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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/25/2008 6:05:47 PM   
Twicehappy2x


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Lol, my boobs are too big and gravity has them in it's grasp. My skin does not fit like it used to either. But all in all i am not unhappy or overly critical of it. I accept myself as is honestly.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/25/2008 6:06:08 PM   
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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/25/2008 6:09:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		How a person sees themselves gets projected onto others. If someone is negative than others will feel that negativity. I love myself and am positive about myself.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/25/2008 6:12:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

How a person sees themselves gets projected onto others. If someone is negative than others will feel that negativity. I love myself and am positive about myself.


but it doesnt necessarily work with the positive projection.  there are more people who are negative/depressed than there are positive/happy.  or atleast it would seem that way.


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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/25/2008 6:13:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		No the point is, you do have control over your body when you  become its partner. At 11 I fell while mountain climbing with my father, the doctors told me I would never walk again or even have control over body waste functions. I was flat on my back for over a year. My brother and his trainer came to visit me one afternoon, (My brother was training for the Olympics.) his trainer said to me the human body is a marvelous thing but you have to challenge it and push it. Then he ask what can you do now? I moved my fingers and from that day forward, that man visited me every day. Within three years I not only was standing and walking with full control over my body functions I was laughing every time I didn’t succeed but I tried and tried again until I did. At age 40 I won the iron man, at 42 was awarded the Mr. Florida title and at 44 was awarded the man of the year by the local chamber of commerce. But I am in a partnership with my body, I respect it, pump a lot of iron every day and my body serves me well.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/25/2008 6:13:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm quite attached to my body... you could say we've become very close over the years.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/25/2008 6:31:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		I know I need some work....having babies wreaks havoc on a body.....LOL.  But I am working on it...that is what matters.  Besides, Boss loves me for me.....I dont have to be perfect....but my goal one day is to be a Trophy Wife.....but I will settle for MILF for now....

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/25/2008 6:35:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		I find my body a little too white and speckled with freckles and with chicken legs a lil too thin, this old body shows a bit of where it's been.  A little wrinkle and lil sag and thicker in the middle than my used to be 22 inch waist... but you know, this body has served me well and for an old broad... I feel I had a pretty good run.  As long as those naughty bits still work the same... I plan to go into old age... with quite a flame.  If some young stud looks the other way... I won't complain as I watch his ass as he walks away... I know some old dude just like me... will find me pleasing and he surely won't complain.  So while I look in that awful mirror that tells the awful truths more and more each day and I might not like the changes I find there... I don't let it affect me... I guess the hormones and pleasures that await are more incentive than what I see in the mirror.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/25/2008 6:41:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		My body fits me, so I like it. After I was hit by a car and couldn't walk for 3 years, I learned to appreciate my legs and the ability to use them for walking and dancing. I am always in motion since then. I am also proud I made it to 57, when so many odds were against me. I fit my body and it fits me.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/25/2008 7:06:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		I love my body. I try to eat well and exercise, I have good muscle tone, and while I used to think my breasts were too small, now I adore the fact they fit my frame perfectly.


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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/25/2008 7:11:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like my little body.  It's not perfect, but it's functional, healthy, and kind of cute-ish.  And I've finally grown to appreciate my really really white-ass skin.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/25/2008 8:50:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		body and i haven't been getting along too well over the last three years.  i think it was made out of spare parts to begin with.  but body is all i have, and i am all she has, so we've learned to compromise.  i take care of her, she tries not to break down too often.  i guess we're fairly happy together, we keep renewing the yearly lease every march 14th, lol!
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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/26/2008 12:38:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am wondering...the picture soem have of their own body. IF it is bad...is it your opinion..or is it caused by others that judhe about you?
With soem of my subs I noticed that when I loved their body (and they didn't) and told them regular.....they also accepted their body more in time. 

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/26/2008 2:15:11 AM   
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I have a horrible self-image and Drew is doing what he can to help change that.  To some extent it is working but to some its not.  I have always been very overweight and in the last 3yrs have lost over a hundred lbs and my body didnt quite go back to normal.  I have a little bit of extra skin that i totally hate.  I also still see myself as that fat person alot of the time.  Its hard to see myself as small as i really am.  Drew tells me im beautiful and sexy, which i love, but its hard for me to see that when i look in the mirror.  I think to a certain extent it is a little different being D/s because there are times i am required to were very small clothes or be naked and that can be uncomfortable at times.  I am not near as uncomfortable as i used to be though so i think my self-image is improving but still far from where i would like it to be.


I can SO identify with this!  This time last year I weighed 50 lbs more than I do now.  My body has changed in some ways for the better, but in other ways it looks worse.  My boobs don't look right, I have a wobbly tum still and I just can't see 'sexy' in there anywhere.  I still go clothes shopping and head automatically for the outsize section when I'm actually wearing a size 12 (UK) instead of a 24. 

