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Lynnxz -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 12:23:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MAMandSlave Work is specified as her employment. She does bdsm modeling. Well... you'd have to go a bit further into detail here... what does she need training in? Did you send her to cosmetology school or something? I don't think that sending her to photoshoots could really be considered training, and I'm not sure what else she would need.

monywildcat -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 12:27:43 PM)
If this was training specific to her employment, then I can see how it's not unrealistic to depend on someone else to handle this training. If I needed more training, say in sales skills or advanced database design, then Daddy is definitely not going to able to help me. If it is directly related to BDSM, kink, whatever, and is going to be something we implement in our relationship, then no way in hell is Daddy going to farm me out somewhere else. If he is not well versed in _____, then we will learn together.

ResidentSadist -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 12:28:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MAMandSlave ... Have any other masters had this sort of experience and what was your reaction to it. I was at the end of my only foray in monogamous relationships and very busy building my company and factory. I was seeking a new slave and didn’t have time to mess around. They held a 3 day long bash at a Domme’s dungeon to introduce me to all the local prospects. In that time I met a slave that I was extremely attracted to. But, she had not been trained and I had spent so many years buried 10 layers deep in the leather lifestyle, I found her manners, or lack thereof, insulting. Before I took her, I had her collar to a Domme for 90 days training. The Domme and I saw protocol from the same perspective so it was a very positive thing for me. For me, the “slave in waiting” was learning the basic things I wanted her to know and it wasn’t taking up my time to teach her. The time I would spend grooming her would be for my personal tastes, not the elementary protocols and perspectives of a slave. My reaction to it all was very positive. We went on to have nice relationship for several years that would not have otherwise been possible. Although your situation is different in many ways, I hope the positive aspects of your experience are as constructive as mine were. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I see people want details - The “slave in waiting” did not work fulltime. She was a freelance writer. I paid for her utilities, rent etc. We visited on the weekends during her training. Often these visits included a party with friends at the Mistress’s dungeon. At the party my “slave in waiting” would display the things she learned that week. This started a sort of ‘workshop’ among a few slave girlfriends and often the weekend parties included a small passel of slaves displaying their various talents.

honeygirl -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 12:32:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MAMandSlave Work is specified as her employment. She does bdsm modeling. I'm really confused by this. Perhaps BDSM modeling is more materially different from regular modeling than I could ever have imagined! Will you please let us know more about (for lack of a better word) the curriculum for training necessary in BDSM modeling? Also, for how long did/does she have to train?

MAMandSlave -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 12:58:03 PM)
thank you SlaveIndegochild. I am very fortunate to have her and know how lucky I am. Realistically most of her obediance comes from her natural temperment, not from the guidance I have given her.

eri -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:07:19 PM)
Out of 20 odd replies, only one dominant saw fit to actually answer the question without requiring "more information". Why does it matter that it would not work for -you- and yours? Are either of you in the relationship with Mamandslave? No ... Hmm, ok. Why does it matter what the training pertained to? What does any of that have to do with the question asked? Sheesh. I am not a Master but I have undergone training. It was a good experience. Given the opportunity, I would likely do so again. Obviously it isn't for everyone and thats fine. It doesn't have to be. It might be easier for you to deal with not having direct control over her during this time by imagining all the fun skills she will develop and of course, come home with.

MAMandSlave -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:10:34 PM)
It is a 4 days of training meeting the goals set forth in the beginning. The obeject is of course to document a training process on video. But for it to be realalistic, it is best if it is real.

mistoferin -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:13:06 PM)
Thank you....that was about as clear as mud. I'm sorry but I really can't formulate a response.

MAMandSlave -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:14:08 PM)
Thank your reply of your experience eri. I have been working hard to imagine how he is dealing with her.

Lynnxz -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:16:50 PM)
Oh! A porn? I have never seen them as much of a training process, but I can imagine it being stressful for you the first time. Best of luck!

