Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Physical needs ?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> Physical needs ? Page: [1] 2 3 4   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 4:31:08 PM   
missturbation


Posts: 8290
Joined: 2/12/2006
From: another planet
Status: offline 		We talk a lot about what we need from our relationships, not want, need. Usually the things we discuss are all on the side of feelings, emotional point of view. For example equality, equal rights, to be loved, needed etc etc.
But what about physically?
What do you need physically from your relationships? What do you feel you couldn't be in a relationship without?
 
Mine would be:-
 
Whips
Knives
Floggers
Kneeling
Painful sex

_____________________________

What you don't witness with your eyes, don't witness with your mouth. Proverb.

If it fit's in a toaster, i can cook it.

Buying 10 item's or less is not shopping !!
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 4:49:11 PM   
leadership527


Posts: 5026
Joined: 6/2/2008
Status: offline 		Hmmm, at a bare minimum and still be able to be happy in the relationship?  Probably nothing. 

_____________________________

~Jeff

I didn't so much "enslave" Carol as I did "enlove" her. - Me
I want a joyous, loving, respectful relationship where the male is in charge and deserves to be. - DavanKael

(in reply to missturbation)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 4:51:21 PM   
ShiftedJewel


Posts: 2492
Joined: 12/2/2004
Status: offline 		Physically? Hugs, I'm pretty sure I couldn't be happy with out hugging.
 
Jewel

_____________________________

Don't ask, trust me, you won't like the answer... no one ever does.

(in reply to leadership527)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 4:53:03 PM   
celticlord2112


Posts: 5732
Status: offline
quote:

What do you need physically from your relationships? What do you feel you couldn't be in a relationship without?

Touching certainly.  Touch is very important to me.
Kissing is imperative (helps that I'm a good kisser!)
Wild hairy monkey sex is a definite plus.



_____________________________



(in reply to missturbation)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 4:54:41 PM   
servantheart


Posts: 960
Joined: 10/26/2006
From: Houston, TX
Status: offline 		Kissing, cuddling, handholding, hugs...essentially intimacy. 
 
Kink-wise:
His dominance
Hand spankings
Paddlings
Beltings (or His chosen appropriate punishment when there is a lack of privacy) to remind me of my place when I forget
Forceful sex
Kneeling
Bondage
 
 

_____________________________

When you really trust someone, you have to be okay with not understanding some things.
~Real Live Preacher, Real Live Preacher weblog, 07-08-04; Anonymous author of RealLivePreacher.com

(in reply to missturbation)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 4:55:04 PM   
gypsygrl


Posts: 1471
Joined: 10/8/2005
From: new york state
Status: offline 		Food security, regular sleep, shelter and heat in the winter.  Seriously.  I've tried a relationship where none of that was a given and it didn't work so good.

I like pain etc, but its not a need.  Regular orgasms are.  I've found that out through experience too.  I can provide those myself, though.

I can't be emotionally secure unless I'm physically secure in the sense outlined above.

_____________________________

“To be happy is to be able to become aware of oneself without fright.” ~Walter Benjamin


(in reply to missturbation)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 5:00:22 PM   
everhope


Posts: 2179
Joined: 8/19/2007
Status: offline 		need...to be man handled.
 
want...breast torture, rough kisses, spanked, flogged, rough sex, throat assault, hugs, breath play, rope, licks, whipped, paddled, soft kisses.

_____________________________

may we all find our bliss

Resident VWB

We all die.
The goal isn't to live forever.
The goal is to create something that will.






(in reply to leadership527)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 5:19:06 PM   
OrionTheWolf


Posts: 7803
Joined: 10/11/2006
Status: offline 		You come up with some very good topics and questions. I applaud you for being introspective.

Mine would be:

Sex when and how I want it. It is usually very rough, sometimes painful, and I am a biter. My property loves this. There are times for tenderness, and I choose those times as well. Physical contact is necessary, and my property is usually on the floor at my feet, either laying with her head on them or one hand laying across them. At night when she sleeps at the foot of the bed, she curls a hand around one of my big toes and uses my feet as a pillow. When she sleeps beside me, it is at least a head lower in the bed and I pull her across me like a slave blanket.

_____________________________

When speaking of slaves people always tend to ignore this definition "One who is abjectly subservient to a specified person or influence."

(in reply to missturbation)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 5:22:11 PM   
Lordandmaster


Posts: 10943
Joined: 6/22/2004
Status: offline 		It's just not going to happen for me without doggie-style sex and halftime blowjobs.

(in reply to OrionTheWolf)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 5:25:17 PM   
kiwisub12


Posts: 4742
Joined: 1/11/2006
Status: offline 		Need   ....   to be touched.

everything else is up for negotiations

(in reply to Lordandmaster)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 5:25:24 PM   
VampiresLair


Posts: 1307
Joined: 9/3/2008
Status: offline 		Need for me is physical contact. Touching, snuggling, holding hands, lap sitting, sleeping curled up together, that sort of thing. Sex is the easy part, but the physical intimacy that ISNT related to sex is what I need. 

