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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/19/2005 8:59:23 AM

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maybe i'll just home and sing to the numerous CDs i have, watch some Video On Demands or just sleep...i'm glad i stopped drinking years ago.

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/19/2005 10:31:00 AM

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Hello michael.

A good bottle of port or spiced blackcurrent if your not a drinker.
A good book.
A hot bath with bubbles.
Chocolates.
Watch 'Its a wonderful life'

So I am a girl... lol... but I believe men deserve the same pampering...

If You don't want to volunteer on a human level - how about on a farm or rescue centre? There is usually a great atmosphere and when I went, christmas dinner was all in and we had a great time! OK... so we got a liitle muck covered and smelly - but it was great afterwards.

Oxfam are doing great presents this year as well. You can do something for others and make it a gift to yourself. Anything from buying a camel to a percentage of a mango plantation. A small amount could even buy some trees to plant. It is a really positive step forward.
They are also at - PresentAid/ChristianAid

Go for a long walk... its amazing what the streets are like when know one is around. I usually find it is a great time to paint. You could buy some pencils and paper and do some sketching - I always find it very theraputic.

In the end - christmas is a pagan festival and not really anything to do with presents and giving in the commercial sense or family and friend gatherings in the 'christian' sense. You could always try and remember that and just realise its another day that will pass. Getting on with life is so much easier said then done when one is dealing with any kind of depression... it isnt always easy - but you either let it and them beat you down, or you take a deep breath in and ignore their negativity and find positive energy to feed from.
I do hope that you get to do that which you wish - let me know what you decided to do and take care.

Love and Peace and warm thoughts...

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/19/2005 10:57:25 AM

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i did my stint on a crisis line in San Diego. quit after i wasn't able to save a 16 year-old from shooting herself in the head with a .45. i still remember the whole thing like it was yesterday. her family came to me and told me that i did all i could, they didn't blame me for my failure...for that i am grateful, but it doesn't stop the guilt. i was even asked to attend the funeral. i won't go through that again.

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/19/2005 11:46:15 AM

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Hey, Michael

I'm sure you've gotten tons of email already about this thread, yet your words struck something for me, and I'd like to offer my 2 cents.

The volunteer suggestion sounds distasteful to you right now and I can understand that. I also have emotional issues when it comes to being around people who are in pain, sick, or otherwise in a bad way. The hook for me is that when I stop being selfish and thinking about how I feel, I can concentrate on giving small moments of joy in an otherwise unfortunate life. I checked your profile and I didn't see much in the way of service listed, but volunteering is a form of service.

Also, I was at a really low point in my life once. So low I didn't think I had anything to live for. I had the fortune/misfortune of being in an enviroment where people with REAL issues and problems were in my face. I couldn't hide behind my so called 'hard time' - these people were truly disadvantaged. That was my wake up call. I've not had a self-pity moment like that since then, and I'm grateful I got the chance to get some perspective before I got too far gone.

I'm not saying this to push you to do the volunteer thing. I'm saying it more in response to the negative reaction you had to other posters. Many people do understand where you're coming from, it's just that we've made it through to the other side.

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/19/2005 11:58:19 AM

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yes, i have. and i'm not going back, in any capacity. when i was hospitalized (several times) for my depression and attempted suicides (32 to date) they forced me to go to "group". this only strengthened my depression and suicidal tendancies. i won't do that again either.

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/19/2005 4:11:16 PM

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i did my stint on a crisis line in San Diego. quit after i wasn't able to save a 16 year-old from shooting herself in the head with a .45. i still remember the whole thing like it was yesterday. her family came to me and told me that i did all i could, they didn't blame me for my failure...for that i am grateful, but it doesn't stop the guilt. i was even asked to attend the funeral. i won't go through that again.

Well, from my point of view, do not think that volunteering at any centre or crisis point is for you and have not suggested it, which is why I suggested labour. Its good honest hard work for a good cause and gives you something to do rather than focus on negative behaviour, so I do not know where your comment comes from.

Lots of people have had terrible problems and face deep depression. The choice is yours whether you move forward or wallow. No one can save anyone from anything - and it is good to remember that being positive is a good step and not keep returning to old memories and negative thoughts. If you are not taking medication, then I would suggest you seek medical attention and urge you to do so. Whether you do that and move forward, or drown in pain is now up to you.

Take care with much Peace and Love

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/19/2005 4:55:14 PM

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dear Micheal-

This year I will include a long hot bath, with a glass or two of wine, a cigar and a good book, and if it doesn't snow, a long walk in the park across the street (where I never get around to exploring). If it does snow, I'll just stare out the window in disgust for an hour <g>.

