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pnut8377 -> RE: Anal (12/15/2008 5:58:11 PM)
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick
I think, by telling you to explore on your own, he is actually increasing your anxiety. He just needs to jump in there himself, and start exploring. What I don't get is the need to announce it like it is some huge deal, thereby increasing your anxiety, and MAKING it a huge deal. What would have happened instead, if in the midst of some really nice oral play, he just started playing with your ass? If he felt you get tense, he could calm you down with words and deeds. But no, now it's on your mind, and the anticipation of something is almost always worse than the actual thing you were worried about.
Even back when I was playing with the nilla guys, I can't recall a single one of them announcing their intentions to do anything at any point in the future. We just DID things.
Cali
I totally agree with Cali. I was never into anal and was at one point completely against it. Then I tried it with someone but he didnt ask me he just did it, now I am an "an enthusiastic anal whore". [:D] If we had discussed it previous to doing it I think I would've been to nervous to go through with it.
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