Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: Slut What does it denote for you?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Slut What does it denote for you? Page: <<   < prev  2 3 [4] 5 6   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 11:55:43 AM   
CelticPrince


Posts: 3613
Joined: 4/15/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19


quote:

ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

quote:

ORIGINAL: StrtbkNamdDesire

The word slut is usually used to keep a woman's sexuality in check. Only recently have men been called 'sluts' as well (i'm talking about mainstream vernacular), but the implications and derogatory meaning are not the same. It's used in dirty talk because it still connotes a taboo... the taboo of promiscuity and openness. I don't use it and cringe when people use it during play/sex, thinking it'll turn me on or make me feel 'like a bad girl.'
























The only time I will use 'slut' is in humor, with a modifier before it. (moto-slut, shoe slut, purse slut, etc... meant in the way of 'major lover of X')


SND,

I promise I will never call you a slut! that being said, why does the word get associated with "dirty" talk?

CP


Cause us sluts love it when you whisper it in our ear!


*bends over slowly and with moist lips whispers dirty slut into the ear of lucious! / slips away with a smile!

CP

(in reply to lusciouslips19)
Profile   Post #: 61
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 11:59:22 AM   
CelticPrince


Posts: 3613
Joined: 4/15/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

before i was kinky - slut was a bad word. being raised in a staunch Catholic and Baptist surroundings, i was raised to be chaste.

after kinky - it's still a bad word however depending on who's saying it. if it's Daddy calling me a slut, it's a term of endearment.  if it's someone else, get ready for a tongue lashing.

edited to add: my pet loves being called slut ...it's a form of degradation he enjoys along with other words such as sissy, pathetic human, whore


lilgirl,

damn I am confused by the edit! who is who?

CP

(in reply to sambamanslilgirl)
Profile   Post #: 62
RE: Slut. What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 12:03:02 PM   
CelticPrince


Posts: 3613
Joined: 4/15/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MarcEsadrian


quote:

ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

I have been away from the boards for awhile due to business travel and as I normally attempt to keep up with the mix of new folks coming on to the CM path I causually review the profiles of newcomes. Upon doing so I read a profile of a lady that presented a thome on being a "slut" from many angles.
Since I use the term in my profile, it brought to mind the chance that over the last few years the meaning has morphed into an new understanding.

Marc,

Phew!
Reaching for a dictionary!!! A very complete educational paragraph tho.

CP

Whats your thoughts on the interpretation be ye "D" or "s"?


"Slut" is a word that has undergone a considerable amount of social revision and invention over the centuries. While its ultimate origins seem a little unclear, it's generally clear that today "slut" is a moral term, though it changes flavor depending upon which sex is using it and why. I generally understand the term to mean a female who mates with other males far less discriminately than her peers or the established norm for female standards in these matters—of course opening up a discussion of semantics, subjectivity and relativity. The word is often derogatory in use, but modern female-positive sexual politics often seems to fashion it as a woman (usually) who is liberated in her debauchery—sexual or otherwise.

(in reply to MarcEsadrian)
Profile   Post #: 63
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 12:15:25 PM   
CreativeDominant


Posts: 11032
Joined: 3/11/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: StrtbkNamdDesire

The word slut is usually used to keep a woman's sexuality in check. Only recently have men been called 'sluts' as well (i'm talking about mainstream vernacular), but the implications and derogatory meaning are not the same. It's used in dirty talk because it still connotes a taboo... the taboo of promiscuity and openness. I don't use it and cringe when people use it during play/sex, thinking it'll turn me on or make me feel 'like a bad girl.'

The only time I will use 'slut' is in humor, with a modifier before it. (moto-slut, shoe slut, purse slut, etc... meant in the way of 'major lover of X')


Funny how one word can cause such disagreement and strong feelings...

I am with LA on this one:  a slut is a woman or a man who is open about their sexuality and celebrates it and readily admits that they enjoy the exploration of their sexuality...whether it be with one partner, several or many. 

