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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/27/2008 1:48:40 PM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		I don't hate myself because of the way I look, I've got loads of other reasons to do that....lol
I've never been entirely content with my body and never will be because that's just the way I am. If I was young and gorgeous I'd still be discontented about something or other. On the other hand, it seems a bit rude to dislike it TOO much as it's done a lot for me over the years and hasn't made M puke thus far.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/27/2008 2:31:46 PM   
JackRidley


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Status: offline 		I have worked very hard on my body and am pleased with it. Oh, I'd like to be ten foot tall and built like a Greek god but once you get past that I'm fine with myself. I just look so freakin' mean. The only things women say about me are 'brutal', 'vicious', 'a thug' and they don't even know my sweet self.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/27/2008 4:22:19 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I don't have a poor self image really. I don't love everything about my body but I don't hate everything about it either.

I'm just realistic in knowing what I can and can't do with it and what I would like to change but at the end of the day this is who I am..take it or leave it.

It has not affected how I have formed relationships at all.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/27/2008 6:20:00 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		I think that a positive self-image/relationshipwtih yourself positively impacts relating with others, no matter the circumstance. 
I'm pretty okay with me while realizing that I am not perfect and there are facets that I could choose to work on with greater diligence.  I also wish, when I was a bit younger, I appreciated certain fabulousness that will never be recaptured; but, then again, if people truly realized their strengths super-young, they'd rule the world. 
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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/27/2008 7:42:02 PM   
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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/27/2008 7:48:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		I feel pretty good about my body.  Better than I ever have actually.  I'm not a model and likely never will be, but I'm healthy andI look pretty good for an old broad.!

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/27/2008 8:09:36 PM   
SusieBlue


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Status: offline 		How I feel about my body has changed drastically in the last few years. Rather than wish I had smaller hips (amazing how childbirth reshapes you) or slimmer thighs, I now wish I still had the arm muscles I had when I was bartending. It's function I feel critical about, and not pretty details. I feel more beautiful now, approaching thirty, than I did when I was 20.

Okay sometimes I wish I had a smaller butt, but hey, it makes a bigger target for smacking.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/28/2008 4:39:20 AM   
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I guess over the last few years my body image has changed, I have always been happy with my body and I still am I have never had a problem with being naked around lovers though I absolutely hate my picture being taken, and when it is done it is generally a side on view of my head. I do still think improvements could be made to it though I also love it for what it is. I would not say I have a negative image of my body in anyway though I have been given pause for thought when I have been around people who’s bodies can do impressive things like a former slave of mine who competes in decathlon events, his body is like a machine though it has taken a vast amount of time and training to get it like that I guess he was quite fanatical and it defiantly got in the way of other things in his life. I also had a lover who although he was not a masochist in the sexual sense, he loved to give himself extreme sporting injuries, I guess he used it as a way of self harming, in a similar way to people who cut themselves though he usually ran until he was sick or until something snapped. I guess the way people react to their own bodies and what they do with them has always interested me (mostly because of the retinue of strange exes I guess) though I was quite put off by just how much the slave who inspired this thread really hates his body given that he does so to the point where he has pretty much fetishised his self-loathing.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/28/2008 4:47:46 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		 A relationship is a relationship is a relationship. The same things that negatively impact traditional relationships negatively impact alternative sexuality ones. Honestly, whether or not you only sleep with those of your own sex, or do like getting it up the ass has very little to say about your ability to form a good, strong and healthy relationship.

Beyond that, men have performance anxiety and women have body issues. That's the truism and like all truisms, there's a lot of truth in it. A sub who has body issues is just an ordinary person who may be justifiably proud of her tiramisu but nervous about being seen naked. No different than her vanilla cousin. More important than the issue is where it comes from, and if they are wedded to it. So if the sub insists that anyone she is with sees her as ugly and undesirable at all times, that's a lot more important than one who is honest about her ex putting her down and her being afraid of being vulnerable as a result.

Can you deal with someone who has insecurities or do you demand a perfect partner? Can you give sincere compliments or do you require that it all be about you? What do you need in a relationship?

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/28/2008 8:09:08 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I've been thinking about this thread since I first read it the other day. It really made me question how do I feel about my body.

Well, I used to never have weight issues. Ate like a horse and had a killer body. The problem was, I didn't see it. I've always had the hourglass thing going and until recently that was not the hot fab thing.

