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RE: older doms - 12/5/2008 8:30:54 AM   
SimplyMichael


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ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf

Then they need to get their ass up every morning and do yoga and tai chi, as well as a good diet.


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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

I prefer someone no less than 10 years younger and no one older---
 
younger--for Me its a life experience issue.
 
older--its an energy issue--most men older aren't interested in being active with a lot of things.



Yoga is really amazing.  I have two goals for next year, one is to do two legs of a Triathalon and the other is to climb the peaks at Kings Canyon in California.  I have hiked up to the alpine lakes and that was a challenge but the peaks are rocky crags another couple thousand feet up.  Its going to get a bit technical but I look forward to the challenge.  One of my partners is an experienced climbers and between her skill and my ability to carry weight, we figure we can do it.

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RE: older doms - 12/5/2008 9:14:36 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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ORIGINAL: SilverMark

As an "old guy"....I think we have certain qualities and experiences that younger ones do not....and we do things at a much more reasonable pace<eg>....sometimes the slower the better!....

that's for sure  *wink*

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RE: older doms - 12/5/2008 9:21:20 AM   
Lunalay


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Status: offline 		I tend to prefer older dominants, purely on the basis that I like it when a fellow is older than me.

^_^

I don't think it is a sub thing though. I've known two dominants, so far, that had subs/slaves 10+ years their senior.

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RE: older doms - 12/5/2008 10:46:01 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		My preference has always been for older men.  As others said age is just a number.  My Master is 19 years older then me.  Other then being in love we have many interests in common. I like an older man because they are usually more patient and most (not all) have experience in the lifestyle.  I have experience and i don't want to take the time to teach somone.  So older is a personal preference.

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RE: older doms - 12/5/2008 10:55:16 AM   
Spiritus


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Status: offline 		I think it really is a case of personal preference.
Age - young or old should not exclude someone from being a good Dom - it is simply how two individuals relate to each other mentally and physically.

Spiritus

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RE: older doms - 12/5/2008 11:25:01 AM   
SageFemmexx


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Status: offline 		No, I don't. I discovered older doms (50-60) have these strict protocol ideals. They didn't like it when a sub is brighter or better educated than they are. I also discovered their medical problems often caused restrictions in what they were capable of doing--vanilla things not just bd/sm things. They also had alcohol  and smoking issues which are major deal breakers for me. I didn't find it a turn on when an older dom called me to say his Viagra script just got refilled....bleck.

So, I went to younger ones. Mine is 15 years younger than I am and much more able emotionally and mentally to handle an empowered outspoken submissive.

So whatever floats your boat. Be well and happy.
Sage.

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RE: older doms - 12/5/2008 11:48:25 AM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		Late hubby was 15 years older then me, and we werent in this lifestyle. Sir is 5 yrs younger then me. Age isn't a factor for me, there are a few other things that are.

oceanwynds

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RE: older doms - 12/5/2008 1:04:36 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		I woulda always said that "im attracted to older men" and my history has proven the point. Master is the partner that is closest to my age that Ive ever had (he's only 6 years older) and I gotta say " Its been really nice having someone that is in a similar generation to me, its cool to be able to relate in varied ways because of that, almost relaxing, pretty fun.

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RE: older doms - 12/5/2008 1:08:29 PM   
satisfied


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Status: offline 		Even in my vanilla life, most of my friends are older than me (generally old enough to be one of my parents). I just don't get along well with most people my own age. I have been told that i have an old soul and am very wise for being so young. (28) I also knew when choosing this lifestyle that i would need an experienced Dom. (I know that age isn't necesary for the experience) I have a very strong personality, and anyone who Doms me would have to have an even stronger personality and enough confidence to own me. So it was of very little surprise to me when i met my Master and he was 12 years older than me. I rarely even think about the age difference though, because it is just not prominent in our personalities. We have so much in common and genuinely enjoy eachothers company. I would feel this way about him even if he was younger. I love him no matter what his age is.

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RE: older doms - 12/5/2008 2:35:13 PM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: NazjamRa

do all subs enjoy older doms? I know that some around their own age may not have the experience but isn't that part of growing togther?


For the most part, I've always naturally related to men who were/are significantly older than me. Maybe because I'm the youngest in a large family, or because I started school early so was always the youngest in my class. In any case, it's not that I am opposed to someone around my age, I have (so far) never meshed in a relationship with someone in that range.

People can grow together no matter what their age difference, though. Growth is mental and emotional, and people can be in the same place in life whatever their ages.




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RE: older doms - 12/5/2008 5:23:41 PM   
mixedemotions


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Status: offline 		I've pretty much always preferred older men.  Haven't really had the best of times with younger.

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RE: older doms - 12/5/2008 7:49:29 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		When you're very young, you are unlikely to have enough confidence in yourself. And it is confidence, self assurance that are essential for a dominant to have. After all, if you don't have that aura of knowing what you want and what you're doing, why should a sub trust you?