_____________________________

Separately we are DiurnalVampire and DVsFox

10/18 Wedding date. 1 year and still blissfully happy

10/13/10 3 year anniversary of his becoming my Fox

Talk impolitely to me, baby - Thanks sunshinemiss



(in reply to Lordandmaster)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 5:29:16 PM   
mc1234


Posts: 683
Joined: 10/4/2008
Status: offline 		Impact play with moderate to severe amounts of pain
Kissing
Rough sex
Hair pulling
Kneeling
Bondage
Serving him orally
Soft, easy lovemaking ... at least once a year to ensure my gentle side still exists. 

(in reply to missturbation)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 5:31:33 PM   
Padriag


Posts: 2633
Joined: 3/30/2005
Status: offline 		There are very few physical needs I require a slave to provide for, in general I provide for my own physical needs.  That leaves a pretty short list.  Sex, and more to the point... good sex... would be probably the most notable.

Most of the needs I have just aren't of the physical sort.

_____________________________

Padriag

A stern discipline pervades all nature, which is a little cruel so that it may be very kind - Edmund Spencer

(in reply to missturbation)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 5:34:07 PM   
Lordandmaster


Posts: 10943
Joined: 6/22/2004
Status: offline 		Pffft, all these self-pronounced football fans on Collarme and I'm still the only person who has mentioned halftime blowjobs.

(in reply to Padriag)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 5:36:04 PM   
DiurnalVampire


Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Sorry LaM, but I get nothing out of halftime blowjobs. Now, halftime quickies, 3rd quarter foot rubs... and of course the victory sex when my team wins... im all over it

_____________________________

I will be your Dominate if you will be my submit - Fox

Snarko Ergo Sum
If you cannot change your mind, how are you so sure you still have one? -proverb

*Owner of Fox - collared 10/13/07*
VampiresLair

(in reply to Lordandmaster)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 5:39:41 PM   
IrishMist


Posts: 7480
Joined: 11/17/2005
Status: offline
quote:

What do you need physically from your relationships? What do you feel you couldn't be in a relationship without? 
 

Quite honestly, Pain.

Physically, pain is the one thing that I must have in any relationship. And I am not meaning pain that comes from clamps, knife play, floggers, etc....I am  talking the kind of pain you get from kicking, punching, slapping, throwing...hard, brutal, severe pain.

_____________________________

If I said something to offend you, please tell me what it was so that I can say it again later.


(in reply to missturbation)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 6:45:43 PM   
DesFIP


Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		A lot of touching. Hugging, kissing, sitting in his lap, holding each other naked at bedtime. Those things are paramount.

Play stuff; ropes, gags, blindfolds. At that point anything he cares to do. I need to be fully used, to the point I'm worn out at least once every two weeks minimum or I get itchy for it and then my emotions start to seesaw from bitchy to weepy. A couple of times a week is wonderful but at least once every couple of weeks.

_____________________________

Slave to laundry

Cynical and proud of it!


(in reply to IrishMist)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 6:57:35 PM   
DavanKael


Posts: 3072
Joined: 10/6/2007
Status: offline 		Physical touch, emotional availability and reciprocity, communication. 
  Davan

_____________________________

May you live as long as you wish & love as long as you live
-Robert A Heinlein

It's about the person & the bond,not the bondage
-Me

Waiting is

170NZ (Aka:Sex God Du Jour) pts

Jesus,I've ALWAYS been a deviant
-Leadership527,Jeff

(in reply to DesFIP)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 7:04:04 PM   
SOsMINE


Posts: 28
Joined: 11/9/2008
Status: offline 		I would have to go with kissing A LOT of that.   Constant touching any where on my body and his body at any time.  Halftime blow jobs?  LOL  That's usually when I put out the real serious food for S O.  LOL

_____________________________

S O you want WHAT!!! yes S O as you wish
Graduate of SAU SmartAssUniversity

(in reply to DavanKael)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 7:09:05 PM   
hejira92


Posts: 2272
Joined: 10/27/2005
From: Palm Beach County, Fl
Status: offline 		My marriage was almost touchless and I live for touch, so I've learned the hard way what I need because I withered for so long without it.
 
I need hugs, random rubs, hand-holding, permission to caress Him at will, sudden breast squeezes, sitting on His lap, touching during discussions, and feeling His boot on my back as I kneel and kiss His feet. And I LOVE being unexpectedly grabbed and thrown against a wall to be bit, kissed roughly or grinded. I love being held down, tied up, pushed around, slammed in the ribs, shut up and fucked hard.
 
Yeah, we once tried to "make love" all soft and romantic. It lasted about three minutes before I was bored and begging for Him to slam into His c*nt and use His f*cking hole for what it was made for....
 
But I could not ever again be in a relationship without the non-sexual physical affection and the rough sex, with a side of pain, that I have now. And since Master always tells me that He's never letting me go, I guess I don't have to worry.

_____________________________

Property of Cuffkinks

Member:
The Pimpettes
MoGa's IN-Crowd

"You're the gleam in my eye, the smile on my face and the bulge in my pants" - Cuffkinks

(in reply to DesFIP)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2 3 4   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> Physical needs ? Page: [1] 2 3 4   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.125