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candystripper -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 9:49:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: candystripper One member accused me of posting Ops that were contrary to the generally-held values of the CM community . quote: The last time I checked, there were no "generally-held values of the CM community" and the only complaints you need to worry about are the ones that come from the admins and moderators. As you were, people. XI Well, that is sort of what i thought; that diversity was a one commonly-held value; along with you are fine as long as you are not harming anyone. Beyond these i did not think the "CM community" had "commonly-held values" so how can i deviate from them? candystripper

Oumae -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 10:13:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross quote: ORIGINAL: candystripper it is not meant to suggest superiority; but rather extra dedication. LOL oh I see- your relationship isn't better than mine...you're just more DEDICATED than I am. Yeah that's not superiority at all... I wondered about this too... People voice that the word "high" seems superior and to explain it the word "extra" is thrown in??? It could be argued that the person who is straight but will try a bi experience is showing "extra" dedication just as it could be argued that one forsaking all others is showing "extra" dedication. There are many more examples that could be used. People express their dedication in their own way and hopefully in a way that works for their relationship(s) and the best of luck to them. It is their way tho' and it doesn't make one way better than another. Oumae This is not a flame and to be honest I think accusations of flaming can be flaming in itself.

IrishMist -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 10:17:25 AM)
Well, I have a wonderful idea.... How about we all just agree that everyone is different, and wants different things...furthermore, how about we all just back and think about how nice it is that we can voice those differences so readily [:D] Bright Blessings everyone....now go and enjoy the holidays darn it....[:@]

stef -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 10:32:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: candystripper i feel i have nothing i can say which will meet with approval. The level of hostility is amazing. Frankly, i think at least some of it is caused by my desire to be monogamous. i think some members find this silly, or misguided, or not sufficiently kinky, etc. i may be naieve but i expected acceptance of my "kink" just as any member would expect. There's not much i can do to convince people who have ascribed motives to me that are inacurate to listen to me -- the source -- and believe i knew what i meant to say; nothing at all disrespectful; just an interesting topic i thought. I don't know if you're being willfully ignorant of your own actions or just conveniently not remembering them. Either way, here is the Reader's Digest version of what you've been doing and perhaps why it is making people respond the way they have. 1. You state your belief about a subject (such as how a bisexual person could never be satisfied in a monogamous relationship because they would be missing something from such a relationship). 2. A significant number of people try to explain to you that your suppositions are incorrect and give details and explanations why, all based on years and years of real-life experience. 3. You make what you consider to be a sincere apology for believing what you do then immediately flip 180 degrees and discount their real-life experience in and continue to go on about how you just can't understand their views so they are most likely mistaken. 4. They try to explain again. 5. You get frustrated because people aren't willing to ignore their real-life experience and still proclaim your beliefs. 6. They get frustrated with your irrational behavior. 7. You begin to rail on about how people are being hostile to you just because they can't accept your skewed views. 8. Hijinks ensue. This has been par for the course in several of your threads. Can you see how it might make certain people less than civil towards you? ~stef

candystripper -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 10:49:34 AM)
It's Xmas and i lack the will to respond to you point by point. Maybe later. Obviously we see things differently. candystripper

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 11:20:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fyreredsub or are you denying that you had another id one here, the one that went off the chain one and you then made this one?(remember when you deleted a bunch of your posts under that id?) Actually Pink wasn't her first one either. She did the exact same thing which caused Pink to be created.

sweetwhisper -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 11:23:59 AM)
That OR maybe she just decided to change names like you did. Merry Christmas!

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 11:26:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetwhisper That OR maybe she just decided to change names like you did. Nope. The circumstances and explanations given were completely different. Unless she was lying at the time.

