thousands into battle to destroy them. Apparently, we failed to take the same robust action at home and continue to do so.

If those predisposed to religiosity win out in this struggle then it will not be the end of their efforts to build their perfect society; one in which signs will again hang from hotel doors to make it known who is a human being and who is not.

E




Venatrix -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 7:51:22 AM)

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ORIGINAL: beargonewild

Oh no Venatrix,  let me guess.........and all the hardware stores closed down because they have nothing left on the shelves?!!!!!!!!  Thank god we Canucks still have Homo Depot !


I cleaned out the hardware stores before we started this "gay marriage thing."  I said to myself, damn, all these people getting married.  Next thing you know, they'll want to buy houses, then they'll want to fix them up.  That means there won't be any hardware for the rest of us.  I'd better stock up now.  There's no telling where this calamity might end.




JohnnyCanuck -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 8:54:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen
I seem to recall a time when it was said that we objected to such viewpoints and the policies that followed on from them to the extent that we sent thousands into battle to destroy them. Apparently, we failed to take the same robust action at home and continue to do so.


You should read more of pre-war American history.

Americans did not object to the persecution of the Jews, nor the persecution of the Poles, nor the crushing of Austria, Czechoslovakia, Poland, Norway, Denamrk, Belgium, Holland nor France.

Nor did Americans object to the bombing of England, the destruction of the Balkans, the capture of Greece, the decimation of Ethiopia ...

In America it was business-as-usual.

Thanks to the America-Firsters, Roosevelt was promising to keep America out of foreign wars.

So there was no great moral outrage over what was happening in Europe. No concern for the loss of human rights. None of it was worth the loss of one American soldier, according to Americans.

It was not until Pearl Harbour that America got involved, and again, it was not over rights and freedom, it was revenge for those killed at Pearl.

It was only over time that the propaganda machine turned the war into an issue of morality (in war, propaganda uses whatever causes and reasons might inspire patriotism and investment in the war effort, truth is a vague and nebulous thing and not an issue).

A lot of people thought Hitler was a good guy: going after Jews, Communists, Homosexuals, etc...

Read Bill Shirer's "Rise and Fall of the Third Reich" and you will see frequent references to the "homosexual perversion" of various Nazi leaders.

America did not get into the war for the cause of freedom.

America has always flirted with fascism.

This is what comes from founding a country on slavery.

Read Horace Greeley's "The American Conflict" and the reason is clear: slavery gives rise to autocratic principles.

Manual labour is no longer fit work for a free man. It is only fit for a slave. Free men order others about. Society forms up along the lines of those who give orders and those who take them, with all free men seeking to be in the former group.

This is, of course, the basis for fascism: a master class and a slave class.

It is no coincidence that the slave-holding south broke away from the union almost as soon as an abolitionist-leaning president was elected. Until Lincoln the south had held power over the instruments of government.

Lincoln's election signalled a change in the demographics, making clear that the abolitionist north had finally achieved superior voting power over the south (bearing in mind the south's representation depended upon counting slaves, who could not vote, thuis weighting the southern vote disproportionately).

Note that even as recently as the sixties civil rights movements have been attacked with force by governments for holding peaceful demonstration demanding equal rights.

These governments were supported by the majority of Americans who voted for them.

The idea that Americans fight for rights and freedoms is a peculiarly American legend.

The rest of us see something very different.




MistresseLotus -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 9:08:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

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ORIGINAL: MistresseLotus
Unfortunately, it's impossible when everyone feels they also need to be "unique" and "special".  You are asking the government to legislate equality and define fairness.  My question is.. if a civil union has the exact same rights as a marriage between het couples..why is it so important to use a term that has been exclusively for a heterosexual union?  And while we are thinking about it.. is husband and wife (which is gender specific) going to go by the wayside also in the interest of PCness?  I don't want to be so homogenized.  I'm old fashioned that way :)


why shouldn't gays be allowed to call their union a marriage? if the civil unions afford them the rights of marriage, then they should be entitled to CALL it a marriage, IMNSHO.  They should also be able to get married in a church, if they so choose, but that's another issue.



The institution of marriage was developed for hets by hets for the control of property and propagation of the species so that they knew what belongs where via bloodline.  How does this relate to the gay experience?  There is no bloodline/lineage to document.. and a simple will makes sure your belongings get where you want them after your death.  It's no longer about "morality".. just a system that was set up by a group to protect THEIR rights.  I wonder what a gay institution of partnering would be like?  What would be different for their specific needs?  If marriage is a good idea..then create your own ideal law and institution instead of trying to take away from the original.   Because that's what it feels like.

For a group here that says "to each their own" there sure is a lack of understanding how each feels about things.

I grew up in a family of 4..one of each:  One gay brother, one bi-sexual brother, one lesbian sister and little ol' het me.  I'm closest with my gay brother.  (just an FYI)  Neither bother or sister ever felt the need to be "married" because it just didn't apply.. but then they never were denied their "rights". Maybe because they actually took the initiative to explain their circumstances to those that needed to know instead of being militant.




JohnnyCanuck -> RE: Gay marriage (10/23/2008 9:09:22 AM)

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ORIGINAL: JohnnyCanuck
America has always flirted with fascism.


Did I really say that and fail to mention Senator McCarthy?

~shakes head~




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