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Theres a much shorter word for that

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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

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ORIGINAL: moonvine

Ha!  I love living alone soooo much, I could never see myself living with another person, and I've never even been married.  They could, however, live next door, that would be very convenient. 

'Funny how people see the world. To me, there's no use in working your knackers off when there's no one to share it with. Living alone has its benefits, of course, but they are vastly outweighed by the benefits of a committed relationship. Perhaps the difference in outlook is a matter of whether or not a person has had a few too many kickings. The trick for me is to find someone who shares my interests, and, yes, she has to have a certain amount of intelligence because I thrive on debate; reading books is not enough for me.

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ORIGINAL: moonvine

bliss, just bliss:)

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ORIGINAL: babygirlkitten

I also find it a need that the person I'm with, whether it be a vanilla relationship, kink, or otherwise, absolutely must match me in intelligence. I

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Oh that old chestnut about intelligence and education, two very highly overrated concepts.  My ex grew up in a world of ivory towers, the middle of Berkeley with a mother who is a well known and published poet and a father who was at the top of his field as well, with family of name and note all around.  I could go on but I don't wish to out her.

Prior to meeting her I always tended to feel more educated/worldly/well read than most of my peers.  I used to joke that I felt like a kid from the provinces around them.  However, they all adored me because I brought fresh perspectives, a keen insight, and a life very well and colorfully lived.  Not bad for a kid who dropped out of high school.  I even got approval from one of the aunts who tended to look down her nose at most people.

University educations do not make people interesting, enjoyable, or sadly, even literate.  Most of it is glorified vocational education.  I say that while attending one of California's better universities.  Intelligence, or at least IQ is similarly overrated and mine falls in the top 98%.  My ex, who is far smarter and vastly better educated and bred adored me because I made her feel safe, I made her feel desired, and we could talk about any subject except music.  Even art was something we could talk about despite my relative ignorance and the fact she had made a living as an artist.

I think more importantly than any of this is what you seek in a mate.  If you want to come home and discuss French literature or the latest in genetic advances over dinner, you better pick an academic or a scientist.  If you want to find someone which whom you can enjoy life outside of a single subject, there are far more important things to select for than intelligence.

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ORIGINAL: LydiaSciKitten

Therefore, my conclusion is that one can have some casual play with anyone, and even a less serious relationship does not require intellectual domination. But, in my opinion, anything nearing love or TPE in D/s can be fully enjoyed only if the submissive can feel the joy of being intellectually Dominated as well as the rest. Or else the use of the submissive by the Dominant will include actual mental manipulation, but a cheap copy of it, and to me the ability to, up to a point, mentally control is essential for a true relationship.

Actually... your education should tell you that given the extremely small sample you are working with, your conclusion should be that YOU are unable to have a TPE without being mentally overpowered by your dominant. To make a broader statement you need a larger sample.

I personally have no need for being mentally overpowered. Possibly because it's never happened and possibly because I'd much rather have a mental give and take. I don't need someone to be smarter than me to obey them, I just don't feel "Haha, I'm smarter I'm going to run circles around you because I can."

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I'm not saying leash pulls are bad or always a sign of insecurity, just that when people talk about "needing a stronger person" it usually is because they aren't internally inspired and relaxed.

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But, in my opinion, anything nearing love or TPE in D/s can be fully enjoyed only if the submissive can feel the joy of being intellectually Dominated as well as the rest. Or else the use of the submissive by the Dominant will include actual mental manipulation, but a cheap copy of it, and to me the ability to, up to a point, mentally control is essential for a true relationship.

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ORIGINAL: moonvine

bliss, just bliss:)

'You sure about that?  

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Isn't that kind of intelligence also emotion influenced?
I mean... how do you know he has the same intellect...it is more a feeling you have with him..not?

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

perhaps that is true (often it is).
Is some one intellegent in general..or can a person be intelligent on certain subjects?
I know intellegent people...when I talk about certain things...but they can look clumsy when I talk about other things...still they docters and architects.
An impression can be very wrong by times.

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
...I have learned in my many years that intellect does not always equate to pervyness and/or sensuality. However, it nice to know that a girl with average intellect can be a sensual and sexual genius. God bless all you sexy perverts.

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ORIGINAL: sravaka
3. I don't in the least conflate education with intelligence, as I said directly in the OP. I describe myself as "over-educated" largely because it's something I've found others get weirded out about, and I'm attempting to give them the chance to opt out quickly. Perhaps I need to rethink this, if it causes reactions like yours.