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Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 9:18:52 AM   
parakeet89


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Status: offline 		How important is physical attractiveness to you in your sub/slave/Dom/Master?
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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 9:32:33 AM   
aravain


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Status: offline 		It's only important insomuch as I need to be attracted to him.

I'm attracted to many things though :D

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 9:47:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		My requirements vary according to the nature of the relationship. There are people I'd play with for a bit at a party or in a Pro session that I don't find physically attractive enough to date/fuck.



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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 9:51:12 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		It's just as important as all the other qualities I seek in  partner.

If I'm not physically attracted to someone there's no chance I'm going to be attracted to them in any other way either.

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 10:09:48 AM   
utopicus


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Status: offline 		I don't believe much in physical, but in spiritual attractiveness. To me, my Domme/s should present themselves as comfortable in their skin, calm, powerful and aware of their role. Knowledge and demeanour - I guess. However, one aspect is paramount, and this is personal hygiene and tidiness. A Mistress who respect herself has the ability to respect her sub as well.

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 10:11:29 AM   
mc1234


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Status: offline 		He has to be attractive to me in order for me to be in a relationship with him.  I wonder if anyone would answer this question differently? 


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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 10:18:04 AM   
parakeet89


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Status: offline 		Well, so far most people seem to think that it's important.
I dont have a Dom yet but I've been talking to someone about it. I like them on a mental/emotional level, but I recently saw their picture and I'm just not attracted to him at all. I can't imagine having sex with him and I feel horrible and shallow about it. I wasn't sure if I was just a bad person.

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 10:27:48 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: parakeet89

Well, so far most people seem to think that it's important.
I dont have a Dom yet but I've been talking to someone about it. I like them on a mental/emotional level, but I recently saw their picture and I'm just not attracted to him at all. I can't imagine having sex with him and I feel horrible and shallow about it. I wasn't sure if I was just a bad person.



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No, it doesn't make you a bad person. Everyone has their preferences.. and turnoffs.


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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 10:57:44 AM   
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There's a tag line someone has on here that always makes me smile, I can't remember whose it is but it's roughly.......'I like your mind so much I could lick it' ......Well, I extend that to the desire to lick other bits too.

Liking someone as a person doesn't mean you're going to *fancy* them but unless someone truly repulses me, I know personally, that I *grow* to like the bits that are attached their minds.

Some people need some sort of instant attraction.......I only require the absence of repulsion.

I didn't fancy M particulary when I first met him..but the combination of his personality, the way he moves, the way he talks, the way he sighs, the way he laughs and all of those ordinary everyday actions add up to a heady mixture over time.

Being physically attractive to someone is part of an entire package....that's how most of us end up with people.

Of course it's important that you're attracted to someone......depending on what you're considering doing with them.

Let's try to get over the fact that not being attracted to someone in a physical/sexual sense, does not mean we're shallow.

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 11:11:19 AM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		This is one of those--"damned if you do and you're full of bull if you don't"--I like how you phrased it--the absence of repulsion. I am drawn to a sort of cuteness, though I look at really gorgeous guys, for some reason they turn Me off--I'm always seeing the fight for the bathroom mirror.
 
But a certain cuteness gets  My attention---the way a smile races across a face, the way someone says a word or does something.

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 11:23:08 AM   
parakeet89


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Status: offline 		I'm not fond of really gorgeous guys either. I don't look for Cary Grants or Brad Pitts--they'd be better looking than me! lol. But I really cant see myself doing anything with this person. I may get along with him but I don't think I'd be okay with giving myself to him.
I don't know how Im going to go about dealing with this but I'll think of something. I think I just needed to see that I wasn't a total idiot for feeling this way.

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 11:29:00 AM   
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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 11:32:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm a sucker for Clint Eastwood types..laughs. Actually there has to be a chemistry there for me, and odd as it might sound, I get very turned on by the feel of bones. This is just something within me, and i accept that. I don't consider myself shallow.

My advice is do not get sucked into feelings of being shallow. Also sometimes seeing a person in person is different. Pictures seldom do anything for me.

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 11:37:15 AM   
celticlord2112


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quote:

ORIGINAL: parakeet89

How important is physical attractiveness to you in your sub/slave/Dom/Master?


I'm a physical sort of fellow. If I'm attracted to a woman, there will be a definite physical dimension!

That being said....the physical attraction springs from the chemistry. If I don't click with a woman, she can look like a supermodel and I'm not going to give a damn.


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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 11:39:30 AM   
cjan


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Status: offline 		Gotta have chemistry. However, for me, chemistry has nothing to do with what, in our society, passes for conventional physical beauty. For me, chemistry is exactly that. It comes from a potent mixture of what I consider physical attractiveness, the all important pheremones, and something deep and mysterious. You either have it, or you don't.

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 11:57:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		lol.......I lived with a gorgeous guy for a few years....and they have souls too.

Getting to know someone physically, as a person, either increases their attractiveness or decreases it, when it gets mingled with the rest of them.

The *eye of the beholder* thing isn't just to do with someone's physical charms.

agirl



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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 12:10:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		The only thing I would like to point out OP is that sometimes pictures don't really convey the person well. There's a big difference between someone well dressed and in proper lighting to a new drivers license photo that makes everyone look like a troll. If he/she is nearby, why not meet for coffee just to see if you can be friends? With no emphasis on going on to anything else.

How to tell them no thanks? I'm sorry, I just don't feel the necessary click.

< Message edited by DesFIP -- 12/8/2008 12:32:55 PM >

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 12:14:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL utopicus

"Pauvre monde, pauvre monde
Tiens tu fais peine à voir
Pauvre monde, pauvre monde
C'est vraiment sans espoir".
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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 12:30:20 PM   
SageFemmexx


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Status: offline 		Physical attraction is important to me--my definition of it. However, my hubby/dom is actually gorgeous to most women.

I found when I was looking for online relationships that their mind was the most important thing but once they sent me a pic--it could be a major turnoff. So, I usually never asked my online people what they looked like so it wouldn't spoil the fantasy for me.

I have found that chemistry can be influenced by how people smell and that's not something you can tell from online. Someone with bad breath, body odor or a smoker--bleck.

Sage.

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 1:09:31 PM   
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The people in my life are there because of what we bring to each other's lives, not because of what they look like.

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