I'll even go a bit further and state this:  just because someone is a slut does NOT mean they will have sex with anyone.  Celebrating your sexuality and wanting to embrace it with those you are attracted to and that wish to embrace their own sexuality with you while NOT wanting to embrace it with just anyone who comes along makes you a discriminating slut.  They are still a slut but a slut who's sexuality...including the choice as to who to share it with...remains with them or, with consent, their Master/Mistress.

(in reply to StrtbkNamdDesire)
Profile   Post #: 64
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 2:52:03 PM   
silkncarol


Posts: 318
Status: offline
I always thought SLUT meant ... Sexually Liberated Uninhibited Temptress?!?!?!!! 

I am, and i like it!

_____________________________

We attract hearts by the qualities we display. We retain them by the qualities we possess.

Shoes can change your life................. Cinderella

(in reply to atypicalsub)
Profile   Post #: 65
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 4:47:26 PM   
CelticPrince


Posts: 3613
Joined: 4/15/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

quote:

ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

I have been away from the boards for awhile due to business travel and as I normally attempt to keep up with the mix of new folks coming on to the CM path I causually review the profiles of newcomes. Upon doing so I read a profile of a lady that presented a thome on being a "slut" from many angles.
Since I use the term in my profile, it brought to mind the chance that over the last few years the meaning has morphed into an new understanding.

Whats your thoughts on the interpretation be ye "D" or "s"?

Bear,

Thanks for the comparison but how did whore get into the question?

CP

CP


For me and in my homnr, a slus of both a tearm of endearment and a destription of what a girl does in mych the same way as we use the term whore.

SLUT: A girl who will strip off her clothes as far as she is ordered by her Master and will do so when, where and before whom according to my wishes. She will wear her clother more sexually provocably manner then is the custome of other slaves and may if I so desire allow selected gurets to explore or handle her intimately to a level I predetermine (eg handle her breasts). She will also be prepared to service me sexually on demand and if I desire so, in public or before others.

WHORE: is first of all a slut and will be prepared to sexually service both males and females I designate from complete sexual acts to giving head either in private or in public or before an audience. Traditionally, those using the girl for sexual pleasure would have negotiated a price (cash or other) with me in advance and thus the girl would be "a coin girl"..


(in reply to IronBear)
Profile   Post #: 66
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 4:49:46 PM   
CelticPrince


Posts: 3613
Joined: 4/15/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: theobserver

I don't like the word, but I use it a lot for work. I don't think I need to overanalyze it or explain why.


observer,

Might you be in the adult movie industry?

CP

(in reply to theobserver)
Profile   Post #: 67
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 4:52:06 PM   
CelticPrince


Posts: 3613
Joined: 4/15/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: babyeyemyours61

Yes the word Slut use to sound so dirty to me. But when you become the naughty girl in your mans room,,,,,,,mmmmmmm I desire so much to be his slut!!!!!!! Also another word I use to hate and that is the word Cunt,,,,,But now lol,,,,,I love it when he slides his hard throbbing Cock into my sweet juicy CUNT! lol Hope I didnt offend anyone.


baby61,

I doubt you upset anyone; and I am pleased that your word tolerance has expanded.

CP

(in reply to babyeyemyours61)
Profile   Post #: 68
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 4:57:29 PM   
marie2


Posts: 1690
Joined: 11/4/2008
From: Jersey
Status: offline
There are certain circumstances under which I might feel ok with being called a slut (or a whore) but it's a rare frame of mind for me.  It also doesn't bother me when it's used (or I use it) in humor.

To me, the word slut brings to mind a female who is promiscuous and who will fuck anything that moves for nothing more than the sake of fucking.  I realize a lot of women feel that the term slut simply means that they are uninhibited enough to enjoy sex without guilt or shame.  But I don't process the word that way.

