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ORIGINAL: Stephann

mystickoolaid,

Thank you kindly for your contribution.  Your vast knowledge of relationship dynamics and the adult entertainment industry was truly dazzling to absorb, and have left me rueful of the decision I made to permit and encourage my slave's choice to abandon her accounting job. 

Truth be told, I was a little confused as to why there was such a resounding chorus of focus on why she was gone.

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I understand that by placing her in the care of the trainer I in a way in control, and that I had the final say in allowing this training,  none the less, dealing with the lack of direct control is difficult. Have any other masters had this sort of experience and what was your reaction to it.

The original post didn't ask anyone's opinion on if he should have sent his slave to be trained; rather it was the frustration associated with a dominant who chooses to permit his/her slave to serve another for a few days.  That it was for a kink.com shoot might give context, but like MAM, I'm open to having my slave serve others on occasion.  I understand there's an extremely vocal group here on CM who proudly proclaim that they're submissive to only one person and/or never allow others to assert authority over their partner; more power to em; why bother chiming in yet again to remind the world how special you are?

Stephan

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ORIGINAL: babygirlkitten

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So you are basically pimping your slave out as a porn star. As a former (somewhat bad at it) sub, I would be offended and hurt if my Master did this to me. Sex for money, or kink for money shouldn't be part of the agreement, IMHO.

Actually, it sounded like her submissive was doing BDSM modeling on her own accord, so she's not actually pimping anyone out, it was the submissive's choice to enter the field.

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ORIGINAL: Padriag

As for all the other "observations" that have been made... just keep in mind this "community" can be very judgemental (which I think a blind man could see at this point) and its supposed tolerance and acceptance is largely a myth.  The nice thing about being online is you can always just block those who annoy you when it becomes too much to deal with.  In other words, don't let other peoples attitudes or narrowmindedness bring you down.  Focus on your life, your situation... that's what's real... everything else on here is all just 1's and 0's in the end.  We do not matter.

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ORIGINAL: BKSir

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

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ORIGINAL: MAMandSlave

It is a 4 days of training meeting the goals set forth in the beginning. The obeject is of course to document a training process on video. But for it to be realalistic, it is best if it is real.

written before i finished all the posts ~~ "this sounds very very much like the "O" training that is a commercial on collarme all the time.  i've seen a bunch of their "training" vids.  very hawt, great bdsm wanking material, but hardly what i would consider real training."

written at the same time but emphasized here ~~  You started this thread over missing a slave for 4 days???   jesus, who's in control here?

gemmie

Well that's not nice... you are allowed to miss people you are in a deep relationship with, yes?

To mystic, if it's her first video shoot, the sub is bound to be nervous in the first place, and it's probably going to make her owner nervous as well. I know C was nervous for me, just because I was so worked up for my shoot.

The just a "BDSM prop/slut" was a little harsh. O.o I'm not a fricking prop, I'm a fetish model, even though I stay away from video for the most part now.

No doubt!  God, I miss my Dear One if he's gone for a couple hours.  Why wouldn't I miss my pet?  I mean, yes, there should be a bit of detachment between Master and Pet, I think, but damn...  not missing someone?  I'd be pissed if I went away for four days and nobody missed me.  Hell, I'd probably end up telling all of them to go f*** themselves and precisely HOW to do so.

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ORIGINAL: MAMandSlave

I have recently had the opportunity to send my girl to a trainer as part of her work.  It has been somewhat strange for me to be out of direct control of my girl. I understand that by placing her in the care of the trainer I in a way in control, and that I had the final say in allowing this training,  none the less, dealing with the lack of direct control is difficult. Have any other masters had this sort of experience and what was your reaction to it.

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ORIGINAL: eri

Out of 20 odd replies, only one dominant saw fit to actually answer the question without requiring "more information". Why does it matter that it would not work for -you- and yours? Are either of you in the relationship with Mamandslave? No ... Hmm, ok. Why does it matter what the training pertained to? What does any of that have to do with the question asked? Sheesh.

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ORIGINAL: mystickoolaid

Just stop, before you have the whole board pointing out how you are rude, unsophisticated, try to sound intelligent and misusing half your words, and are very obviously wasting space on the board insulting and arguing with me.

Thanks.

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just being used as a bdsm prop/slut in some porn

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He was pretending to have some control in this situation

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I don't care if she goes and shoots a gang bang porn while he sits at home and cries and wanks, but Christ, let's call a spade a spade here.

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He was pretending to have some control in this situation

How do you know he doesn't have control?

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ORIGINAL: mystickoolaid

I'm not here to argue or get in a bitch fight.

Edited to add: if you can't handle someone having their own opinions on things, without insulting them when you don't even know them (I called out a very obvious LIE, which is different than having an opinion, by the way) then you don't belong here with the adults. Go sit at the kids table. I'll throw ya a turkey leg or something.

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ORIGINAL: mystickoolaid

I'm not here to argue or get in a bitch fight.

Edited to add: if you can't handle someone having their own opinions on things, without insulting them when you don't even know them (I called out a very obvious LIE, which is different than having an opinion, by the way) then you don't belong here with the adults. Go sit at the kids table. I'll throw ya a turkey leg or something.

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ORIGINAL: camille65

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ORIGINAL: mystickoolaid

I'm not here to argue or get in a bitch fight.

Edited to add: if you can't handle someone having their own opinions on things, without insulting them when you don't even know them (I called out a very obvious LIE, which is different than having an opinion, by the way) then you don't belong here with the adults. Go sit at the kids table. I'll throw ya a turkey leg or something.

Yet you suggested (in another thread) that a woman go to the ER and lie that she was raped so she could receive an OB/GYN exam.

How can you so readily partition lies?

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ORIGINAL: mystickoolaid

I'm not here to argue or get in a bitch fight.

Edited to add: if you can't handle someone having their own opinions on things, without insulting them when you don't even know them (I called out a very obvious LIE, which is different than having an opinion, by the way) then you don't belong here with the adults. Go sit at the kids table. I'll throw ya a turkey leg or something.