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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 8:14:45 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


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How important is physical attractiveness to you in your sub/slave/Dom/Master?



I find big hairy beasts attractive....so yes, Ieven find your avatar hot...I'm just weird that way.


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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 8:16:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Physical attractiveness is somewhat important, that is going by my own definitions of what I find physically attractive in a Dom. Overall, this is just one factor out of the entirety

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 8:32:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Although I think physical attractiveness is important, it's not the end all and be all for me. In fact, when meeting someone online I don't usually ask for a photo simply because I want to know them, not what they look like. I'm a little leery when people ask for my pics, because I know I'm a big girl and a lot of guys don't like that. But I believe that my personality and heart are great enough that a Man should love me anyway...if I expect that of Him, why should I expect less of myself?

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 9:22:07 PM   
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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 9:25:36 PM   
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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/8/2008 9:46:01 PM   
futuremilf23


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Status: offline 		Of course physical attraction is important. But it's amazing how you can fall in love with the depths of someone's mind and all of a sudden he turns into Brad Pitt.

..I do realize that Brad Pitt isn't really that sexy anymore, but I couldn't think of anyone better for my subpar analogy....

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/9/2008 7:36:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		It plays quite a good importance, but it's not so all important I'd let a good catch sip away because he wasn't my idea of mr G Q
quote:

ORIGINAL: parakeet89

How important is physical attractiveness to you in your sub/slave/Dom/Master?


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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/9/2008 8:10:16 PM   
lally3


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Status: offline 		hi parakeet

i know what youre saying.  its happened to us all im sure.  ive certainly been 'dissappointed' in a photo, but, and its a big but, when ive liked a person alot up until the photo i still tend to go and meet them because, as DesFip says, photos just dont give you a true picture of the person.

what i tend to do is look at their hair style, their clothes, their demeanor in the photo too.  now if theyre clothes, hair and demeanor all tell you he's wrong for you then he is.  and if there are big issues in there that you just couldnt get round then thats a no no too.

just, sometimes people dont take good photos.  some photograph really well and dont look so great in real life and then there are those who are just so brilliant as people their looks actually dont matter a damn.

i recently turned down a 6.3 hunk because i could tell from his photos that he rated himself a little too highly.  big turn off for me.  id sooner go out with quasimodo frankly


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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/9/2008 8:27:31 PM   
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He has to be attractive to me in order for me to be in a relationship with him.  I wonder if anyone would answer this question differently? 



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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/9/2008 8:33:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		Reminds me of when I saw someone who was supposed to be the epitome of goodlooking, fabio I think it was, he does all those I can't believe it's not butter comercials and I was like THAT is him? He's not very good looking i n my opinion.

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/10/2008 2:48:46 AM   
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How important is physical attractiveness to you in your sub/slave/Dom/Master?



It's essential; good company/conversation is essential, too. Best of all worlds and all that.



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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/10/2008 3:44:25 AM   
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Not important at all. I need a spiritual connection with a partner, that is the most important thing for me.

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/10/2008 4:10:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: parakeet89

How important is physical attractiveness to you in your sub/slave/Dom/Master?



I like the whole package.  I need to be attracted to his face, body, scent, voice, brain, personality.  Everything.  There has to be chemistry on all levels.  
The one time where I was in a relationship where I wasn't physically attracted to the guy at all was hard for me.  I struggled to submit to him.  I just couldn't enjoy myself with him and it became a lot of work for me mentally.  I was settling.  I don't settle anymore.   

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/10/2008 4:57:24 AM   
ItalianSMistress


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ORIGINAL: parakeet89

Well, so far most people seem to think that it's important.
I dont have a Dom yet but I've been talking to someone about it. I like them on a mental/emotional level, but I recently saw their picture and I'm just not attracted to him at all. I can't imagine having sex with him and I feel horrible and shallow about it. I wasn't sure if I was just a bad person.



This happened to me once......I was NOT impressed.....I was talking to this girl for a bit, then she sent pictures, and as soon as I saw them.....let's just say its a good thing she could not see my face......
There has to be some attraction there, however, its not the only thing.  For myself, as I am gay, and dont ever have sex with any of the males I play with, looks are not as important as they are for a sex partner, but even then, you have to be able to look at them, LOL
You are not being shallow, you are being honest, and as long as your not nasty about it, I dont see why you should feel bad about that......

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/10/2008 5:08:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		Looks dont count at all in my world. Judging people on looks alone reflects the superficiality of that person. We are more than just a pretty face and perfect body. Such attributes are transient. Whats inside counts.....and lasts.

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Fast Reply:

Not important at all. I need a spiritual connection with a partner, that is the most important thing for me.


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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/10/2008 6:29:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		 i have written to guys where photos were not given out and i developed intense feelings for and when met there was really no attraction physically, but mentally it was so strong that it did not matter in the least. I think the way someone speaks and his confidence is the biggest turn on anyway. Now if you give a photo out first thing before you get to know someone and you know that there is NO attraction you may decide that you don't want to go any further which i don't see as wrong when there were no feelings yet invested by either individual. Ideally i would like to have that physical attraction but after getting to know someone it is not a deal breaker.

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/10/2008 7:52:41 AM   
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Looks dont count at all in my world. Judging people on looks alone reflects the superficiality of that person. We are more than just a pretty face and perfect body. Such attributes are transient. Whats inside counts.....and lasts.

Raven



Nobody said anything about judging people on looks ALONE. But, clearly, for most people, looks are part of the package.

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/10/2008 8:40:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was speaking in general terms but many people do. However, I take your point.

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Looks dont count at all in my world. Judging people on looks alone reflects the superficiality of that person. We are more than just a pretty face and perfect body. Such attributes are transient. Whats inside counts.....and lasts.

Raven



Nobody said anything about judging people on looks ALONE. But, clearly, for most people, looks are part of the package.


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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/10/2008 9:00:22 AM   
RainydayNE


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Status: offline 		it is also important, as many many MANY people have said that what is "attractive" is totally subjective.
the media forces certain "ideas" of attractiveness on us, but people in reality are attracted to a wide range of things. like to be honest, i didn't think my Dom would be very attracted to me. i was just looking for friends since i'd just moved and i was miserable. =p but nobody knows what's attractive to everyone.
i mean sure, there are the studies on the "average face" and how symmetry makes you attractive, blah blah blah
but in reality nobody's average, and we're all attracted to different things.
some people like 10 foot tall ballerinas, some people like short pears like me =p

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RE: Physical attractiveness - 12/10/2008 4:35:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Being attracted to someone is part of any relationship whether its a physical attraction or not

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