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mydniterose -> Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 7:34:35 AM)
Is anyone else upset that the majority of FemDom porn protrays male submissives as whimpy, shrimpy guys that look like a stiff breeze could blow them over?!? Take a look at the banner running at the bottom and right side of the main pages of this site. Every time I check my mail I am treated to the image of some plastic "Fetish Barbie Doll" version of a Domme tieing up some little boy , spanking him , dripping a bit of wax on his bits, then using a strap on-or just sucking his little weenie before fucking him. I don't know how you feel about it, but for me at least I don't have sex with my subs...at least not all the time and not my more casual playmates! For me that level of intimicy is a privliege that I only share with a very few. No WONDER so many of the males writing to us think the lifestyle is about kinky sex! NO WONDER I get so many messages declaring the writers prowess at oral sex! And does this mean the producers of these sub standard porn productions really think that a real Dominant Woman is only capable of handling a whimpy little man? The men I like are big, strong and very masculine! Anyone can dominante the weak! I thrill to a strong man kneeling before me, attentive to my desires, suffering the pain I so joyfully give him, knowing the entire time that he is doing this because it is his pleasure to serve....A ...Strong ....Woman! At this point if I want to enjoy a porn with a large, strong man...(with a hairy chest please) I have to watch the gay bondage channel! sigh So am I alone here?

DesFIP -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 7:37:20 AM)
It means that the femdom porn is produced to sell to men not women. And that this is what sells to men. It may mean that the majority of male bottoms do get off on this kind of heavy humiliation, wimpy, smaller than average penis size. And since it's sold to men, it includes men getting off because that's what the men buying it are doing while watching it.

eri -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 7:39:45 AM)
And on the flipside you have websites that promote fem subs to be uber sluts who NEVER say no, who are always wet and eager and can take anything that bad ole Dom (who either never smiles or you never see his face at all) can dish out. So ... Internet porn creates unrealistic views of BDSM .... You know, you could make your own porn and then it would look however you want it to look.

offered2u321 -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 7:47:55 AM)
Porn is porn, it's not meant to reflect reality. It's jack off material, fuel for fantasy, and yes, directly mostly at wanker males...... Doesn't do much for me - I'm male, and I occasionally wank, but not to that crap - I can think up my own "situations"!

humblesalve28 -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 7:55:19 AM)
I hate it. I serve because i truly find happiness and joy in taking care of my Mistress. How in the world could i serve and care for Her properly if i am not strong enough to do so? Unfortunately, the last 3 Dommes i met have all been in search of just that. I hope that they find someone who pleases them. Eventually i will find a Mistress, who wants a strong slave at Her feet.

Lockit -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 8:06:09 AM)
I guess we need to write and produce some better porn. I think women would like it more if they had something better to view. I would eat a wimp and not in any pleasurable way for the wimp. I need a strong mind and heart and it helps if he is strong physically. Heck I might like to be carried from room to room while I eat my bon bon's and tell him what to do.

mydniterose -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 8:33:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit I guess we need to write and produce some better porn. I think women would like it more if they had something better to view. I would eat a wimp and not in any pleasurable way for the wimp. I need a strong mind and heart and it helps if he is strong physically. Heck I might like to be carried from room to room while I eat my bon bon's and tell him what to do.

mydniterose -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 8:35:15 AM)
Sorry, not quite got the hang of attaching quotes on this site just yet. @lockit, I almost spit my tea all over the screen at the image of having a sub carrying his Domme in his arms while she indulged her sweet tooth! grins

DVsFox -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 8:50:37 AM)
It's more than just porn that promotes this image. Numerous, numerous Domme profiles on this site, as well as those annoying male submissives promote the same thing. There wouldn't be that type of porn if there wasn't enough people who bought into it. And sadly, there are a -lot- of people who do. And as somebody else noted, Femsubs have the same kind of problem in regards to porn on the site. That being said, I do agree that all of the stereotypes really, really suck. DV's Fox

Lockit -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 9:12:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mydniterose Sorry, not quite got the hang of attaching quotes on this site just yet. @lockit, I almost spit my tea all over the screen at the image of having a sub carrying his Domme in his arms while she indulged her sweet tooth! grins Sorry about that. You will learn... around CM... you never want to be reading post with anything in your mouth that could damage the computer. People around here can be pretty funny and they are always spittin and spewin and snorting. Welcome to the boards...

AlexandraLynch -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 9:42:05 AM)
Absolutely I want a strong submissive. Life demands strength, both physical and mental and emotional.

MsPhantasia -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 9:51:58 AM)
I'm not attracted to whimpy men. My male submissive is very strong both mentally and physically. Besides, how much fun would a door mat be??

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 10:01:20 AM)
I'll gladly take the wimpy ones off your hands. Sheesh.

OttersSwim -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 10:14:15 AM)
Well...just as female Dominants get fed up with the image of them being put up as BDSM Barbies, I think it is also unrealistic to propagate the image that all male subs should conform to some image of a Chippendale dancer combined with Chuck Norris. I am not terribly muscular, or overly masculine, and I look fabu in a dress, but I am also no doormat. I am a guy with a body appropriate to my age who tries to eat well and stay as in shape as my busy schedule will allow. I imagine that is just as true of most of the male subs here as it is of the Dominant Ladies. If you prefer a muscular guy, then good on ya, but remember that real strength is to be found in character, not in physique.

sodsta -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 10:17:24 AM)
While I agree that wimpy = lame, I'm not entirely sure I agree with the notion that someone who isn't big and muscle-y = weak. o_0

Lockit -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 10:20:26 AM)
My son weighed 110 pounds when he was taken to the hospital. He was an oil rigger and moved huge pipe. One doesn't have to be big to be strong. I do go for personal strengths more than anything else. There is nothing worse than a powerhouse muscle man who needed to spend a lil more time working out the brain cells.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 10:22:07 AM)
If a man can't engage my mind and make me laugh and think, his physique is immaterial.

PeonForHer -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 10:24:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus If a man can't engage my mind and make me laugh and think, his physique is immaterial. Yeah right. [;)]

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 10:26:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus If a man can't engage my mind and make me laugh and think, his physique is immaterial. Yeah right. [;)] HEY!! I did not say that the combination was not a fine and pleasant thing. Only that a perfect ass that IS a perfect ass doesn't make the cut. [:)]

PeonForHer -> RE: Fed up with the image of "whimpy" male subs (12/4/2008 10:28:36 AM)
Well done for blowing away the stereotypical image that femdoms don't ever smile, MR. I think that's the biggest grin I've seen on a femdom's avatar pic at CM so far [:)]

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