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MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 10:42:53 AM   
Ariella10


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Status: offline 		i am a slave to an absolutely wonderful Master.  i have never given him any reason to doubt my sincerity or chastity in the relationship.  However, we do live apart and are seeing each other less than what he would like. 
My question to Masters or Mistresses is this, do You, or have  You ever had any friends in this lifestyle check in to see if Your slave/subs are doing what they said they are?  No, i'm not paranoid or crazy, but i am just interested in the answers. i am new to this lifestyle and wish to know if this goes on or not? Oh yes, any slaves/subs ever had this type of experience? Thank-You to all who answer politely/kindly.
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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 10:48:09 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		I would be mad if Daddy had his friends checking up on me. His friends are not a part of our relationship and don't need to be dragged into it, by  being asked to "check up on me" Besides, that's Daddy's job, not his friends job.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 10:49:26 AM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		Uh, no.  If he doesn't trust me, then we have bigger problems.


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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 10:51:06 AM   
scifi1133


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Status: offline 		I have never nor feel I ever need to check up on my subs. Nor would I allow someone to be checking up on me.
I think some people tend to forget that these are still relationships and as such there should be trust.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 10:51:20 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Oh I would imagine that some do, however I do not. I trust my sub and do not doubt him. I do not check up on him, read his mail or anything else like that. I know that some Dominants view that as part of their "control", but I hold a different view. To me it is just insecurity and to ask someone outside of the relationship to keep tabs on the sub shows insecurity. Either that or the Dominant maybe questioning their own control over the sub? Hmm that could be it too.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 11:02:11 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		nope Daddy doesn't hire a "babysitter" to monitor my every move.  this is where established trust between us comes into play.

mho - sounds like your master doesn't have much trust in you which requires friends checking up on you.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 11:36:39 AM   
novabunny


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Status: offline 		Master has never felt the need to check up on this girl, i'd feel strange if Master felt the need to do so aswell.  Trust is a two way street and if Master didn't trust nova there would be underlying issues that needed to be addressed.
 
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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 11:50:02 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		If I fealt that I needed to check op on anyone in my collar, then I would be questioning myself about the validity og that collar and dynamic. If I expect both trust and respect then I must give trust and respect in return.

Now having said that, and approaching this from a different angle: Would I have anyone in my collar checked on to make sure that he, she or they had everything they needed, health was ok and their security was good and to verify that nothing was required (This would be the case if I was off galivanting about the globe or on a business trip)? Yes I would and do. Even when Neets is out late in her Nanny Business, it is quite common for a car to follow her at least part of the way and if needs be a car with an armed security detail would tag her all the way with comms direct to me. That is prudent and does not ever reflect on trust. It is my bounden duty to ensure the security nd safety of my home and family.


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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 12:20:51 PM   
MasterTslave


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Status: offline 		I think that is a major trust issue.  Your Dom/Master does not trust you or feels guilty and thinks you must be doing what He is doing.  Master T often checks in with me to see what I am doing to make sure I am happy and doing what he wants me to do for the day, but He TRUSTS me and would never come to "check up"

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 12:42:34 PM   
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Does the practice exist? I'm sure it does. And while I would probably agree that it could very likely be a red flag of trust issues, I have also seen subs/slaves on the forums talk about being tracked (knowingly) as very exciting. It could be a mutually fulfilling kink or it could be an insecurity. If it's happening your relationship, you'll have to decide which it feels to you.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 1:13:39 PM   
monywildcat


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Status: offline 		If Daddy had to be away for an extended period of time, I could see how a friend of his may pop in but it wouldn't be due to a lack of trust issue, it would be more just to see if I needed anything.  I can be incredibly closed about needing help, and I have to face it, there are times when I am going to need a man's help with something.  However, if the purpose is to check up on me, now that would just piss me off.  Of course I am going to be doing or not doing what I said I was doing, or not doing. 

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 1:51:32 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't accept strange people showing up unexpectedly. If he really has a kink about knowing where I am every minute of the day, then I would accept opening up the GPS on my cell phone so he could track me.

