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wcj006400 -> Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 1:38:28 PM)

Hello anyone reading. I have a bit of a problem. i jus started talking to a female i met on here and she is switch i guess but very dom towards me. i have enjoyed the conversation, nothing real serious at all, but she insists she has been burned to many times and will not show a photo or talk on phone or anything. i would understand if all she wanted was online chat but she sys she wants more. this is uncharted waters fo me... but it kind of sets off a buzzer when someone is so closed. any thoughts?



colouredin -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 1:40:41 PM)

What 'more' does she want?



wcj006400 -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 1:42:07 PM)

talking about meeting and stuff like that after she gets to know me. but she keeps saying after she gets to know me. how do you get to know someone if you wont let yourself be out there a bit. 



colouredin -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 1:49:09 PM)

Personally I wouldnt meet someone without a photo, I also dont see how her being burned in the past would stop her sending a photo/making a call but not stop her meeting you, red flag to me to be honest.

If its simply that she isnt ready to talk on the phone YET then its up to you if you want to give it time or not



Lockit -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 1:51:24 PM)

I had a friend that got close to someone who would not send him a picture.  There was good reason for that.  When he saw her... he nearly lost it.  The phone number can be blocked and there are ways to get around that or even talk through messenger voice... but afraid to talk with a man who is serious or says he is... red flag to me.  What is her voice too deep?  Those who want certain pictures or certain conversations put aside... there is no reason for such secrecy unless someone has a secret in my book.

Trust and all that goes two ways.  I do however take my time before I get into more serious talks and phone, but once I figure out you won't be a problem for me, I go for the calls as I want to hear that voice and I surely want at least a picture.  If one is so afraid and untrusting... I would think this might carry on into other things.



LaTigresse -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 1:55:44 PM)

When I begin contact with someone online, they get very little personal info from me. But, as soon as I get a solid "feel" for them, they are either sent packing or I give them my name and phone number.



Usako -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 2:20:24 PM)

If she's interested in meeting face to face then, I think, she should be able to provide a pic and one day talk on the phone. I wouldn't meet anyone unless having seen a pic and speaking on the phone.



CatdeMedici -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 2:49:19 PM)

maybe "she" is a really hairy guy?



faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 2:54:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

maybe "she" is a really hairy guy?


hairy OLD guy.



LaTigresse -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 3:00:33 PM)

Or worse bald old guy with a big beer belly and hair growing out his ears and on his knuckles.



littlesarbonn -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 3:17:19 PM)

If I'm talking to someone and that person doesn't want to let me see her picture, I usually move on. It's really not worth my time to play games with someone, or have someone play games with me.



JillyBean -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 3:22:02 PM)

If you gave her a picture, she should give you a picture in return.
You aren't selling her pictures or anything are you?



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 3:34:05 PM)

I believe that you don't.

quote:

ORIGINAL: wcj006400

talking about meeting and stuff like that after she gets to know me. but she keeps saying after she gets to know me. how do you get to know someone if you wont let yourself be out there a bit. 



LadyPact -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 3:35:24 PM)

Actually, I'm more comfortable with sending the picture than the phone.  I do have what I think is a deeper voice, and My hearing isn't the greatest on the planet.  I'm also more likely to take someone else's number than give Mine.  If I do give Mine, it will always be the cell number, never the house.



Madame4a -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 3:45:33 PM)

My first thought is... "why is she here then" ... better to meet people other ways.. .beyond that, I find it very suspect... trust your instincts... there are plenty of open women out there.. willing to give as good as they get.. move on, perhaps?

ETA -  people with something to hide = something to hide.. probably not a good thing



wcj006400 -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 4:02:05 PM)

Thanks everyone... pretty much what i was looking for.



StrongSpirit -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 4:03:41 PM)

I have found three kinds of people on CM: 

1.  Those looking for an online only relationship. 
2.  Those that want a real life relationship but do not have the courage to do it.
3.  Those looking for a real life relationship.

If someone is not willing to talk on the phone or exchange a photo than they are not type 3.  They might want online only or they might not be ready for a real life relationship.

I know it is hard to do, but I think you need to forget about this woman and move on.



MsStarlett -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 5:49:46 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Or worse bald old guy with a big beer belly and hair growing out his ears and on his knuckles.


It's not nice to talk about PeonforHer that way! 

[:D]



MsStarlett -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 5:51:00 PM)

Actually, I have a sub male friend here that recently met a Domme without a photo.  Let's just say that it didn't go well.  As he said, he would have been happier dating one of Marge Simpson's sisters!



PsyVamp -> RE: Question about talking to People from Collarme (11/5/2008 6:30:15 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

When I begin contact with someone online, they get very little personal info from me. But, as soon as I get a solid "feel" for them, they are either sent packing or I give them my name and phone number.



My "process" is about the same.  I want to know about the person's likes and dislikes, I need to know about them a bit before I go for the phone contact.  sometimes this takes 2 emails and sometimes it takes 2 months worth of emails, depending on the conversation

Lady Jag



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