Mercnbeth -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:29:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MAMandSlave It is a 4 days of training meeting the goals set forth in the beginning. The object is of course to document a training process on video. But for it to be realistic, it is best if it is real. so, will the video be for you/your girl to keep as a memento of her training process, or is it's future to be marketed and sold to the general public as BDSM porn? Edited to add by Merc: Just a guess, but hearing the description I think he's sent her to the Kink.com site; specifically to the 'Story of O' section. http://www.thetrainingofo.com/site/shoots.jsp?c=1 They do a pseudo-documentary approach in the production showing the process of training. The slave is compensated in cash for the week and the result, video & pictures, is available for paid subscribers on-line. Training 'goals' and 'progress reports' are published. Usually each day of training appears as a new 'update'. I think one of our friends and prior house guests did this. It sounded like an interesting experience. If nothing else it is a new and interesting approach to a BDSM porn shoot. The participants are good looking and give a good accounting for the scenes. Unlike many other sites, it looks like the people involved are 'into' it; as well as making some money. Good for them! I don't know how much "training", outside the 'pro' production aspect one would get from the experience. Who knows - Maybe this thread is a thinly disguised ad campaign.

colouredin -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:37:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tied2bteased Actually, I think in some cases this can be a good thing. In my opinion many times the Dominant gets emotionally involved to the point where they are not able to give the kind of discipline and structure to the submissive she craves. Yes, as long as the trainer and Dominant work together; this sounds like a good thing. This is one of the saddest things ive read in a long time ive gotta say. You are with a person in a relationship surely you have to work everyones needs into that relationship? To the OP, I am with the others on not having a clue what you are talking about. I see 'training' as bnificial when teaching specific protocol like kneeling etc and for Dominants in teaching techniques. Other than that I am always at a bit of a loss as to the point

MAMandSlave -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:42:45 PM)
It is a particular type of porn shoot.

teensub -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:43:53 PM)
the training of O video?

colouredin -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:45:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: teensub the training of O video? Thats what I figured. My bloke loves that

Lynnxz -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:45:54 PM)
Ah well, the Kink.com guys are good people from what I hear, she should have fun. ;) (Just avoid the Insex crew)

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:53:35 PM)
I find it amazing the number of s-types who would get bent out of shape if they were sent to a trainer. As part of my work, I spend about 15 hours a month in training for different things... now my bosses are really intelligent people, but sometimes, there are things that one needs to learn that the immediate supervisor can't or won't teach, for any number of reasons. Sometimes, it's good to just get a different perspective on things. When in training before I earned my crop, I spent about two weeks over the course of 4 years learning specific skills, and spent 3 months in French cooking school honing my culinary, pastry, chocolate, and sugar-working skills to suit the fancy of my keepers... even though I will NEVER use it for anything other than feeding our family, friends, and probably some of my more daring co-workers. Specifics about how I want things in our home handled are, of course, going to be things that I will want to teach, but I would have no compunctions about sending someone to a trainer to learn specific arts or even basic skills that I could later refine with my preferences-- proper cleaning techniques for marble, wood, ceramic tile, enamel; tea service; cooking skills; leather care; massage; dance; written-word skills; public speaking; editing and grammar; foreign languages; reptile care and feeding; decorating techniques... I can think of a hundred different things that I might send someone to a trainer for. It strikes me as hubris that one would think that there is nothing, even nothing in the D/s world, that one could learn aside from one's keeper or from what is held within the four walls of one's own house. Because we -do- send servants out to be trained occasionally, I can empathize with the OP. There is that sense of being out of control. One thing that worked for us was having certain things that we required of our servants while they were away, including a journal that they had to document the experience in that they would bring home. Knowing that they were working on the journal while they were away gave that sense of connection between the training period and the time at home.

MAMandSlave -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:56:31 PM)
In response to if this is an add campaign thinly disguised, I initially specifically did not discuss the circumstances of the training as the question was directed at the responses that dominants would have to being in a similar situation. Yes it is kink.com, and it is designed as a training video set up. They do tend to use models who are very much into bdsm. In the case of my girl she is lifestyle, which allows them to push harder than a model who might be a porn actress doing a bdsm shoot. So in response to your post, it was not an advertising campaign, but meant for my benefit as her master. the subject quickly swerved to how could a dominant send his girl away to be trained, with accompanying comments. there have been several people who have responded to the original post, and I appreciate that.

colouredin -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:57:06 PM)
I think Calla it depends on what is being trained and the type of the relationship that people are in. When talked about on here training seems to often be described in sexual terms, here is no differant. I do think it is differant sending someone to be trained in a 'skill' like the ones you mentioned.

mystickoolaid -> RE: Sent to a trainer (11/19/2008 1:58:06 PM)
So you are basically pimping your slave out as a porn star. As a former (somewhat bad at it) sub, I would be offended and hurt if my Master did this to me. Sex for money, or kink for money shouldn't be part of the agreement, IMHO. Maybe I am misunderstanding something on how it works. Then again, I am better as a dominant, hence the switch to a different role.

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