With age usually comes some degree of self knowledge of what you can do well, a relaxed confidence that comes from life experience, not specifically kink experience. And that's very attractive. If you lack it, you aren't going to inspire confidence in you when you don't have confidence in yourself.

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RE: older doms - 12/6/2008 7:11:07 AM   
Sandyshores29718


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Status: offline 		I've always prefered older men even when I was 17 and had a crush on a man that was 28.  I tend to look for men that are older than me, but I use (use being a key word here) to have a age limit. Sir is far over my age limit being he is 24 years older than me, but we have so much in common. Do I want to grow old with him and grow together? Sure! We can still do that. Sir hasnt done EVERYTHING yet and hes not dying on me yet. lol  I did not go looking for such a age difference, but it happened, so I tend to not over think why I love Sir or why he loves me. Its very rare that I find a man my own age that I can relate to and get along together on more than a sexual connection. 

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RE: older doms - 12/6/2008 10:40:56 PM   
icequeen81272


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Status: offline 		The one I currently serve, is maybe 15 years older than myself and I absolutely love it.  I love the fact he has much more experience - also I find that older domms have more patience and they tend to be more respectful, mature, and caring.

He does not look his age..he actually looks better than men my age and not just during dom/sub session, even outside, when we converse, he always knows the right things to say, lift me up when I'm feeling down, and has respect for me.  He is all I think about - and at times I often wonder if I love him not just as a domm but also as the person he is.

When you feel a specific way/have a wonderful relationship w/your domm or sub, age does not matter...it's the chemistry that matters.  Hell, even if he was pushing 70, looking the way he does, treating me the same way I wouldn't even care.

And it's funny, prior to meeting him I would never have gotten involved with an older man....I used to wonder what is wrong with these women, then after meeting/getting involved with him, I realized, what was wrong with me judging these women?  Those women, they have it great and now I realize why so many women enjoy older men.

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RE: older doms - 12/9/2008 9:59:33 PM   
SlaveBlutarsky


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Status: offline 		I would like to have the American Dream type relationship with my potential Domme, including kids if that's what we so choose, so I try to stay within five or so years older than me and younger.

I do find older Dommes very attractive in a lot of cases though, I think the maturity enhances their ability to govern in a calm patient and effective manner. Obviously not necessarily an age thing though.


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RE: older doms - 12/9/2008 10:55:42 PM   
futuremilf23


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Status: offline 		Many say age is only a number but they still prefer older.
hmm
:-/
Doesn't sound like age is really only a number.
I can only speak for myself, but I am only looking for a young Dom.
So with everyone preferring older men, this should make my odds better, right? hehe


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RE: older doms - 12/9/2008 11:04:41 PM   
Aszhrae


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Status: offline 		Girl would be uncomfortable having a dom/me that was young enough to be my oldest daughter. But on the other hand, girl would be uncomfortable serving dom/me where girl was young enough to be their oldest daughter as well. Perhaps a decade younger or older than me would be fine for me. Girl doesn't like the idea of subservient mommy scenario or the dominant daddy/mommy scenario either.
Agreeing with GreedyTop, having someone nearest to my own age means a dom/me that can be realted to, when its not being disciplined and that girl could be close to and possibly share insight and life experiences with each other and thus become closer.

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RE: older doms - 12/9/2008 11:42:58 PM   
ishyB


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Status: offline 		I prefer older men because of the simple fact that I belief that a man has to find himself and has to establish a baseline of who he is and what he wants before he can successfully master a woman.
Because of the society we live in, I think this is a difficult task for men and takes a pretty long time to do. Therefore most men I feel are capable of mastering slaves are well past 35 at the very least.
 
Now there are exceptions I'm sure, and if boys growing up would be taught different values many of them might have been ready at a much younger age in which case I guess I could be attracted to men much younger than 35. But the way things are now, I just find that that is very rarely ever the case.
 
I find nothing more sexually attractive or stimulating than a man that is able to hold me to my slavery. Age and physical appearance have very little to do with what attracts me in a man.
The only thing that worries me about the whole thing is that men already have a shorter life expectancy than women do. I need Master; so his shorter life expectancy combined with the fact that he is 21 years my senior is the only thing that worries me from time to time.
 
I wish you well,
 
ishy


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RE: older doms - 12/10/2008 12:02:53 AM   
futuremilf23


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ORIGINAL: ishyB

The only thing that worries me about the whole thing is that men already have a shorter life expectancy than women do. I need Master; so his shorter life expectancy combined with the fact that he is 21 years my senior is the only thing that worries me from time to time.
 


That is often my primary concern as well.
It's a frightening thought that one would have to think/worry of their loved one's health well before it would actually be an issue.


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RE: older doms - 12/10/2008 12:29:01 AM   
Freakgirl4


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Status: offline 		As I am reading...everyone has their own reasons and preferences.
Master is my age...only a few months older actually.My preference comes from fear...of funerals with me playing the grieving significant other.I lost my first two Domly ones  when they were very young and I figure this way there is less risk....

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