Now, I would kill to have the body I had 20 years ago and disliked. Go figure. Yet, I don't feel gross or ugly. Even though I no longer have that concave stomach.

I am 46, this body birthed and nurtured two of my favourite people in the world that also helped create 3 more of my favourite little people in the world. How could I possibly hate my body??

Also, it is a very healthy body. It has no problems that needs medication or medical care to treat. Sometimes I get lazy with either diet and/or exercise and it warns me. Like a recent crying episode over bales of hay, which has led to eating less and moving my arse alot more. I am going to take the best care of this wonderful body that I can because I plan on being around a very long time. I am going to need it.


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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/28/2008 6:04:02 PM   
coupleowl


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Status: offline 		(Him) I believe I am unreasonably full of myself. There may be one or two things I'd change. But in reality I love me for me, and everything about me. 

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/28/2008 6:07:21 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: coupleowl

(Him) I believe I am unreasonably full of myself. There may be one or two things I'd change. But in reality I love me for me, and everything about me. 

I like me too.  A little vanity never hurts right?

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/28/2008 6:32:32 PM   
Surata


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Status: offline 		I'm not exactly unhappy with my body.  I'm just trying to get used to my new figure.  Since I got back in shape, I am moving differently, I feel differently, my health is different...  It's all very new to me, and that itself is shaking my self-confidence a bit.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/28/2008 6:34:33 PM   
suhlut


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Status: offline 		i really really dislike most things about my body... and my only saving grace are my eyes

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/28/2008 8:05:09 PM   
OneMoreWaste


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Status: offline 		I don't like my body, but I don't like much of anything else about myself either, so it balances out. Self-esteem and confidence seem to be among the essential components for not being dismissed out-of-hand by Dominant Women, but that seems to be true for all women, so I think it's really a wash. What's a little more shit to lie about, aye? 

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/29/2008 1:02:10 AM   
PlayfulTopDC


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Status: offline 		I am a cancer survivor, and as such I have developed some body issues.  The main one is that I have a unique roadmap of scars on my chest and belly.  I always feel that I have to discuss this with a potential Playmate early on for two reasons.  Although I don't look like Frankenstein, the scars are noticeable and I don't want to take someone by surprise, freak them out or whatever.  Second, I want them to know that I am now perfectly healthy and not at all fragile.  If they see the scars without an advance explanation, I'm afraid they might be turned off or too timid about domming me.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/29/2008 1:18:02 AM   
NormalOutside


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Status: offline 		Put me in the category of the people who would like to have a perfect body, but don't want to eat sticks and work out 2 hours a day 365 days a year.  I eat fairly well, I get enough exercise, and I'm healthy.  I could lose a bit of softness off my stomach but it's not like it gets in the way of anything :p

I hear that nanotechnology is aiming to have tiny robots reproducing in our bloodstreams in our lifetime.  Theoretically, they'll keep it in good shape, keep us looking young, keep us from mental illness, and eat up all our fat cells.  We'll be perfect.  It's still years off, so no more McDonalds for you :p

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/29/2008 2:53:46 AM   
Lordi71


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Status: offline 		Personally speaking ( and being a bit of a hippy lol) I belive that when the right person comes along, whether in a nilla or alternative relationship, all doubts abt ones own body fades into the distance.... I have a disability which does hinder me in certain activities, however I have found different ways to achive my goals.



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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/29/2008 3:42:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PlayfulTopDC

The main one is that I have a unique roadmap of scars on my chest and belly. 


You know, there is a regular poster here on cm whom i am not going to name but i am going to talk about.
 
This person has had several serious surgeries in the past few years, and they do have a good bit of scarring.
 
Now i know lots of subbies, and having first stripped and then tended bar on Baltimore's famous Block, i have seen and had my share of beautiful women, a pair of porn stars, even Hustler's first scratch and sniff centerfold.
 
Yet, when i see this person, especially during play, but even during the course of normal activities,  i find them more sexually attractive, more appealing to me than 90% of women i know.
 
The scars have nothing to with it. It is the personality, the confidence, the raw heat that this individual possesses that gets to me. Ok, and this person has a killer ass, weg.

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RE: What do you think about your own body? - 10/29/2008 4:16:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		For the most part, I like my body.  It's the only one I have and it's served me fairly well.  Now that I'm older, I've discovered that I can no longer abuse and neglect it the way I did when I was younger.

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