(in reply to CelticPrince)
Profile   Post #: 69
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 5:11:19 PM   
lronitulstahp


Posts: 5392
Joined: 10/17/2007
Status: offline
quote:

There's a book most of you have probably not read, called Fear of Flying by Erica Jong.  It's about a woman who takes joy and pleasure from her sexuality without giving a *crap* about what anyone else thinks.  I will always love that phrase in the book, *the zipless f**k*.

Pretty much any woman i know, kinky or otherwise, has read that book.  it's actually pretty widely known.
------------------------------------------------
As far as slut goes, i'm pro-slut.  i love to be called "slut". i love to do slutty things, and to be taken and used as a slut, whore, filthy thing.  For me, during about 80% of sexual activities, it's the frame of mind i enjoy most.  And when i am being slutty....the lines become blurry, reality seems more dreamlike, all those things that make me at times pretentious and guarded....they fall away, and i become just a sexual being.  And it is freeing, and amazing...and not possible for me without the slut mentality.
 
~phatslutinorl

< Message edited by lronitulstahp -- 11/14/2008 5:12:03 PM >


_____________________________

Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for." -Bob Marley

(in reply to candystripper)
Profile   Post #: 70
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 5:14:52 PM   
Aynne88


Posts: 3873
Joined: 8/29/2008
Status: offline
What an odd thought candy. Erica Jong is one of the reigning writers on women and sexuality and "Fear of Flying" is probably one of the most well known books for decades now, why would you assume that most of "us" have not read it? I read it ohh I guess fifteen years ago and I believe the majority of my girlfriends and most women I know have too.

Anyway, as to the OP, I do not like the word slut, I hate when used by women to demean women, and if anyone besides Master ever called me that I would rip their eyes out. Just sayin'  Oh and even when He says it it starts with a "My"and usually a fistful of hair. That of course is incrediby hot.  


quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper

There's a book most of you have probably not read, called Fear of Flying by Erica Jong.  It's about a woman who takes joy and pleasure from her sexuality without giving a *crap* about what anyone else thinks.  I will always love that phrase in the book, *the zipless f**k*.
 
I find the tv show 'Sex and the City' to be the same.  Four women, with differing attitudes about sex, exploring the wide, wide world.  If you haven't seen it, you might like it.
 
I suppose the word 'slut' could be a woman's way of reclaiming her right to act as she chooses in the sexual realm.  One of these days I'll have to read The Ethical Slut
 
candystripper 


_____________________________

As long as people will shed the blood of innocent creatures there can be no peace, no liberty, no harmony between people. Slaughter and justice cannot dwell together.
—Isaac Bashevis Singer, writer and Nobel laureate (1902–1991)



(in reply to candystripper)
Profile   Post #: 71
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 5:21:41 PM   
Lordandmaster


Posts: 10943
Joined: 6/22/2004
Status: offline
In high school the definition was simple: A slut is a girl who will let you fuck her even if you already have a girlfriend.

Fortunately we're not in high school anymore.

(in reply to atypicalsub)
Profile   Post #: 72
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 5:29:27 PM   
Scheherazade


Posts: 41
Joined: 11/17/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
This also helped me in that I realize so many people (women especially) find it hard to be “a slut.” They can embrace being “someone’s slut” or being a loved slut, but find it difficult to be bald-facedly an open slut. So by keeping things to a personal attitude level, it doesn’t matter HOW the person acts as a slut…simply that they embrace their slut attitude.

In short:
slut- someone who has an active interest in sex, sexuality and celebrates it openly (does not imply any ACTUAL sex, or any AMOUNT of sex)

Daddy told me that he believes that most not all, but most women have that 'inner-slut' inside of them that can come out but with the right man, or woman. Once felt with that person, it can and should be a real pleasure.

(in reply to LuckyAlbatross)
Profile   Post #: 73
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 5:58:31 PM   
loveandlight87


Posts: 110
Joined: 2/27/2008
Status: offline
CelticPrince - You are most welcome.  And thank you!

candystripper - I actually just finished reading "The Ethical Slut".  Could hardly put it down.  But, like you surmised, I haven't heard of "Fear of Flying".  It's going on my 'to read' list!