candystripper -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 12:09:02 PM)
quote: I don't know if you're being willfully ignorant of your own actions or just conveniently not remembering them. Either way, here is the Reader's Digest version of what you've been doing and perhaps why it is making people respond the way they have. 1. You state your belief about a subject (such as how a bisexual person could never be satisfied in a monogamous relationship because they would be missing something from such a relationship). There is no such statement on this thread made by me. This quote has been ascribed to me in error. There was a post some time ago in which i asked questions about switches, and people were kind enough to answer. i cannot learn unless i ask questions. Perhaps that is what you're thinking of. quote: 2. A significant number of people try to explain to you that your suppositions are incorrect and give details and explanations why, all based on years and years of real-life experience. Since i never made any statement about bisexual women, i wasn't able to process any corrections. Again, you may be thinking about the thread on switches; it did take me awhile to get the whole picture. quote: 3. You make what you consider to be a sincere apology for believing what you do then immediately flip 180 degrees and discount their real-life experience in and continue to go on about how you just can't understand their views so they are most likely mistaken. i made no statement denigrating anyone's life choices. Such statements were ascribed to me, and i apologised, thinking i had inadvertently made some stray remark. However, i have re-read the thread and no, i made no such statements. IMO, the angst this thread has generated has been entirely due to the disapproval other people displayed towards me and my life choices. The posts made by brightspot and MercnBeth are prime examples. It reached such a cresendo Mod 11 posted that there are no "CM community values" so i could not have violated them. So many people could just not accept that i was inflexible about a bisexual encounter. i believe it was amvdp who described bisexuality as a "pleasant experience". i am a bit amazed that intelligent, well-read and experienced people can think i should substitute their judgment for my own; or that a straight woman would find a bisexual experience "pleasant". quote: 4. They try to explain again. i agree; there's quite a bit of redundancy in this thread. i speak; others complain; i explain and apologise (even though i have done nothing wrong); they complain some more. It really seems as if no one can add anything of value anymore. And then lastly, here you come and provide this analysis. i must say, i appreciate it in part because it has helped me clarify what happened on this thread. However, you seem to hold to the same position as others; whatever i choose for myself is somehow offensive to others. i simply cannot process that, stef. i'm sorry -- i know you were trying to be helpful. candystripper

fyreredsub -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 2:16:28 PM)
1. i dont care how many times you change ids after you go off your chain 2. your beiliefs are that... 3. mine are mine 4. it was your contradictions then your squirming about when nailed on them this morning*this and only this * primarily is enough. 5. its the whole general 'dear' bs 6. and i have never had a third in my bed 7. it is your total ignorance in this whole posting thread to me and at me that caused this problem 8. your past trolling used to amuse me, hence the anal freud post to you in the dom syndrome 9. and i am not angry, you do not have that kind of power over me, you do however amuse the hell outta me when you squirm and backpeddle and then twist to suit the situation to try to make yourself come out smelling like a rose..the stench does follow. 10. many see through it as well(or should i say smell,lol) 11. i do hope you are done now b/c this isnt worth the time and effort that you seem to think it is. 12. go reread KoM and John's posts to you , perhaps you may learn something 13. if that doesnt cover it all OH WELL quote: ORIGINAL: candystripper quote: ...the posts stand under your OLD id....it is fact for anyone to read. or are you denying that you had another id one here, the one that went off the chain one and you then made this one?(remember when you deleted a bunch of your posts under that id?) too many of us remember ................ you really need to think pink/candy...........about that but who am i to give advice edited to add, i'm stopping before you drag me into something that will get me moderated.... fyreredsub What difference does it make that i morphed nicks? i never hide my identity; the old nick went into mothballs. i may well have deleted posts under "pinkpleasures"; i remember editing some. So what? Anyway, that option is no longer available unless you move quick; the Mods have changed the system and the "edit" function disappears not long after the post is made. i still cannot understand your anger; have you been mad all this time? Ever since i morphed my nick? So, then was your posts denigrating me here just based on that anger? i always announce my new nick in "Introductions" and let ModOne know immediately after i morph my nick. i have as much right to change it as you do to keep yours. There is no deception involved. Honest to pete fyreredsub, your anger seems to be a moving target. i cannot help thinking you're really angry because "i" might act as a model like lil sub but "i" would never have a third party in my bed like you. But as "i" keep asking you, why do you need my approval? (Of course you have it -- what works for you is what you should have.) Just because "i" would do something differently is not casting aspersions on you. We are all individuals. candystripper

fyreredsub -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 3:28:43 PM)
which is it pink candy...i'm confused on yet another contradicition .in the previous page you posted to me, you could never see yourself doing a demo, yet in the previous post you say you act as a model in them... hmmmmmmmmmmm..which is it?????? methinks you yack so much you know not what you say.lolol......(squirm, twists,contradicts)sheeesh[:D] and if you meant to imply....that is where my anger comes from,(something that may or may not exist) you are so silly... its pitiful had to get this last thought in, forgive me all..........that you have to read this drivel but i dont like getting my chain jerked at all, ecspecially under squirm and twist theories... my stance hasn't changed.... i am a straight monogomous woman(but poly by being emotionally intimate w/ others,lol) that hasn't had a third in bed but may one day for Master if that is what makes him happy, i will do a public scene (no sex ) w/ one as a top under Masters direction........ take it or leave it i dont care the rest of your jazz candy is pure drama queeen nonsense and several hit it on the head when they said you thrive on the attn. i was gone all after noon and you were still posting about me, i didnt realize i was so powerful,thank you. ciao happy holidays ya'll

