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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 10:05:44 AM   
OrionTheWolf


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Status: offline 		23 to 30 is the age range for me. Intelligence, strong willed (not bratty), petite and good shape are some of the others.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 10:09:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have friends ranging from those in their single digits to octagenerians and everything in between. 
In terms of a partner, I tend to think that a particular span as related to my own age is preferrable; I ideally have a preference for men within 15 years older than myself. 
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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 10:16:01 AM   
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Does it really matte rto many what age a Dom or  Submissive is in this lifestyle?
I believe fully that, as long as your physically able to perform amd you are capable of supplying what the partner you have wants on a emotional, mental and physical side then age should mean absolutely nothing in this lifestyle.

What say folks anyone else agree or disagree?



Age matters as much as weight, height, political or religious beliefs, food preferences and anything else.

If they matter to the person, that is all that truly matters. We all use a variety of criteria to select partners, human beings always have. To assume that being into BDSM will remove any criteria when it fact it often adds more to that list, is having unrealistic expectations.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 11:33:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DomCT2002

Does it really matte rto many what age a Dom or  Submissive is in this lifestyle?
I believe fully that, as long as your physically able to perform amd you are capable of supplying what the partner you have wants on a emotional, mental and physical side then age should mean absolutely nothing in this lifestyle.

What say folks anyone else agree or disagree?



It matters to some people and doesn't matter to others. Personally, I have zero interest in hooking up for a long term, viable relationship with doms who are barely out of high school nor those I have to pick up from the nursing home. I think it's easy to 'say' that one can be fed emotionally, physically and mentally in a long term, viable relationship despite a 30, 40 or 50 year age gap, but I'd find such to be an exception rather than a rule. Having such a large pool increases your chances of finding someone, but it also increases your chances of finding an incompatible someone as well. For play only though  - between 18 and dead works for me as long as they say 'yes'!

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 11:39:40 AM   
moonvine


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Status: offline 		I'm always flattered by the interest of a young hot boy, no matter what they say.  60 year old men, not so much.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 11:51:34 AM   
kristileigh


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Status: offline 		Age isn't that big of an issue.

Master is 50 and i am 38.
Now i deffinately put a lower limit on age...........no one around my sons age(18) when i was looking i pretty much didn't go under 25.


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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 11:59:33 AM   
Araven


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Status: offline 		Age doesn't matter to me. Guess it just depends on the person and their interests. 

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 12:05:31 PM   
JoyfulMistress


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Status: offline 		what an interesting topic .. I seem to favor younger men not always but in general .. not sure why ..usually they are only a few years younger than I .. then there came this youngster... 17 years younger and yet it doesn't seem off... we have similar outlooks and thoughts on life .. he just looks like he is one of my son's friends more than my pet at times...~Laughs~ the neighbors seem a tad confused but oh well such is life.. confusing but oh so much fun if you allow it to be !

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 12:06:45 PM   
CallaFirestormBW


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Status: offline 		Over the years I've had companions across the range of ages from 20+ years my junior to 30+ years my senior. The one thing they all had in common is that we shared a capacity to 'grok' -- we didn't always agree, but we did seek out some kind of intellectual homeostasis among us. We all became more skilled at the arts of gracefully agreeing to disagree, and of expressing divergent ideas without stomping all over our mates. For me, those were the most valuable of talents, and even though the level of ego in our household tends to be ... to paraphrase Yogi... "Bigger than the average bear." we've managed, over the years, to avoid pissing one another off so much that we can't stand to live with one another, and still manage to have an affectionate home -including- heavyweight debates.

My experience has been that, in general, it takes a really self-aware and mature person to survive among us. That seems to hold true regardless of whether we're talking about 'familial' bottoms, servants, 'familial' tops, resident neutrals, or keepers. Age, while not irrelevant, is less of an issue than capability to exist in a household with -very- strong personalities, hold one's own without losing oneself or annoying the crud out of everyone else, and still being capable of both acknowledging when one is wrong and accepting responsibility for such -and- being able to let others hold their own opinions without feeling the need to force them to one's own way of thinking... even when one disagrees with them vehemently. Though we've had companions who have managed this at all ages from late teens to early 70s, by -far- the most common range to combine both wisdom and flexibility has seemed to be in that early 30s-mid 60s range. That wouldn't stop us from looking outside that range, but I have to admit it would be a harder 'sell' for me.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 12:07:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: JoyfulMistress

the neighbors seem a tad confused but oh well such is life.. confusing but oh so much fun if you allow it to be !


That's not the look of confusion on their faces.  It's the look of envy.  ;)
 
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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 12:20:33 PM   
JoyfulMistress


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Status: offline 		Aww John thank you for your sweet words.. however with a lot of the neighbors young college age kids .. I assure you it is more confusion than envy ....now get me around Sister and Brothers in the lifestyle and they do seem to show a big of envy as I am really blessed with those I am honored to call Mine ..

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 12:36:50 PM   
antipode


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quote:

Does it really matte rto many what age a Dom


Paraphrasing Henry Ford: It does not matter, as long as she's young.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 12:53:58 PM   
porcelaine


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Status: offline 		Age matters for me as well. As open minded as I can be, I am well aware there are limitations and life experience does play a factor in relationships as does maturity. While I'm generally attracted to slightly younger men, I have found a reasonable age scale that works for me and my circumstances.

As someone candidly mentioned, I neither seek nor desire someone twenty years my junior (ack a minor!) or senior either.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 12:58:52 PM   
Rover


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Status: offline 		I'm reminded of a story about Bo Derek and John Derek.  Keep in mind that when he was 30 years older than she, and had to leave the country with her because she was only 16 at the outset of their relationship.
 
Anyway, Bo was not anticipating this reply when she told John about her intention to divorce him... (I'm paraphrasing).... "Go ahead, divorce me.  I'll drive to the nearest high school and have you replaced in ten minutes flat."
 
Ok, for some reason that makes chuckle.
 
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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 1:11:03 PM   
Venatrix


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Status: offline 		Nothing quite like an immature middle-aged man, is there?

Edited to add:  John Derek, I meant

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 2:49:58 PM   
RainydayNE


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Status: offline 		age is a personal preference for people.
some people don't want to date certain age groups, and that's just how it is. like some chicks like guys with long hair, or some like guys who spend time in libraries =p
i don't particularly care about age all that much. i do have a thing for people older than me (though most chicks end up with guys older than them, or so they say)
my Dom is older than me, though not a whole bunch

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 2:52:11 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: moonvine

I'm always flattered by the interest of a young hot boy, no matter what they say.  60 year old men, not so much.


That is one of the differences between an 18 yr old girl and a 42 yr old woman.


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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 3:07:58 PM   
moonvine


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Status: offline 		When I was 18 I am pretty sure I would have been horrified by the attentions of a 60 year old.   I don't even know what I would have done had I received such attention.  But when I was 18 no one had the Internet in their home so I didn't really experience that.  Please do send all the hot boys my way, heh.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 3:31:49 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomCT2002

Does it really matte rto many what age a Dom or Submissive is in this lifestyle?
I believe fully that, as long as your physically able to perform amd you are capable of supplying what the partner you have wants on a emotional, mental and physical side then age should mean absolutely nothing in this lifestyle.

What say folks anyone else agree or disagree?



No, you look quite grown up as it happens. You look old enough to be a dom, so I'd have to agree, age doesn't matter.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 3:40:37 PM   
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Thanks...

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