But I recently started a relationship with someone, and the first time I had to get naked I was so terrified it was unbelievable!  I thought he's going to take one look at my horrible body, turn round and leave.  Of course it didn't happen, lol.

And then only a week or two back he gave me the order to be wearing nothing but my collar and cuffs when he arrived, and to be kneeling waiting for him.  I felt awful - I kept thinking what a dreadful sight I must make.  I couldn't believe it when he told me afterwards how sexy and beautiful I looked when he came through the door and found me waiting for him.

I guess now at my age (43) I'm never going to have the body of a supermodel, but if I can make the most of what I have then there are men out there who can find me attractive.  I just wish I could see me through their eyes, if only for a moment.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/26/2008 2:33:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I like being tall and thin -- it fits my androgynous self-image. All I want is a little more muscle.

It makes me sad to hear attractive women talking needing to lose weight, though. Skinny is not my idea of sexy. I realize everyone's entitled to their own ideal, but I do wonder if these women aren't just yielding to prevailing cultural expectations. Hard not to, I guess.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/26/2008 2:41:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am quite contented with the body I have, areas that need tweaking, yet they are all still part of me, so I am happy with them. I adore food, so would never ration or do the dreaded "D" word, as diets do not work anyways, lifestyle changes do. So havin recently quit smoking, and started working out again, I am feeling rather healthier then I have in years.

It is an internal contentment, that projects itself, and filters out as confidence, an inner contentment.

Admiring the better parts of  our bodies from our own point of view, is the the best to to accept what we have, and make the most of it, which often get shaded by the negative.

There are so many beautiful and handsome faces in this world, hair, eyes, voices, skin. The body is just the overall jigsaw, best to home into the finer details, I do

Confidence is the most attractive asset anyway.

I have met many perfectly formed individuals in my time, yet some did not have an ounce of confidence to match the overal perceived package, which is in itself quite sad.

I prefer flaws and imperfections anyways, makes people unique and less samey, making the world a more interesting place

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/26/2008 3:13:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		I accepted and decided to love my body some years back.  As a result, I was able to feel and behave more authentically.   I enjoy living without having to worry much about how different I am compared to mainstream's perfect specimen, and without the burden of comparing myself to everyone and anyone deemed "beautiful."

For myself, this newfound freedom has helped me to be more beautiful, and more interesting, because I'm not apologetic for my looks, and I am just me.   I quickly shut down anyone who tries to project their body insecurities onto me.   It's an interesting place to be...  It's a most wonderful place to be when one can learn to apreciate and love the body God put him/her in, without whining and complaining about being imperfect to the masses.   M

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/26/2008 3:27:57 AM   
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I turned 50 years old last week.  It scared me.  I felt like the years were rushing past.
I have stretch marks and a tummy pouch from my two babies who are now in their 20s.  That's really the only two things I don't like about myself.  Sir tells me I look closer to 40 than 50.  I'm lucky I have good healthy genes and a family that tends to lead long lives.  I've been going to a gym for the past two years and I'm fit and toned, more so than I have ever been in my life.

I'm lucky I have good health.  Sir has renal failure and diabetes.  I never take my health for granted now. 



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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/26/2008 3:52:36 AM   
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I have been thinking about a message I received from a slave on another site who clearly hates himself because of the way he looks. Do you think your attitudes towards your own body are affecting your changes of forming an alternative relationship and how much more or less do you think it is an issue compared to conventional relationships?


meh! -  i should be in the gym right now - friend will wonder where i am - anyhoo..

the green bit caught my eye as an interesting question - i think that when so many D profiles go into details about how they are going to inspect their property naked it scares the hell out of alot of people.  also, alot of what we do is with the lights on, it has to be for obvious reasons - you cant cane an ass if you cant see it. 

an insecure vanilla can leap between the sheets but we subbies cant - so i think that if you do have issues with your body it can be a massive problem to bare all and i would imagine for a lot of people its one of the things that holds them back.  which is a shame.

when i went up to Sir for the first time as his sub the expectation was for me to be naked.  nakedness for me is an intimate thing, so i found ways around it, wore a g.string and a cammi and asked that for the first time, if i could wear these things.  he agreed.  next time i will be naked, but my comfort levels were eased along for the first time with him and because im dealing with my body image by working out regularly i know that what i am now is almost as good as it can be, and so im ok with myself.

if someone is feeling awkward or uncomfortable for the first time meet then they should be allowed to find a compromise - after that initial ice breaker it should feel ok.  the thing is to be sensitive to a persons insecurities and reassure them - sadly we are barraged by perfection on the media and on here and it ends up making some people feel inadequate.

but yes, to the original question, i do think it gets in the way for some people and i think its a big shame that they are holding back from finding happyness just because they feel less than perfect.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/26/2008 4:51:58 PM   
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I blogged about this a few days ago, here

http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/212397/

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