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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 7:11:02 PM   
WhiplashSmile2


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Status: offline 		Hugs, kisses, holding hands, snuggling, holding each other, just basic loving physical affection.  Intimacy is the most important to me, and rough ass slapping/pounding wild kinky sex is the frosting on the cake for me. :-P

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 7:12:12 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		I need laughter, to be petted (touched) and to have an emotional/intellectual connection. 

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 7:22:11 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Half-time blow jobs are wonderful.  I'm also beginning to think that post-game sympathy fucks may be on my to-do list.  Unfortunately.

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 7:24:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		The physical needs that I have actually feed my emotional and mental needs.  I am not able to seperate these.  When we were long distance, the lack of physical touching and sex would drain me and I would have a hard time maintaining a positive mindset. 

Having my physical needs for sex and intimacy met on a regular basis helps me keep my energy levels up and emotionally on an even keel.  Sex and touch are what I need.

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 10:16:23 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		These days halftime is so long that there just might be time for both.

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Halftime blow jobs?  LOL  That's usually when I put out the real serious food for S O.  LOL

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 10:33:07 PM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: missturbation

What do you need physically from your relationships?  


Something around my throat, whether it's his hands or a tight dog collar or chain.
I enjoy touching him anywhere I can feel skin.
Fucking
A feeling of being marked
His hands touching me in any way he wants
biting


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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 10:40:48 PM   
marie2


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Status: offline 		I need to get fucked... really hard...up the ass.

I'm easy like that.

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 11:17:21 PM   
NorthernGent


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Status: offline 		I'd pass on a relationship without basic loving physical affection.

I like knives and cutting but I could get by were it not included.

I could quite easily go the rest of my life without a blow job - not a problem.

I like force involved - biting, hair pulling, face slapping, throat assault, restraints - and I would struggle in a relationship were these not involved. In fact, I'm as happy as a pig in shit when running around like the Boston Strangler and doing some damage (though all in the spirit of consent). Anal does feature in this, but it's not the main event.

In sum, rough and sadisitic but with a sprinkling of love and consideration.........there's a time and a place for everything!

That's the way it stands at the moment, but I'm sure there'll be something else in there in a couple of years time.

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/9/2008 11:19:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

I could quite easily go the rest of my life without a blow job - not a problem.



No way!

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/10/2008 5:28:49 AM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		touch is the only physical need I have...... and even with that.... I don't need much of it... but I want lots of it.

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/10/2008 5:30:39 AM   
KnightofMists


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ORIGINAL: marie2

I need to get fucked... really hard...up the ass.

I'm easy like that.


well... I don't think your so easy....I been trying to get there for Months.... and I can't seem to reach *w*

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/10/2008 5:51:13 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Half time blow jobs? Nah, he'd fall asleep and miss the second half!
Besides the moment half time comes, he expects food to show up.

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/10/2008 6:24:05 AM   
pinkwind


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Status: offline 		Having sat and made a list off the top of my head i sat and looked at my words for a while and then scrubbed them out.

Everything i had written were wants and expectations rather than needs. So i have rethought this and found only one real need, something that has been with me all my life.

The touch of skin on skin, to feel connected.


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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/10/2008 6:41:04 AM   
JustDarkness


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Status: offline 		Simple things like a arm around me..or sleeping with my head on their lap...
(and sex in the way I tell her...but that mostly happens anyway..)

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/10/2008 6:53:16 AM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		Touch, I am a really touchy-feely person. Laughter, Master and I make each other laugh every single day. I would have said sex and spanking, but various physical ailments and outside distractions (death of a parent etc) have meant that I haven't been spanked in aeons and even sex has been pretty rare! My love is undiminished but I admit to feeling a bit antsy! Ideally I need all of the above for both My Dominant side (with a sub) and my sub side (with Master). I'm a bit short at the moment

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/10/2008 6:53:47 AM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		Touch is huge for me and is why I am exploring poly although there I think it will be one of those things that once I become comfortable with it, I might not want to go back.  That said I was wondering if I could give up random touching but no cuddling or if cuddling was more important to me than touch.

