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Safe calls etc aren't always enough. - 10/31/2008 11:53:50 AM

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I use due diligence every day in my job. I have to show that i have taken steps to prevent certain things happening and have usually prevented them. For example serving a minor alcohol. I keep a book which within is noted every refusal of service. It is dated, timed, a description of the person and a reason stated for refusal. IF i ever served a minor and got taken to court for it i could show this book as defence. It would show that it was not a usual that a minor would be served on my premises and that more than likely it was just an error in deciding the age of said minor served. There are many, many more examples of where i use due diligence but i won't go into them.

So it is quite surprising to me to discover that i do not show such diligence in my private life. By this i mean the attempt to try to prevent things going wrong, following procedure. And that if they do go wrong i have a back up plan to protect me, the refusals book in the case of my job.

We talk about first meets all the time and the safe way to do it. Most here myself included have said they rely on gut instinct and just go for it. Then there are other who set up safe calls and more. Each to their own, all good. However i found out two days ago that it doesn't matter how many safe calls you set up, who you give the address you are going to etc etc, sometimes it just isnt enough!

This is more a cautionary tale than anything, a warning not to be complacent and think you are perfectly safe because you've put some half assed safety aspects in place.

I set up a safe call, gave a name and address to my safe call and off i went to Brighton. A pretty harsh argument later and a very upset me storming off in heels with a suitcase down a flight of stairs resulted in me on my ass with an ankle i could not walk on. I found myself alone in a street i did not know, in a place i did not know barely able to walk. It was a six hour train journey with 4 changes on the way to home and it was late afternoon. I needed somewhere to stay and a way to get there. Very luckily when i rang Soft in floods of tears it just happened she was familiar with the place i was and twenty minutes later she was back on the phone to me with a booking for a hotel and a cab on the way. Soft was not my safe call by the way, my safe call would not have been able to do a thing.

As it turned out i was ok, i had a hotel room for the night and i managed to hobble my way home the next day, heels, suitcase and all. However it could have been so much different!

Just a cautionary tale really that safe calls and leaving of addresses and phone numbers and names etc isn't always enough. As an aisde i am now laid up in bed, best place for me lol with a chipped ankle bone and bad sprain.

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