candystripper -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 3:42:31 PM)
quote: which is it pink candy...i'm confused on yet another contradicition .in the previous page you posted to me, you could never see yourself doing a demo, yet in the previous post you say you act as a model in them... hmmmmmmmmmmm..which is it?????? methinks you yack so much you know not what you say.lolol......(squirm, twists,contradicts)sheeesh and if you meant to imply....that is where my anger comes from,(something that may or may not exist) you are so silly... its pitiful had to get this last thought in, forgive me all..........that you have to read this drivel but i dont like getting my chain jerked at all, ecspecially under squirm and twist theories... my stance hasn't changed.... i am a straight monogomous woman(but poly by being emotionally intimate w/ others,lol) that hasn't had a third in bed but may one day for Master if that is what makes him happy, i will do a public scene (no sex ) w/ one as a top under Masters direction........ take it or leave it i dont care the rest of your jazz candy is pure drama queeen nonsense and several hit it on the head when they said you thrive on the attn. i was gone all after noon and you were still posting about me, i didnt realize i was so powerful,thank you. ciao happy holidays ya'll fyreredsub As i have said on the "Straight Woman Blues" thread, i suggest we block one another posts at least for awhile. Your anger is diffuse but still has a negative impact on me that i do not need. candystripper

fyreredsub -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 3:48:01 PM)
i haven't gotten to that one yet. i blocked you on my yahoo and my emails here, that is sufficient for me. i'm sorry if your getting nailed by your own words causes you grief. [&:] but i am not blocking posts out. no way... i'll chose to not respond if i see fit. thank you.

IrishMist -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 3:53:59 PM)
Well, I don't know about everyone else...but my Christmas was really good. Had some friends over, my daughter let it be known for another year that yes, she rules this house [&:]...we had some good food, good conversation Heck, the only thing missing was some good sex [8\|]

fyreredsub -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 3:58:49 PM)
lol santa didnt bring sex to my house this year either,lol....but then again there's always bringing the new year in w/ a bang.[8D] i got to see my new grandson, gawd they grow so fast..and eat the pies i was making this morning. my daughter cooked turkey and we exchanged gifts.good time was had by all.now if i can figure out how to put a pix on my avatar,i'll be through for the day. quote: ORIGINAL: IrishMist Well, I don't know about everyone else...but my Christmas was really good. Had some friends over, my daughter let it be known for another year that yes, she rules this house [&:]...we had some good food, good conversation Heck, the only thing missing was some good sex [8\|]

Nendarye -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 4:02:29 PM)
quote: Heck, the only thing missing was some good sex Well golly gee Irish...you should have said something [8D] I would have brought some of my umm, friends with me [:D]

fyreredsub -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 4:04:11 PM)
roflmao, oh girl, you are sooooooooooo bad[;)] quote: ORIGINAL: Nendarye quote: Heck, the only thing missing was some good sex Well golly gee Irish...you should have said something [8D] I would have brought some of my umm, friends with me [:D]

JohnWarren -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 4:32:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IrishMist Well, I don't know about everyone else...but my Christmas was really good. Had some friends over, my daughter let it be known for another year that yes, she rules this house [&:]...we had some good food, good conversation Heck, the only thing missing was some good sex [8\|] No daughter, but good food, good friends and some great hot tub sex.

IrishMist -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 4:34:23 PM)
quote: No daughter, but good food, good friends and some great hot tub sex. No bragging allowed /stomps foot LOL seriously.....hot tub sex huh? Mmmmmmmmmm /drools

JohnWarren -> RE: What is Monogamy? (12/25/2005 4:36:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IrishMist quote: No daughter, but good food, good friends and some great hot tub sex. No bragging allowed /stomps foot LOL seriously.....hot tub sex huh? Mmmmmmmmmm /drools Have you ever felt those jets?? [evil grin] Libby likes to play a game with Rio. It's called "bobbing for orgasms." The basic rules is Rio doesn't get to come up until Libby cums. As Libby puts it "be enthusiastic."

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