But the intent matters to me. If he's sending people by to take pictures because he gets off on me trying to decide what ice cream to buy in the store, that's a lot different then him not believing me when I tell him I'm going to the store and what flavor would he like to have here? I'll put up with more because it's a turn on than I will because he thinks I'm an untrustworthy bitch. If he really thinks that, then the relationship is already over, just not buried.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 3:17:36 PM   
Rover


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Status: offline 		This sort of thing isn't my cup of tea.  But only because I don't want to go to the time and trouble. 
 
It's tempting to portray this as a lack of trust, and truth is that may (or may not) be the case.  You'd have to ask what his motivation was to know for sure, and it's a crap shoot to presume.
 
Another explanation is that this is a long distance adaptation to a desire for micromanagement.  Again, not my cup of tea.  But for some folks, it's quite enjoyable.
 
In the end, you won't find any meaningful answers here.  His answer (and motivation) is the only one that counts.  And then you can decide whether that kind of dynamic works for you as well.
 
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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 4:20:15 PM   
VampiresLair


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Status: offline 		My mentor used to ask me to poke my head in on her boys when they were supposed to be doing her chores to make sure they are getting things done and not sitting around and chatting. Not exactly the same thing, though. They were under a time constraint and they were friends who had a habit of wandering off course conversationally and slowing down on their work. On a regular basis, she trusted them enough to be on their own.
I am often contacted by Masters and Mistresses, though, whos subs and slaves are traveling and who would like to have someone for their pets to check in with. I find it a bizarre concept to need to have your pet monitored that closely, seems like more work than its worth. I have Fox because he is capable of taking care of things when I am here and himself when I am not.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 4:29:38 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		perhaps I misread, but I didnt see the op say her master was doing this, just she was curious if it was a usual practice.

my response is in keeping with the previous ones:  I won't be checked up on.. if you dont trust me, then we're pretty much done.  If it's just to see if I need anything, fine, just don't make it intrusive.  I won't be doing any checking up on my partner, either.

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RE: MASTERS KEEP TABS ON SLAVES? - 11/6/2008 5:58:20 PM   
MarcEsadrian


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Ariella10

i am a slave to an absolutely wonderful Master. i have never given him any reason to doubt my sincerity or chastity in the relationship. However, we do live apart and are seeing each other less than what he would like.
My question to Masters or Mistresses is this, do You, or have You ever had any friends in this lifestyle check in to see if Your slave/subs are doing what they said they are? No, i'm not paranoid or crazy, but i am just interested in the answers. i am new to this lifestyle and wish to know if this goes on or not? Oh yes, any slaves/subs ever had this type of experience? Thank-You to all who answer politely/kindly.


A Master or Mistress will of course do as he/she wishes where it relates to managing slaves. Whether it's "what other people do" or not is immaterial actually, if he is in fact your Master; his desire is your accepted law, is it not?

As for me, I would tire of the need to constantly check up on a girl through other sources, and no doubt question my reasons for doing so along the way. Perhaps he simply enjoys monitoring you regardless of trust. Who knows? Only him.

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RE: MASTERS KEEP TABS ON SLAVES? - 11/6/2008 6:18:08 PM   
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RE: MASTERS KEEP TABS ON SLAVES? - 11/6/2008 6:36:16 PM   
Huntertn


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Status: offline 		well, I think doing that would just be a bore!!!!! If I want to know what she is up to I'll simple call and ask...

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 6:59:22 PM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		Having his friends check up on me is not something my former master ever practiced. As Des said, the intention behind such a practice would be interesting to know, if he did. If he did not trust me, I would likely become rather paranoid and uncertain of myself, knowing the way my personality is. If he did it because he was interested, or liked the idea of me feeling "watched", or any other reason, I would likely not bat an eye at it, in fact, I might find it kind of sexy.

As it was, he knew where I was all the time anyway. It wasn't something he required at first, it was simply something I did (notify him of my whereabouts and goings on) and he enjoyed it so it became an expectation of me, without issue.

The man I am spending time with now has no interest whatsoever in knowing my every move and I'm doing just fine with that. Then again, he is not my master, my owner, or even "my dom". But he is so laid back I think doing such a thing would torment him more than it would me.

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RE: MASTERS KEEPS TABS ON SLAVE? - 11/6/2008 7:18:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ultimately, it all comes down to what you've negotiated. Some would find the micro-managment and humiliation exciting. I think it matters where it's coming from though, whether it's just a fun aspect or an obession to have constant control.

Personally, it would drive me crazy.

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