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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance
......  Of course my Gorean friends are NOT misogynistic, but don't tell them I said that.  Would ruin my fun.

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ORIGINAL: Rover
Now, what is it that one must decipher in order to achieve a standard by which they *are* Gorean?

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People will always be fascinated by Gor,

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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People will always be fascinated by Gor,

I will drop in on the Gor forum just to watch, especially when they have a go at each other.  Not so much fascinating as it is entertaining.

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ORIGINAL: DavanKael

Calla said:  The difference, I think, is that Gor isn't -about- the scening or lack of it, it's really focused on the day-to-day life stuff and on the particular Gorean philosophies of being true to oneself, and to one's responsibilities and commitments, at least philosophically.

My reply:  If this is what it's about, I simply must make it a greater priority to procure those books.  'Course, what you described also sounds like what I'd call living D/s as a way of life rather than an occasional roleplay. 
Davan

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Iron Bear said:  From a Gorean perspective, Honour, Integrety, Loyalty, Duty, Courage, Family, nature (and the conservation of nature) are key elements and the foundation of their being. Yet others also echo these values who are not Gorean per se.
Honour, Integrety, Loyalty, Duty, Courage, and Honesty are the mark of a MAN.  This is Gorean and yet there are many men who follow these creeds and are not Gorean.
A Gorean MAN will draw a line in the sand and stand that line to defend it with his life if needs be.

My reply:  According to these, I am a man who may be Gorean but biology says otherwise on the man piece and I don't know enough about Gor to claim that descriptor.  Thoughts? 
Davan

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ORIGINAL: colouredin
However even the people who are posting on here say that they dont 'follow' the books in a strict doctrine kind of way

but..what causes this conflict then...
I know it is not the books that cause it..... 

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19
I have never understood why someone would take books of fiction and turn them into a way of life. Although I suppose I shouldn't be suprised as people took other books and turned them into religions. As for myself, I have always lived outside of guidelines.

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ORIGINAL: colouredin

Firstly I do know that there is a specific Gorean forum, however I do think some people misunderstand the original purpose of that forum and I don't want to offend those that do It is not my intention to start a row or a discussion on my laziness want to ask for alls opinions Gorean people do tend to have very clear sets values which rocks, i always see the words honor and respect which are of course pretty good ways to live your life.

There is unfortunately an implicit divide between BDSM and them I think that is probably due to misunderstanding more than anything, I get that if a group of people feels as though they are only being attacked because of their beliefs they close ranks. Its common in most groups. I want to dispel some myths, I don't think that we are actually that different.

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ORIGINAL: MarcEsadrian

My only issue with the Gorean subculture is how it has become a sort of assigned official badge for anyone who rigidly believes in the natural right of male dominance and female submission. I believe it is inappropriate to label an authentic, Male-led relationship based in reality as "Gorean", unless the practitioners involved overtly claim to be. When building a profile, one need only glance at the available lifestyles interests list on this website to see an example of this confusion, where "Female Supremacy" is listed but "Male Supremacy" is not; instead we have "Gorean Lifestyle" as its insinuated corollary. This is an example of either willful or unwillful ignorance—or a subtle bias, in the very least.

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ts no different with Gor vs BDSM vs Old Guard vs Victorians.  The biggest difference between each is culture... customs and mannerisms... jargon and lingo... ways of doing the same basic things.  Some will defend those differences with great energy, and in such cases I would suspect that upon examination you would find that those individuals have connected who they see themselves as with that particular subculture... the stronger that connection, the more stridently they'll defend it.

None of this is uncommon or unusual... we humans are social creatures, we naturally tend to identify with groups, and identify others by groups.

Personally, I find it a far more interesting question to examine why someone is drawn to identify themselves with BDSM, Goreans, Victorians, Old Guard, etc.

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• Firstly, I posit that when se locate something which we can identify with on multable levels we should identify either with it or find a lable which defines our relationship with it. It is a natural thing we humans do in wanting and at times needing or being driven to belong to some group or another.
• Secondly I cite as an explanation for some, that if we, from either our history or study have experienced something which has made such an impression that it has left a profound mark on us, or excited us to the degree that we want to replicate it in some way, we may well desire to identify with that group, society or activity. certainluy is by doing so, we have a set of guidelines on how and what to do with the possible addition of well established protocols. All hopefully enrich our life and the lives oif those close to us.
  

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People have more of "a go at each other" on this side of the fence...the archives over here bear witness~

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 Home Stone, caste, and natural order (as defined in the series) are the foundations of being Gorean. the first two the majority of Goreans usually agree on and good discussions on expanding the understanding of them are often had. The last one is where many have points of contention, and differeing views, because they see the word natural and do not want to dig any further into the understanding of it based upon the series.

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  Any philosophy that espouses a "natural order" that is applied to all of mankind (as opposed to individual relationships) has an inherent sense of superiority.  That's unavoidable and self-evident, for gender superiority or Gor or anything that professes the same.