I think not being able to cuddle at night with someone would be harder for me that not being touched by them during the day.  So if I had to boil it down to the most minimal it would be cuddling.

Rough sex, anal rape, and the rest just seem to be a given to me, as in sort of a "who doesn't" sort of way.  Okay, I am trying not to play one upmanship.  They have lesser emotional value to me and at my core my emotions are more important to being happy than sex although they all of course play their happy part.  But those are things I could compromise on HOW they were met, anal rape might become anal lovemaking, rough sex might not leave bruises and welts, but cuddling, oh my god that is important to me.

I guess because I feel we at our most intimate, exposed, and truest when we go to sleep, the masks are off, there is no pretense and so if love (which to me is a very physical language) is shown by sliding up against me and snuggling in my strong arms then I it sinks deeper into my core. 

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/10/2008 7:02:13 AM   
missturbation


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Food security, regular sleep, shelter and heat in the winter.  Seriously.  I've tried a relationship where none of that was a given and it didn't work so good.

I hadn't even considered the above. I guess i just take for granted they are a given.
 
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You come up with some very good topics and questions. I applaud you for being introspective.

Thank you
 
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At night when she sleeps at the foot of the bed, she curls a hand around one of my big toes and uses my feet as a pillow.

You had me confuzzled for a bit here. Couldn't work out how your property could do that from the floor. Doh me
 
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I am  talking the kind of pain you get from kicking, punching, slapping, throwing...hard, brutal, severe pain.

This kind of pain is still only a want for me but it's growinf mighty close to being a need.
 
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Yeah, we once tried to "make love" all soft and romantic. It lasted about three minutes before I was bored and begging for Him to slam into His c*nt and use His f*cking hole for what it was made for....

Lol, i've been there.
 
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The physical needs that I have actually feed my emotional and mental needs.  I am not able to seperate these. 

Thinking on that i would assume (for me at least) that they both feed each other. The motional  feeds the physical, the physical feeds the emotional.
 
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These days halftime is so long that there just might be time for both.


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Halftime blow jobs?  LOL  That's usually when I put out the real serious food for S O.  LOL

I tend to find if you have the food all  ready before the match so it's ready to just to be brought out, there is definately time for both.
 
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Something around my throat, whether it's his hands or a tight dog collar or chain.

Can't believe i missed that one of my list !
 






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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/10/2008 7:15:46 AM   
marie2


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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists


well... I don't think your so easy....I been trying to get there for Months.... and I can't seem to reach *w*


Oh, you have no idea....

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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/10/2008 7:20:14 AM   
missturbation


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RE: Physical needs ? - 11/10/2008 7:41:17 AM   
RainydayNE


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ORIGINAL: everhope

need...to be man handled.
 
want...breast torture, rough kisses, spanked, flogged, rough sex, throat assault, hugs, breath play, rope, licks, whipped, paddled, soft kisses.


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ORIGINAL: hejira92

My marriage was almost touchless and I live for touch, so I've learned the hard way what I need because I withered for so long without it.
 
I need hugs, random rubs, hand-holding, permission to caress Him at will, sudden breast squeezes, sitting on His lap, touching during discussions, and feeling His boot on my back as I kneel and kiss His feet. And I LOVE being unexpectedly grabbed and thrown against a wall to be bit, kissed roughly or grinded. I love being held down, tied up, pushed around, slammed in the ribs, shut up and fucked hard.
 
Yeah, we once tried to "make love" all soft and romantic. It lasted about three minutes before I was bored and begging for Him to slam into His c*nt and use His f*cking hole for what it was made for....
 
But I could not ever again be in a relationship without the non-sexual physical affection and the rough sex, with a side of pain, that I have now. And since Master always tells me that He's never letting me go, I guess I don't have to worry.




i'll just say somewhere between both of those =p
i love cuddling, especially since he's so much bigger than i am :) it's like .... ahhhh i dunno :) it's nice
though i will say, i don't always need it to be rough and hurty and hitty, if he doesn't feel like doing that, that's fine with me :)

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