Silkncarol – “I always thought SLUT meant ... Sexually Liberated Uninhibited Temptress?!?!?!!!" **  Love that!!

(in reply to CelticPrince)
Profile   Post #: 74
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 6:50:28 PM   
WhiplashSmile2


Posts: 526
Joined: 6/11/2008
Status: offline
Slut can be a very wonderful name or an extremely bad name.  All depends upon the context and how it's used.  :-P

(in reply to CelticPrince)
Profile   Post #: 75
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 8:17:15 PM   
elfette


Posts: 3
Joined: 12/4/2007
Status: offline
Personal slut definition, for the one I serve I am his slut, to please and play in any matter wished with complete abandon, free to experience all, nothing forbidden, nothing beyond reason if it is pleasing.to him

(in reply to atypicalsub)
Profile   Post #: 76
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 8:18:37 PM   
theobserver


Posts: 456
Joined: 8/18/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

quote:

ORIGINAL: theobserver

I don't like the word, but I use it a lot for work. I don't think I need to overanalyze it or explain why.


observer,

Might you be in the adult movie industry?

CP


They should be so lucky, they could use a bit of creativity in their ... um ... art. However, I think, talking and actually acting (well) is not really the point.


_____________________________

It is left up to the reader to decipher & determine this post's validity.


(in reply to CelticPrince)
Profile   Post #: 77
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 8:50:41 PM   
slavegirljoy


Posts: 1207
Joined: 11/6/2006
From: North Carolina, USA
Status: offline
What slut means to me:
 
SLUT is my alter ego. It’s being sexually uninhibited and having unlimited enjoyment of all things sexual, without having any negative feelings associated with it.  Because my Master requires me to be His slut, my alter ego is set free and i am able to be sexually uninhibited with Him and with anyone He chooses.
 
With my master, i am a:
Shameless
Lustful
Unabashed
Tart
 
joy
Master David's voluntary erotic-domestic slave
 
 

_____________________________

Don't ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive. ~Dr. Howard Thurman

(in reply to CelticPrince)
Profile   Post #: 78
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 9:19:05 PM   
CelticPrince


Posts: 3613
Joined: 4/15/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: marie2

There are certain circumstances under which I might feel ok with being called a slut (or a whore) but it's a rare frame of mind for me.  It also doesn't bother me when it's used (or I use it) in humor.

To me, the word slut brings to mind a female who is promiscuous and who will fuck anything that moves for nothing more than the sake of fucking.  I realize a lot of women feel that the term slut simply means that they are uninhibited enough to enjoy sex without guilt or shame.  But I don't process the word that way.


marie2

Ok How do you process it?

CP

(in reply to marie2)
Profile   Post #: 79
RE: Slut What does it denote for you? - 11/14/2008 9:47:43 PM   
marie2


Posts: 1690
Joined: 11/4/2008
From: Jersey
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

quote:

ORIGINAL: marie2

There are certain circumstances under which I might feel ok with being called a slut (or a whore) but it's a rare frame of mind for me.  It also doesn't bother me when it's used (or I use it) in humor.

To me, the word slut brings to mind a female who is promiscuous and who will fuck anything that moves for nothing more than the sake of fucking.  I realize a lot of women feel that the term slut simply means that they are uninhibited enough to enjoy sex without guilt or shame.  But I don't process the word that way.


marie2

Ok How do you process it?

CP


I process it as I stated above (highlighted red).  In other words, that's my association with the word slut.  It reflects off my brain as a pejorative term. 

(in reply to CelticPrince)
Profile   Post #: 80
Page:   <<   < prev  2 3 [4] 5 6   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Slut What does it denote for you? Page: <<   < prev  2 3 [4] 5 6   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.105