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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/5/2008 6:33:16 PM

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/5/2008 6:34:14 PM

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I'm totally comfortable with a relationship involving either a female or a male.. or since I'm poly, ideally both. I came out as bisexual in middle school and suffered quite a bit of questionable reactions, since I was born and raised in a rural mid-western town. However I've found that I tend to have more relationships with guys. Darn it. I tend to prefer females physically a bit more, but over all its really about being attracted to a person as a whole being..

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/5/2008 6:48:23 PM

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The amazing thing with being with a woman is how similar she is to oneself. So if one is a little narcisstic it's not dissimilar to making love to a very three dimensional mirror... especially going down on a woman... okay. Enough.

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/5/2008 7:19:38 PM

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For those of us within this lifestyle that are bi.... are you truly comfortable with someone the same sex as your self? Would you have a relationship with someone the same sex? or is it something you would do to please your Dominant?

I am new to bdsm as a lifestyle, but I have always been bisexual. Pansexual is actually a better term for me, because many years of experience have shown me that gender is not such a clear either/or proposition as most people think. I could not be in any type of relationship with someone who did not accept the fact that I will always have sexual desires for both men and women. My partners must also accept that my ability to become emotionally intimate with a person has nothing at all to do with their gender.

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/5/2008 7:43:41 PM

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I am comfortable with those of the same gender yes, Would I want a full time relationship with the same gender? Honestly no. Because I am primarily interested in men for full time and women for sexual fufillment and friendship.

I'd never be bisexual cause a Dominant ordered me to or wanted me to be. I am bisexual cause it's a part of who I am, and what I enjoy.

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For those of us within this lifestyle that are bi.... are you truly comfortable with someone the same sex as your self? Would you have a relationship with someone the same sex? or is it something you would do to please your Dominant?

For those that have in a profile 'bi curious' Is it mainly because Master/Dominant wants a 3rd party and your willing to go along with that or is it that you genuinly crave to have sex with someone the same sex as yourself?

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/5/2008 9:41:44 PM

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i am bi-sexual, but honestly on the romantic side i bond better with males. i have been involved in relationships exclusively with females. (well she was my primary partner). the relationship was open with disscussion. as well as with couples. being more poly inclined, i easily flucuate, readily and tightly bond with both sexes. works well that way. fortunately sex is great all the way around..hehe..

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/5/2008 10:46:36 PM

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i am bi-sexual, but honestly on the romantic side i bond better with males. i have been involved in relationships exclusively with females. (well she was my primary partner). the relationship was open with disscussion. as well as with couples. being more poly inclined, i easily flucuate, readily and tightly bond with both sexes. works well that way. fortunately sex is great all the way around..hehe..

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/5/2008 11:07:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: allthatjaz

For those of us within this lifestyle that are bi.... are you truly comfortable with someone the same sex as your self? Would you have a relationship with someone the same sex? or is it something you would do to please your Dominant?

My sexual orientation has nothing to do with my dominant and yes, I am quite comfortable having a relationship with another woman but right now, I'm in a relationship with a man. I'm all about people and the connection and what's between their ears rather than between their legs.

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/6/2008 2:53:44 AM

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I am on other websites (our other lifestyle) and my fav are the women who are 'bi curious' or 'socially bi'. Ugh....it is like being a little pregnant!

lol..a little pregnant.
That was the comparison I was lookign for.
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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/6/2008 2:59:55 AM

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How is bi curious like being a little pregnant? You can be curious about something prior to trying it, you cant be a little pregnant

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/6/2008 4:05:31 AM

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You can be curious about something prior to trying it, you cant be a little pregnant

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no you dont have to be bi-curious, sometimes things like that come without you ever thinking about it before

now you confuse me :P
(although I understand you)

it was the context..that made her say "lil pregnant"
indeed curious you can be....but bi you are or not.
guess that was the reason for the "lil pregnant"
(found it funny :P )

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/6/2008 4:11:49 AM

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how is that confusing?

You can be curious before you try something but you dont have have to be sometimes you think about doing something a lot before doing it, sometimes an opportunity arises that you sieze

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/6/2008 4:13:42 AM

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it was confusing because when I said a you said b
and when I said b you said a
(at least that is how I read it)

but now I understand

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/6/2008 4:14:58 AM

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cool cool, no it wasnt a deliberate attack on you it was just that you can be both.

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/6/2008 4:25:18 AM

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cool cool, no it wasnt a deliberate attack on you it was just that you can be both.

I know that. Didn't feel attacky.
I was just really confused. ;)

you explained nicely

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/6/2008 4:34:11 AM

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It seems that more females are bisexual them males...or am I wrong?

(just thinking uploud)

Perhaps but bi men excite me, especially when its a man on man power exchange

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/6/2008 4:45:07 AM

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Is being bi more in fashion do you think? Or is it that more and more people are becoming more open with their expressions of sexuality?

C-D

I can relate to this very much

My dominant side is very much towards women. Don't get me wrong, I love women and possibly feel more comfortable with them than men but I also love the vulnerability of a woman and her fussyness about who dominates her. Male subs have a tendancy to go for anyone (I don't mean all).

On the other hand I could never let a female dominate me.
I think it's both. The chicks who do it to be trendy are so annoying, though...

As for me, I've been into girls for as long as I can remember. I have been in one serious relationship with a woman and dated several casually. I used to think that I could have a woman as my primary partner, but I've determined that I need the dominance, which I will only accept from a man, so for that reason women are secondary partners for me, though not necessarily 'playthings.' I would place somewhere between the 2 and 3 on the Kinsey scale.

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I can relate to this very much

My dominant side is very much towards women. Don't get me wrong, I love women and possibly feel more comfortable with them than men but I also love the vulnerability of a woman and her fussyness about who dominates her.

On the other hand I would never allow or get anything out of a female dominating me. I need the strength of a man to feel vulnerable. With a woman I would possibly just end up head butting her!!

Because I very much need both sides of the coin, I prefer to have a full on relationship with a switch man and for us both to have a fem sub between us.

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/6/2008 4:45:54 AM

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I think more women admit to being bisexual than men because its more socially acceptable, it interests me that feminism has changed our ideas of what women can do, the ideas of femininity have become more fluid, but for men there has been no change, we have a very strict idea of what it means to be a man. It is an age old fantasy of men to be with two women, far rarer to find women who have the same fantasy with two men.

I also think that women are more touchy feely generally, friendships and stuff tend to be huggy and they are far more likely to 'experiment' but that again goes hand in hand with the idea that its ok for women but not for men.

I also think it will be common to find more bisexulity claimed on BDSM sites because one people tend to be more sexually open, and two because its something that people desire. A submissive may feel the need to claim bisexuality to appeal to more Dominants.

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/6/2008 6:02:39 AM

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i identify as bi sexual in my profile, but as i don't identify as male or female it is kinda hard to speak about my sexual orientation with LGB-terms. Pansexual is a good, catchy term, or human friendly. i have dated with men, women and with people who are not either, that is why i chose the bi-slot.

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RE: Being Bi within this lifestyle - 11/6/2008 6:42:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

It seems that more females are bisexual them males...or am I wrong?

(just thinking uploud)

Perhaps but bi men excite me, especially when its a man on man power exchange

Next you are going to tell us that you like watching man on man porn.

I have a Female D friend who gets all glassy eyed and starts twitching when she talks about watching gay male porn. I even think I saw her nipples get hard once when she was describing a certain scene in a movie. LOL.

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