That sounds yummy. But you know me, I'd enjoy a good hard storm. Walk and play in the snow in the park, then take the hot bath with the wine. <smile> Reminds me of snow angels.

This year I'm to go and visit family in the morning and for the evening meal. I've even bought a few modest presents and cards. It's the closest I've come to a 'traditional' christmas in over a decade. Someone left a huge poinsetta on my desk in my house - I've no clue who. It's quite lovely.

I'm going to be otherwise remodeling and unpacking over my holiday. I hope to be quite productive this year.

Ya know, I seem to remember one impromptu christmas that went quite well - and you were part of it! <smile> That was anything but traditional but still quite warm and endearing. I wonder if I have any pictures of that day stashed away.

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/19/2005 5:08:13 PM

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I really thought I'd recently said this and believed it was on this thread - but I don't see it here so I'll repeat it.

Who says you have to celebrate christmas? Who says you have to be alone if you don't want to be? I liked the idea about the clubs and such, too.

Throw a pot luck for any kinky people in your area that don't want to be the token single at other people's gatherings. I did that a few years back and we had a blast. It was low key but a blast none the less. I still have some cherished memories from that day.

It's OK to opt out, in fact it can be a down right pleasure to.

I would, however, point out another thing I've mentioned once or twice on these boards. Pain in life is inevitable, but suffering is optional.

No reason to suffer any day, christmas or otherwise, unless you choose to.

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/19/2005 5:31:26 PM

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Ya know, I seem to remember one impromptu christmas that went quite well - and you were part of it! <smile> That was anything but traditional but still quite warm and endearing. I wonder if I have any pictures of that day stashed away.

Madam-

Funny, I thought of that when I was reading this thread, too. It was a wonderful time we made, the whole sad lot of us <g>.

If you do have pics, I'd love to see them.

Stay warm,
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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/19/2005 6:22:11 PM

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If you do have pics, I'd love to see them.

Drat! I can't find them. I did run across the html invitation to the christmas dungeon warming sherri and I had at the old house. That was nice too.

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/19/2005 7:48:20 PM

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doctors have tried every anti-depressant, anti-psychotic, anti-this or that is on the current market today...they make me sleep all the time, but do nothing for depression...if sleep is the cure, then i'm all set for awhile with all the refills and such.

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/19/2005 10:36:56 PM

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. But if you read Michael's profile, you'll see he was just released by his Mistress; a traumatic event. i can empathise with his desire for recognition

Actually if I remember right he wanted to be released and asked the members on the board here how to get out of the relationship.

Still that can be truamatic even if one was the one asking release, instead of just being turned loose

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/19/2005 10:58:16 PM

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i did my stint on a crisis line in San Diego.

She's not telling you to be a crisis line she's telling you to CALL one if need be.

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/20/2005 2:10:34 AM

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Michael I'm sorry, it wasn't you, who started the thread on breaking up with your mistress and how to do it.

it was someone else and for some reason I got the posts mixed up.

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/20/2005 6:14:31 AM

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Your state and your town is filled with Katrina victims who have no choice but to be alone, they didn't ask to be separated and homeless, there are still thousands of lost children-- You are a human being on a planet with others--get off your butt, stop feeling sorry for yourself and give something back--

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/20/2005 6:16:32 AM

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At least spending Christmas alone cuts out the domestic arguments and give one time for some peace and quiet.

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/21/2005 11:22:22 PM

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i don't go looking to be a part of depressing situations as they "do" bring me down further. i don't watch the news, i don't volunteer for anything and i don't donate money to charities

You should stop looking down on people/their situations, and simply help them because they are human beings who need help and you have the strength and health to do it. Helping someone else's life really does become helping yourself become a better and more worthy human being, as well as infinitely more useful to the human race. Christmas is about love and generosity, so go and give of yourself! (sorry dominating you there

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/21/2005 11:29:18 PM

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how does my being depressed and brining everyone around me down in the process help others? also, i'm not looking down on others, i am saying outright that my being amoung them brings me down because i "cannot" change things for them nor do i have the power to to save everyone i meet.

with all due respect, if this doesn't make matters any clearer, then i do not know of any other way to make it as such.

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/22/2005 5:43:15 PM

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depressing holiday wohoo welsome to my life

yeah i feel you michael.. i know exactly what you mean....
depressing...helpless society.... never ending wars, fears, hunger, and all that BS... i think i have better things to waste my time with than that stuff that can never be changed.. its like "world peace" it will never happen.....

so screw alone holidays.. spend it like any other day at home...
if not, find a cool party or club Or hell with it even a strip club and have come fun....

A.S.

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RE: Spending Christmas Alone - 12/22/2005 5:51:49 PM

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cab't afford the cab fare or i would find a karaokee place and stay till closing

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